How to bring back your ex girlfriend

Relationships often end in a whirlwind of doubt and bitter accusation. You probably said a few things you didnt mean, and she fought back. Now that youve had a little bit of time to think about whats been lost, you know you want her back. Heres how to do that. 

Steps

Part 1: Get Your Life Back Together

1. Get your life back on track. So youve been in a relationship for some time, and maybe your girlfriend has just broken it off. Its a sad and lonely time for you right now, but focus on the things you can change about yourself before you move back on to her.

• Girls want to see self-improvement from guys. Maybe your girlfriend complained about something you did while you two were in your relationship. Maybe theres something that you know you can improve simply because it will make you a better person. Well, nows the time to strike. Cut your video game playing down to a reasonable time, if thats what she wants, or start wearing cleaner clothes when youre around her. If you focus on being a better person while apart, you can go back to her with the "evidence" that youre a new guy.

• Recover emotionally. You dont stand a chance of getting your ex back if youre not emotionally calm and controlled. Women dislike needy, clingy, desperate men - so you need to pull your own life together before attempting to draw her back into it. Like it or not, showing her that you can deal with life on your own will attract her back to you. Thats because girls like men who are self-sufficient and independent. So go out to the gym, visit the movies with friends, or start an adventure. If youre having a great time, shell want to be there with you.

• Get some new clothes. New times call for new duds. Its a subtle change in you, but the importance will be clear to her: your new outer shell will signal deeper changes underneath. Get that new shirt that youve been wanting to buy, or those new pair of jeans. Looking sharp is an important aspect of physical attraction, and if she sees you looking great in unfamiliar clothes, shell sense that theres been forward movement, if not wholesale change.

2. Get the right attitude. Getting your ex-girlfriend back starts with finding the right attitude. Girls, for the most part, want to see mature, independent guys who like to have fun and know what theyre good at. We know thats a lot to work, so start small if youre feeling overwhelmed.

• Stop being jealous. Being jealous will get you nowhere. Jealousy is associated with fear and anxiety, two unattractive traits to have. Plus, what youre non-verbally telling her is that you want to control her. No one wants to be controlled. So learn to fight your jealousy if you can, and focus on being non-threatening. Youll get more bees with honey than you will with vinegar.

• Act like nothing is wrong. Even if your guts are tumbling like clothes in a washing machine, try not to let her know. Shes probably not going to want you back if youre acting depressed, mopey, or sulky. Make sure youre laughingand genuinely trying to have a good time. You might find that youve become a happier person along the way. If you are feeling depressed, surround yourself with friends or family. Dont wait alone in a corner and just hope for her to come back to you.

• Develop a playful sense of humor. What do girls say they look for most in guys? A sense of humor and a playful attitude. These two traits are attractive because they tell other people that were youthful and not aggressive. So learn a few jokes if you can (friends are always good to try them out on) and keep the ones that work and throw away the ones that dont. Learn to make fun of yourself a little, in a confident way — not a mopey way. And, for goodness sake, be playful, especially when youre around her. Tease her lovingly, or play a small prank on a friend. Youll notice the difference in her.

Part 2: Set The Stage

1. Leave her alone. At least for a little while, give her some time to think about the relationship. If you had a great relationship, shell think about all the good things that you did for her and feel the absence of you in her life.

• Cut off all communication. Maybe you dont talk to her for a couple weeks, or perhaps a month. This is tough and it will hurt, but really its killing her more. This will also let your tempers cool down if things were heating right when you broke up.

• You need to give her space for three reasons: 1) People simply need space; if you cant give her any space, maybe thats something you can work on to show her that youve changed. 2) Shell get an opportunity to realize how good you are; not that she doesnt know this already, but she may not feel it in her bones. 3) Youll show her how independent you are on your own; the "rebel" is so attractive to women because hes totally on his own and doesnt need other people.

 2. Start talking to another girl. Dont do anything with her, but strike up a friendship. You want to raise your own stock by showing her that other girls like you and are attracted to you.

• Dont get this step confused with pursuing another girl. You want to hang out and talk, do fun things together, but not hook up. If you hook up with another girl, your chances of getting back together with your ex are greatly diminished.

• Go out with a group of girls. Show your ex that attentive girls like being around you. These girls will be your wing-women. If you can pull together a big group of popular, intelligent, smart girls, chances are your ex is going to feel more interested, maybe without even noticing it.

3. Tap your inner alpha male. The alpha male, in nature, is the male in a group of primates that has the highest rank, and gets his pick of the females. 

• Most girls are attracted to the alpha male for deep biological reasons: They believe he can provide for them better, protect them better, and give her biologically fit children. Even if you dont think that alpha males are your exs type, subtle changes might work on her: pump out your chest a bit, make an effort to work out your arms and thighs, and project strength.

Part 3: Make The Move

1. Give her an apology. Whether you broke up with her, or she broke up with you, an apology is almost always in order. An apology shows her that youre capable of swallowing your ego, and that you care enough to tell her you were wrong. If done correctly, an apology will work wonders.

• Send her flowers. Girls love flowers, for reasons men still dont know. They die after a week, and they just sit around gathering dust. Well, odds are your ex probably loves them, because they smell pretty and look good and she gets to show them to her friend and brag about how much someone cares for her. You want to be that someone.

• Send her a letter. Girls also love letters, because they take a lot of time and you have to express your feelings. Start off by saying something like: "I know this letter doesnt fix whats broken between us, and maybe it never will. But I want you to know that I care deeply about you, and I always will. That part has never changed. The part thats changed is that I realize how stupid I was to let you go."

• Tell her in person. Set a time to meet in a public place, or a place that you know shell feel comfortable in. When the time is right, say: "I know I made some mistakes during our relationship, and I wanted to take full responsibility for those. I shouldnt have done [whatever it is you did] to you, and I feel horrible now. But the biggest mistake I made was losing you. I dont expect anything from you, I just want you to know that."

2. Slowly work up to friendship. Maybe some trust was broken in your relationship, and now its time for you to start repairing it. Trust for girls is a big thing. You want to show her that she can trust you again, that you are worthy of her trust.

• Do something nice for her without expecting her to pay you back. If shes studying late for an exam, pop by with her favorite tea or coffee and let her know that you know shes going to kill it tomorrow. If one of her friends gets in an accident, stop by and pay your respects (the friend will definitely let your ex know you stopped by). If your ex mentions she wanted to see a movie, buy her two tickets for her and her friend to see, and dont butt in. Your time will come soon.

• Go out for coffee or tea together. Ride your bikes into town. Hang out at the pool. Have conversations about things both of you find funny, or like talking about. Remember to act confident, be funny, and get that playfulness out so that she can see it.

3. Tell her you still have feelings for her. Once youve apologized and become her friend again, you can finally tell her you want her back. Try to pick a romantic spot to do this, and try to tell her when its just you two. It wont hurt if youre looking your best.

• Be honest about how you feel, within reason. Dont tell her what she might have done wrong in the relationship. Instead, focus on you. Let her know that youve thought a lot about where things went wrong, and show her all the ways in which youve changed. Tell her how youve become more patient, more forgiving, more aware of your own shortcomings, and be sure to back it up with action. If you say youve become more forgiving, be able to show her that youre not as quick to point out other peoples faults.

• You can say something like: "After we broke up, I realized I was looking for love in the wrong places. I realized that you gave me exactly what I need, and its really a shame that I had to realize that after we broke up. But I realize it now, and Id be stupid not to try to get you back, because youre exactly what I need."

• Or you can say something like: "You may not like it, but most of what I do now, I do it for you. Youve made a better person. I understand what it means to care for someone now that Ive been with you. I want to share that with you again, this time better. Because I cant deny that I still have feelings for you. Id be lying to myself and lying to the world."

• Assure her that you both can fix the issues that led to your breakup. Remember why you guys broke up in the first place, so you can learn from your own mistakes. Have a plan ready, and discuss that plan with her. Its no use in getting back together if you go through the same issues all over again. If you didnt listen to her feelings enough, be sure that youre listening when you tell her you like her. If you didnt get along with her friends, make an extra effort to get along with them. Have a plan to attack whats likely to go wrong, and youll impress the socks off of her.

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How Is A Panic Attack Defined

By Greg Anderson

Panic attacks are periods of intense anxiety, fear, and physical discomfort which strike suddenly and often unexpectedly. Panic attacks are often very different from other anxiety related problems, due to their rapid onset and sometimes completely debilitating effects.

About 3 million people in the United States alone have suffered from panic attacks, and they can strike in any age group. Some people are unaware of what is happening to them, and even fear that they are losing their mind, having a heart attack, or dying.

If people are not aware of the fact they are having panic attacks, they wont normally get treated for them. This lack of knowledge is detrimental since these attacks do not stop on their own.

Panic attacks are the cause of many issues and usually get worse if left untreated. Every person may have slightly different symptoms but the most frequently seen effects of a panic attack are: Rapid onset panic, breaking into a sweat, overly rapid heartbeat, trouble breathing, becoming dizzy, becoming faint, and having pain.

Since a panic attack is such an awful experience, a lot of people end up so scared to have more attacks that they bring them on more rapidly. It is vital to get treatment quickly to put panic attacks behind you.

While some patients are given prescription medication to help control their panic attacks, the medications in this group have some very unpleasant side effects of their own, including constant drowsiness, total disorientation, and exhaustion. It is often said that with these medications, the cure is nearly as bad as the disease! Fortunately, there is effective help available for panic attacks that can even eliminate them completely.

Panic attacks are best treated with a method that uses advanced psychological knowledge of brain function. Panic Away is one of the programs that puts an end to panic attacks by first taking away the constant fear of reoccurring attacks. The techniques teach you to retrain the way your brain reacts and it is possible to put into effect right away.

You will not be able to put an end to your panic attacks unless you get treatment. It is important to find a program that will give you a true cure, so that you can move forward with confidence. - 30535

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People who endure anxiety attacks say that they would take what ever action is needed to avoid having attacks. The difficulty is that they simply dont know what to do. Panic attacks may not cause significant long term physical damage, but the emotional damage can be severe. Learn more about the steps you can take to prevent panic attacks.

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How to ruin your ex girlfriends life

A Massachusetts man was sentenced to seven years in prison after spending the better part of the past year tormenting his ex-girlfriend online, according to a WLJA report.

Boston native Bruce Stimon, 47, met Arlington, Va., resident Soraida Hicks on an airplane in 2011 and they began dating long distance shortly thereafter. Stimon showed Hicks with gifts during that time, including a new iPhone, which he put on his own family plan—a move that would allow him to access information belonging to her friends and contacts.

Then he used that contact information to tell Hicks friends that shed contracted an STD.


Hicks broke up with Stimon shortly after finding out about his antics, but the tormenting continued. Before long, Hicks started receiving phone calls from adult men in northern Virginia who were looking for an escort. She looked online and found that her name and face had started to show up on escort sites around the Web.
Whats more, Stimon had filled out some of her profiles with the phone numbers of her employer and direct supervisor. She was fired from her bank job just a few days before her daughters Twitter followers were made privy to a video of Hicks and Stimon having sex.

"It was devastating," Hicks daughter told WJLA. "I would go into the bathroom stall and just cry and would come back to class and act like everything was okay."

But it wasnt okay, and the abuse didnt stop. Stimon turned to porn sites to advertise Hicks and her daughter as a "mother and daughter" sex package. Eager readers started showing up at their doorstep a few days later.

Stimons scheming went on for months before police could catch him. It took his venturing from Boston down to the Hicks Arlington neighborhood in an effort to slash his ex-girlfriend’s tires to get the man arrested.

Hicks, whos been active in her efforts to get her name removed from the porn sites, reports that shes only had limited success.

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Dont Read This Spend Your Time Better

Always bite off more than you can chew, and then just spit out the parts you don’t like.

Hey kids! Today I want to talk to you about “priorities”. You see, in order to have the most constructive lifestyle possible, we must all learn the art of time management, and the very root of this art revolves around the skill of prioritising. That is (simply put), doing what is most important first, and then brutally cutting the fat off the process in order to streamline our focus and produce a sharp object to stab self-inflicted deadlines in the eye with.

I am forever juggling more projects than I can, and sometimes these goals tend to fall on top of me, suffocating my enthusiasm, murdering my potential. This kind of analogy works even better when considering I was in South Africa for just under three weeks in February, watching my little sister getting married and chilling with my family and having sex with people I’ve never had sex with before and whatnot. Don’t get me wrong, it was magical and made my life in London appear quite tedious, but more related to this, it carved out a huge hole in my usually reliable routine.

Once resurfacing my head above water and breathing once more, I had to prioritise. The redesign of Juice Nothing, for example, was the first to go. As much as Im excited about the project, I could not justify allocating precious time to fixing something which was not quite broken. More on topic, the next easy casualty was these very news items. The reasons are obvious: nobody reads them, they take too long to write, and they are essentially stupid blabberings which serve very little purpose other than to keep a record of my own progress, a reference point so I can look back and pat myself on the head and rationalise another beer for lunch.

Luckily (and as the rest of this piece will detail), I managed to get back onto my feet relatively quickly and have finally caught up, now 100% on target for my quota, even if no one would notice besides me. Which is why after quite some time, here I am to tell you what has been going on in Juice World, and have much more news than usual. What a wonderful thing! Read it or die:


JUICE NOTHING
Since the last news update, I have released five full articles, all of which I feel were above average and worthy of your love. As follows:

Dear 2013
Jesus, this one feels like a million years old already, has it really been that long? Anyway, this was the fifth of my on-going end of year summary articles. As painful as ever to write, I do feel they serve a purpose: a fantastic way for anyone to look back on the year previous whilst slipping unimportant details about my own life in amongst the facts in order to con people into caring about me. I hate the imagery, but in general it was another substantial effort, proving I am getting quite good at executing the idea by now.

The 15 Greatest Fuck Yous In Music
The rough idea for this one had been knocking at my door for about a year or so, hence why it was quite nice to finally let it in. The only unusual take on this piece was that I hardly researched for it at all, rather relying on musical conflicts which already resided in my memory. So I guess its special in that way, whilst completely forgetting many much superior entries, Im sure. People enjoyed it regardless.

How To Heal Heartbreak In 20 Steps
And then this one came out swinging like the lost hurt demon it was, crushing the popularity of any article released the whole of last year, snapping at 5,000 hits and still fighting. I feel confident that this will be the undefeated “article of the year” for 2014, with many many people already showering me with thanks, and its not hard to see why. Its because its a topic you have to be in a very unique place to write. Its because I put (what was left of my) heart and soul into its execution. It’s because I was there. I felt those thing. And I fixed it.

The 10 Coolest Things The Beatles Ever Did
Whilst in South Africa, a very quick conversation with some friends took place one evening. It was about The Beatles, obviously, and I came to remember what a very special group they were, and not even in the obvious ways. In the ways which most people arent aware of, little achievements that put them on the map in angles so unique that it only further cemented their position in history. A month or so later, this piece was born, which was a refreshing process rather than the years upon years I usually spend picking away at most my other writings. And with such a popular topic, its no wonder that it too has racked up thousands of reads, and the pictures were pretty good too.

The 20 Greatest Songs Of All Time
I just launched this one right now, and am quite stoked with it. I eagerly look forward to people telling me how much they hate it in the near future, because opinions are like assholes, and the internet is full of both those things.

As is the nature of my unfair self expectations, I already know every piece which will be written this year except for one. I am not going to give much away, but I will say the next three probably wont be music related, and there may also be a hint somewhere in here:


THE GOAT’S NEST
As predicted in the last news item, I managed to write a short story on the plane ride to South Africa. There was only one problem: it was uber lame. And so I threw those rough notes aside, and rewrote it without even looking at the original draft, which was better, but still not perfect. It needs some serious love and attention, and I am hoping to do that right now, my goal to shit it out within the next month or so. As I may have mentioned, it’s kind of a prequel to The Johnson Line, without actually being that whatsoever.


THIS IS YOUR BRAIN ON DRUGS
Related to the previous entry, is my debut novel. If you look at it one way, I am truly on the last stretch, putting the final touches on the final version, most of the book already neatly formatted and looking all professional like. However, if you look at it another way, there are still a stupid amount of other bits that need to be sorted out, so God knows when it will be released. I’m thinking July? August? September?? But I promise, this is moving forward with bloodthirsty vigour, and I adore every fucking second of it.


ANOTHER THING
I dont know why I love doing this, but I do. Here is confirmation that there is another little thing in the works which is very exciting and newsworthy, and yet I am going to tell you absolutely nothing about it. However, I will give it the code name Fox Tail for now as a reference point, but I honestly dont think it should take crazy long for more info to leak from me. Its a fictional thing. Its a collaborative thing. Its a rad thing.


COMING DOWN HAPPY
In January, the final piece of the The Black EP puzzle was released, namely Oh My God, Amen. It’s my favourite CDH song so far, and a few other people agreed, probably because it was less about perversion and child abuse, more about nintendo and surreal happiness. I am learning about target markets.
Anyways, with this release we came to the end of the second phase of three, and the gap between this and the next will be muuuuuch longer. I need it! Im dying! Instead, I will be focusing on a brand new set of songs with a whole new approach, and this is already well underway. I’m not going to give too much away, except that they will feature real instruments! Look at what I gone and done:

Expect evidence soon. Like, real soon. Sooner than you think. But while you wait, why not listen to all my songs in a row with this Spotify exclusive compilation, The Grey Lp.


THE FUNPOWDER PLOT
Somehow, The Plot managed to spit out two videos this year already, equalling 2013’s efforts, which is a relief. They also had nothing to with me, which is also a relief. A little something like this:

Putin Wins Olympic Gold
This was Kris’ 22 second baby, attacking Putin’s expenditures on the Olympics whilst ignoring the country’s terrible drug problem. At least he could fund the addict’s habits a bit, right? I’m sure that’s what Kris meant. Simple yet effective, I am a fan.

Shura - Touch
Ammr directed this music video for Shura, and by God, it’s incredible. Incredible. One of the best music videos I’ve seen in years, in fact, and I beam with pride that my boy had so much to with it. Proof is in the pudding, as it’s already racked up to 182,500 views (and counting), more than any other FPP creation to date, getting write ups all over the internets. I think it’s the best thing ”we’ve” ever done, so it deserves every second of the attention.


Shew, I think that’s everything? I truly rushed this motherfucker, because, you know, priorities. Did I mention I am a model now?

Its quite late in the year to be saying stuff like this, but my motto for 2014 is as follows: “No more deadlines, much more lifelines”. Uhm, it needs work, but in summary, it means I will no longer be placing unnecessary pressure on my own creative missions, opting to instead spend more time with people I like and dealing out my time to them. Because I’ve been working my tits off the last few years to very little reward, and I reckon there is more to life than this.

That said, these plans tend to make themselves, and I am bound to have another panic attack any day now. Hope you enjoy it!

Jared


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Anxiety Panic Attack Symptom When Is Anxiety Abnormal

By Sue Johnson

We all will feel anxious at one time or another. Many peoples worst fear is public speaking. Others may become anxious if they have to drive in heavy traffic. Were all different.

Some degree of anxiety is an appropriate response in many situations. In fact, some degree of anxiety can even help us perform better if we channel its energy properly. As long as we are able to perform at a high level, we are probably OK.

As with anything else, too much becomes the problem. Too much anxiety results in severe anxiety panic attack symptoms. At this point they interfere with our ability to live life normally and something needs to be done. If the person experiencing the episodes chooses to do nothing their life as likely to spiral out of control.

There are a few ways to distinguish abnormal anxiety from an appropriate response. We generally have an idea of the seriousness of the situation and can gauge whether our response is in the same ballpark. Another way to judge is to look at the results. For example, if were anxious about test that anxiety leads us to put in a few extra hours studying then its helpful. On the other hand, if the anxiety has is so worried we feel overwhelmed and hopeless, it has become a problem.

Anxiety panic symptoms happen on the physical side as well. A severe anxiety attack triggers the fight or flight response leading to an outpouring of adrenaline. The adrenaline causes a rapid, pounding pulse and many other uncomfortable symptoms.

Considering that anxiety panic episodes affect both the physical and emotional state, its not surprising that people find them so distressing. Anyone would naturally want relief from that distress. Fortunately, in todays world people suffering from these attacks have many treatment options available - 30535

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its important to know that virtually everyone can overcome their anxiety panic attack symptoms. There are lots of good resources available today one is a site called Panic Attack Release. You may want to begin with their page Anxiety Panic Symptom

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Praying to get your ex back Pray to God for getting back together

We have a new video! It features our nine prayers for getting back an ex, set to music.

You can watch it on our main site, HelpGettingBackTogether.com.

Here is a sample of one of the prayers:

O God, almighty and all-knowing,
help me in my time of need.
Open my eyes to behold
the true heart of the one I love,
so that I may understand
what is required of me
to win back the affection and intimacy
we used to share.

Amen.

You can also watch it offsite at YouTube.com.

Comment and let us know what you think!
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The Power Of Knowing About Your Past Life

By Susan M Mann

The idea of reincarnation; that you had a past life, or several - is an ancient one, and one that is found on every corner of the earth: Japanese, Australian aborigines, Africans, modern Wiccans and many other New Age religions, all believe that you have past lives, and that your past lives influence who and what you are today.

What you are now and who you believed you are now is an influence of your past life including your health, your mental well being, and your social interactions are all influenced by your past life. This is why it is important to know yourself, who you are and what you are in the past, to be able to make yourself better and stronger in this current life.

How do you know if you have a past life? You may never know, however, in many cases disturbing memories or dreams that do not belong to you may visit you while you are awake. Reincarnation is a very popular belief among many individuals. However, when doing the math, it makes a great deal of sense that there are some new souls. Other indications include:

* When you saw or learned about a particular culture or arts, you already had a deep connection or attraction to that thing. Based on reincarnation idea, this may be because you were from that region or from that era. To be fully sure of this, you may want to learn some more culture or arts and discover your reactions and the effect it gives you; it may be linked to your origin in your past life.

* Unusually strong emotions concerning a historical incident, for example, may cause you to become misty eyed, such as looking at Washington Crossing the Delaware but not at any other revolutionary art, may indicate that you were involved in such a past life incident.

* Allergies or irrational fears that are not triggered by a childhood incident may be an indicator. There are particular physical and psychological issues may indicate a past life experience.

This is by no means an exhaustive list, and just the fact that you have one of these indicators does not mean you are remembering a past life. Look for patterns in your life, ranges of things that attract you for no good reason, and you may start to home in on similarities that will help you piece together an idea of what your past life or lives may have been.

Self-hypnosis can help you to access the past life you once had. If you can not do it, ask for somebody to help you through hypnosis. Most of the therapists who do past life regression are specialists as well in helping people know their past life. They usually do it by using a form of deep hypnotic procedure.

When you made decision regarding this, go for the process that gives you a deep relaxation method. This is the first technique that you should get before the therapist proceed to the past life regression.

There is nothing significant to worry over in the terms of safety, since what should happen is that you are able to experience a past life just as vividly as if you were actually going back in time. It may not be as intense as described here; however, you should be able to experience feelings and shadow of your past life.

Pleasant memories trigger pleasant feeling; while past life memories that are bad generally trigger the same type of feelings, such as having a bad dream. You wake up feeling uncomfortable, similar to having a nightmare. Keep in mind, however that if there are any bad memories, they are an essential aspect of the past life regression experience.

What is important is remembering a past life. Once you remember, you are able to move on in this life. Problems occur when there is subconscious suppression of these memories. Acknowledging and accepting what happened in the past can aid you, while experiencing you present life with an entirely different point of view.

The philosophy of Karma says that when we are good examples in one life, while being committed to positive and kindly acts offer us good karma. As a result, for good, we receive good vibrations in our future lives, unless we become bad examples. If this happen, then our personal Karma changes and negative vibrations follow us throughout our future lives, until we suffer from them and then commit to becoming a good example in our own lifetime.

Not all people believe this idea because they thought that if someone was bad in the past life, there is no reason for him to suffer from the bad karma that might be due him in his past life. But the truth is, every one is entitled to have a new life ahead and every life is a chance to have a better life by choosing to do right in the current life. - 30535

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Susan M Mann is a writer for the http://www.past-lives-regression.com website. Discover the amazing experience of past life regression and you can try it yourself when you get thirty Free past life Binaural and hypnosis mp3 Audios and Videos when you visit here.

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Balance Your Chakras For a Much Healthier Life

By Jai Dahalli

A common belief says that most things perform the best when they are provided a well balanced condition, excess or scarce of any factor leads to undesirable conditions and that holds true for the centers of energy in our body as well. Also we need to understand that other than the body we also possess a soul which is not seen but is an important element in our existence.

Only when these inner and outer selves of a person are able to co-ordinate and maintain a healthy interaction, the person can perform tasks effectively. Even the survival of the human requires adequate attention to both of these, while food and water provide the required energy to our body, the various chakras in our body are responsible for the healthy existence of the soul and for that the correct chakra balance is crucial.

Once you have performed the exercise of chakra cleansing it is crucial that you follow it up with the act of balancing your chakras. During the cleaning process you let off all the negative energy in your body and try to get in the positive energy which supposedly is generated by the actions of the planets and the heavenly bodies.

Chakra balance is obtained by ensuring that the energy exchange takes place for each chakra so that not only the individual chakra is balanced but an overall chakra balance can be seen for the human being, which would mean that all your body parts are in the best of conditions and you are in great health.

Since each of the chakras is said to affect an important organ in our body it is important to ensure that all of them are well balanced as living with even a little problem in important organs would be discomforting.

Water consumption and usage for various purposes plays a significant role in the determination of the chakra balance of the body and hence the fluid should be an important part of your day to day activities and diet.

As soothing as the colors are for our eyes, certain colors can also be soothing to the chakras. They play a definitive role in helping maintain the chakra balance and their introduction into your life can drive away problems caused by the particular chakra with which the color is associated.

For years people have been highlighting the advantages of meditation, it not only gives you peace of mind but also provides a channel for your spiritual self to reinvent itself. As important is sleep for the freshness of the outer body, equally important is meditation for your inner self.

Every human experiences the energy exchange with the heavenly bodies while in sleep as the body tends to go into a phase of partial meditation, this is very important cosmic energy that is used to revive the chakra balance.

It is very important that along with all activities to maintain chakra balance, an individual should also include adequate amount of exercising in his/her habits, this not only beneficial for the body parts but it also helps the re arrangement of the chakras physically. The duration of the exercise need not be long but then it should be strictly followed.

Your food intake also has a role to play in the maintenance of your chakra balance, it can happen so that inapt food habits can lead to disorders and also many problems can be caused. It is better to have small meals at intervals rather than eating too much at a time.

So it can be said without a doubt that chakra balance has tremendous significance in the smooth performance of our daily activities and hence ensure that your act of balancing the chakras is in place! - 30535

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How to handle a crazy ex girlfriend

Victor the Cat, Blisstree’s resident relationship columnist is back to help you with your relationship dramas and dilemmas in 2011, starting with this one about a crazy ex who can’t seem to let go of her ex-boyfriend, even when he’s your current beau.

Hello Victor the Cat:

I’ve got a frustrating dilemma. My boyfriend and I have been together for one blissful year. I have — literally — no complaints and plenty of compliments about our relationship.

He and his previous girlfriend broke up about 1 1/2 years before we met. Theirs was a complicated relationship for about four years. In hindsight, my boyfriend feels that they were never really that well matched, and is very glad they broke up, although it was very painful for him when it happened.

About a month after he and I started dating, his ex started calling him and telling him she wanted him back, that she never imagined they wouldn’t end up being together forever. He was upfront with me about it, and at the time I told him if he needed a break from us to wrap up loose ends with his ex that I would understand. He said “No, it’s definitely over with her, I love you, etc etc.” And that was that.

But that wasn’t that. Since then she has contacted him several more times to tell him she misses him, and started asking him for money she says he owes her, at times becoming quite manipulative and mean. The last time she did this he asked her to not contact him ever again. But on New Year’s Eve he received a text: “Happy New Year’s – I’ll always love you,” which he promptly told me about and deleted.

Here’s my real dilemma: I’m not worried about my boyfriend at all.  If we were any more committed to each other, we’d need to be surgically attached (and trust me, it’s cute not creepy). But I find that I am now becoming obsessed with his ex – wanting to tell her off, wanting to make her stop, wanting to send her articles on how to get over a broken heart so she can stop being so disrespectful and maybe finally leave us alone! Why do I feel so strongly about this? And how can I manage my emotions better?

Thanks, my furry guru,

The Lucky One

Dear Lucky One:

My first thought is that you are entirely within your rights to be totally ticked off by the behavior of your boyfriend’s ex. You say they were together for four years and broke up 1 1/2 years before you and he met. So, by my calculations (and the undisputed relationship rule that says it should take you half the time you dated someone to actually get over them), miss crazy pants should’ve been nearly over her ex by the time you and he started seeing each other.

Clearly, this nut-job has serious boundary issues (as well as other issues relating to why she cannot seem to move forward and beyond her former relationship). Not only is she bothering your boyfriend with unwanted advances, she’s also negatively interfering with your relationship, which she obviously has no right to do. She is not welcome, and she knows it. But her irritating texts and phone calls are the only way she can attempt to exert some control, which is what she wants to do. (Mental note: She also has control issues.)

Now, I completely understand the desire to tell her off, make her stop, and send her links to articles about pathetic ex-girlfriends. But you must, I repeat, must resist the desire to do so! Why? Because that’s exactly what she wants you to do. She thrives on generating any kind of attention, good or bad (from your boyfriend, you, anyone else), so if you give her the satisfaction of any kind of response, then the terrorists have won. (In this case, the terrorists are your boyfriend’s ex.) I know this is tough advice to follow, because you really feel like you’d be teaching her an important and necessary life lesson, but trust me, you wouldn’t be. People like her don’t learn from rational and reasonable methods. In fact, people like her often don’t learn at all. So don’t provoke her, pity her.

Ignoring her will send a much, much stronger message than any telling off ever could. In the meantime, concentrate on all the positive aspects of your delightful relationship with your boyfriend. Eventually, his ex will get bored and move on (and will likely start bugging some other poor soul).

My second thought is that your story would make a great screenplay. At first, the audience thinks the guy is going to cheat with his ex. He doesn’t. Then they think the crazy ex is going to kill the boyfriend or new girlfriend. She doesn’t. Turns out, the nice, normal new girlfriend is the one who goes all “Single White Female” on the ex. At the very least, you should write this up as a screenplay treatment and pitch it to a few Hollywood studios. Not kidding. That’ll show your boyfriend’s ex!
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How to patch up with your ex girlfriend

Breakups are very painful experience that everybody needs to face once in their relationship. Things are not always remain same, sometime there is love romance and sometime there is fighting and arguments. When argument and fighting reached at sky level then breakup occurs from nowhere. if you’re having breakup with your boyfriend especially if your ex boyfriend is your first love and you spend most of your time with him then it is really shattering experience for you. However, patch up with your boyfriend is possible if you try to patch with your boyfriend. There are some tips for patching up with your boyfriend. Before following these tips I like to advice you to avoid doing mistakes that most people do. Read about these mistakes from getexbackguru.net .
 

• Start communicating with him:

   

If you want to win him back then you need to start communicating with her. Going for no-contact with him is not the good idea especially if he is not dating with any other girlfriend. There are many relationships that break because of less communication. Boys and girls have their own life, their need to make their career by themselves but spending some time and sharing happiness with your boyfriend make him feel you respecting him. Many girls think boys only want sex which is not true because boy need his girlfriend to respect him, to love him and to admire him.

• Give some time to him:

Don’t rush to get him back allow him to rethink about you and your both relationship. Surely, you both spend some romantic moments together and you both make future plan for your relationship. Let these romantic feelings start coming again in your ex boyfriend mind then do your efforts to patch with him. I know it is really difficult to spend days without the one you love most in your life, take some time in removing the misunderstandings that break your relationship with him.

• Wait for right time:

   

If you want to get your boyfriend back in your life then you need to wait for right time to start contacting your ex again. Many time boys first put their efforts to patch up things with their girlfriend. Allow some time and space to your ex. If you start sending bulk text message then your ex boyfriend never consider you again for his girlfriend. It is really difficult for your ex boyfriend to forget all romantic moment you both spend together. But if you keep on sending bulk text message then it puts negative feeling about you and your ex boyfriend starts avoiding you. Don’t try to make your ex boyfriend jealous by dating with new boyfriend it will never helps you.

• Don’t avoid him:

If you and your ex boyfriend meet somewhere accidentally, don’t try to avoid him. Instead, try to share smile with him and if he starts talking with you then replay to him but remember try to keep your meeting short with him. Don’t start begging to get back if he is interested but he surely start patching up things with you. Don’t try to blame him for all the misunderstandings that take place previously in your relationship. Forget and forgive all mistakes that he made in the past.

These are 4 tips about how to get your ex back that will help you in getting your ex boyfriend back. The most important tool to get your ex boyfriend back is patience. Don’t rush to get ex boyfriend back, wait for right time and when your boyfriend contact you for meeting, try to patch up your breakup from your side and your boyfriend will follow your guidance.

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Series Communicating with your ex Part 1

Ive been thinking lately about how people communicate with their exes.

For the most part, people dont. Exceptions are when they work together, have classes together, go to church together, etc.

Another exception is when one of the partners wants to get back together. Usually, if someone wants to get an ex back, there will be communication. In fact, there may be all too much communication.

The last exception arises when a couple has children. Here is an article I found, about communicating in that situation. -- Kit.

Communicating With Your Ex - Letting Go of the Last Word

By Mary Wollard

You probably all have someone in your family who has to have the last word in any discussion or argument. Maybe your whole family is like this, making family get-togethers challenging at best. In the case of email, this can lead to back-and-forth messages that belabor a subject way longer than necessary, with each new message escalating the conflict higher and higher.

If you are someone who needs to have the last word and your communications with your ex are difficult, be aware that this is only adding to the conflict. It will take great restraint on your part to break the pattern. After all, it took a long time to cultivate the need to have the last word and it will take a long time to feel comfortable not having the last word. The only way to break the cycle is to just resist the urge to say one more thing.

Start with a conversation that you feel neutral about, and just try not responding to the last thing the other person said. As you become more comfortable with this in relatively unimportant conversations, then you can move on to practicing in areas that are more important. Work slowly, but work at it constantly. It will be hard work because this is a very hard habit to break, but the rewards will be great.

If it is the other parent who needs the last word, know that it is not a sign of weakness on your part to let him or her have it. Know that this communication pattern in the other person started way before you ever came into the picture and likely affects every relationship they have. But you can still take responsibility for your part in these never-ending discussions.

Even if the other person hasnt yet done the work necessary to end this communication merry-go-round, you can. If you follow the steps above, the cycle will stop. Start with a subject that is not highly charged, and just let the conversation go when you have said what you have to say.

The important thing is to make the decision to break this communication cycle. If you do, I guarantee you will feel more powerful in the relationship, not less powerful.

© 2009, Mary Wollard, J.D., Family Solutions Center, LLC

Mary A. Wollard, JD, is an attorney, mediator, and arbitrator with over 20 years experience in solving the legal issues of divorce, parenting (custody), marital property and support. In addition to helping families through mediation and arbitration, Ms. Wollard provides parenting coordination and decision-making services to families when on-going conflict prevents them from fully implementing their parenting plan after divorce. Visit http://www.cofamilysolutions.com/downloads.htm for free downloadable worksheets you can use to organize your familys transition.

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Raising Capital for Your Company Beware of the Hard Sell Consulting Firm

By James Scott

Private Placement Memorandum authoring and the process of taking ones company public are services that require extensive experience and the ability to look at a deal objectively and peripherally to evaluate all the angles to enhance the ability of the client to achieve funding in a timely manner.

Many times, when Im hired to structure a company before funding, they will be under the impression that my evaluation is a mere formality and they are ready to go. Often Im the bearer of bad news when I have to break it to the client that their company has more holes than Swiss cheese and 30 to 60 days away from starting the fund raising process.

They will often get a second and then third opinion and usually run into the same thing before they eventually find their way back to our firm. As they call around to consulting firms they perpetually experience the hard sell by firms who need the business because they lack the rewards and referrals that come with cultivating each client relationship because they take on and spit out deals so fast they hardly remember their clients name during the transaction.

This mentality dominates the larger firms because of their gargantuan overhead while the boutique firms can take a more personal approach because they have a steady flow of business and referrals because they are not stressed about bringing in the next big deal so they can meet payroll and keep their lights on. The smaller companies that focus on turnaround consulting, private placement memorandum authoring, top tier business plan writing and taking companies public usually take a one on one approach to the consulting process and will rarely pressure clients to sign on because their phone is ringing off the hook with previous clients who want to hire them for the next stage in the evolution of their companys growth.

This business is all about relationships. Ditch the consultant that applies the high pressure sales tactics and seek out the smaller, more personalized groups that dont need your business but will cultivate and value it. - 30535

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Rebound Relationships How To Improve The Chances Of Success

People often say rebound relationships don’t work. I don’t agree as there are plenty of happy couples out there who met shortly after breaking up with someone else.

So what defines a rebound relationship? Usually it is where someone starts going out with another person very soon after leaving or being left by a former lover. If you have met somebody who seems to tick all the boxes you were looking for in a partner, I certainly would not dump them.  Yes, they could dump you, but so could anyone new that you meet; so why worry about it. You could just as easily be the person they have been looking for.

Relationships break down for all sorts of reasons. It is actually more common for two people to grow apart rather than separate due to an affair or similar reason. If your current partner split from his/her ex, they did it for a reason. If they had been together for a long time, they probably grew apart. Or they may have realised that once the initial attraction had worn off, they were not compatible enough to sustain a long term relationship.

If your new lover has just recently rejoined the single scene, you do need to be a little careful. But you would proceed slowly when dating any new person; wouldn’t you?  Try to find out why they split with their partner, but for heaven’s sake, don’t make them feel like they are being interrogated. Men in particular are very slow to speak about their feelings. If he doesn’t want to talk about it, do not jump to the conclusion that he doesn’t like you or find you attractive. 

I would also advise against asking to see a picture of the former partner. You do not want to start comparing yourself to them and it is difficult not to do this when you know what they look like. If you are part of the same social circle, it could be even harder not to draw comparisons. If you don’t do it yourself, you may find some of your mutual friends do. Try to discourage/ignore these conversations as they are unhelpful. Nobody knows what  happened between a couple other than those two people.
 
If you are the one on the rebound you need to be sure of your motivation for getting involved. Are you looking for a short fling or a long term love affair?  Whatever you do, don’t get involved with another man to make your ex jealous or for revenge. It rarely works and it isn’t fair to play with the new persons emotions.
You may find, just like I did, that your rebound relationship never ends and in fact turns into the love affair of the century. We all need some more fun in our life so try to enjoy yourself with your new partner and see where it leads.  Whoever says you should avoid rebound relationships is missing out on a whole lot of fun.
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Getting your ex to forgive you

You can get your ex to forgive you, but when you ask your ex might not grant you forgiveness or a 2nd chance right away.

It happens: You commit some terrible offense against your partner and it results in an emotional fight and a huge breakup.

Truth is, people make mistakes within their relationships all the time. Its normal. And people forgive each other too, but sometimes that takes a while. You can get your second chance but your partner might not be able to give it to you right away.

First, you need to back away from the situation. Allow some time to pass... and devote a little of that time to learning how to ask for forgiveness. Your ex might take you back if you are convincing enough about being sorry and wanting your relationship to be saved.

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How to pick up an ex girlfriend

One of the most painful things a man can experience in his lifetime is breaking up with a cherished girlfriend. Whether you saw it coming or not isn’t really important right now. Your heart is aching and you’re experiencing the feeling of intense loneliness without her by your side. This situation is severely impacting your happiness right now.

You’re probably sitting there trying your best to think of ways to get your ex girlfriend to come back to you. I’m sure your first instinct is to go on over to her house and try to reason with her so she’ll take you back.

Before you do something you’ll regret later, take a moment to consider some things first:

1) Are you focusing mostly on the breakup and not what caused the breakup?

Your gut is telling you to do something that will end this painful situation quick. I can see why you’d feel that way. Nobody likes feeling heartache. Your natural tendency is to focus on the physical separation between you two. Take a moment, though, to think about all the things that may have led to you two splitting up.

Relationships don’t fall apart for no reason.

What kind of problems were you having before things got to this point?

What did you argue about the most?

When did things turn from good to bad?

Answering these questions honestly will help you figure out what went wrong and how you might be able to improve those things and get back on track.

2) Realize that this is an opportunity for you to improve your life

Your mind is a powerful thing and you can control how you handle your current situation. Instead of depression and anxiety, choose to be empowered and enlightened. Everyone has something about themselves they can work on. Your broken heart can not only heal, but you can become a generally happier person if you choose to be that way.

Start paying attention to the way you look and feel everyday. If you can stand to lose a few pounds, then now is the time to focus on getting in shape. If you know you need to stop smoking or drinking too much, then now is a good time to work on these issues. If you want to expand your knowledge, then take a class or go to the library and borrow books on interesting topics.

Feed your mind and body with good things and you’ll be amazed at the response you get from your ex love.

3) Create a getting back with your girlfriend plan

There is no way you’re going to be able to force your way back into your girlfriend’s life by acting angry, phony, insincere, too needy or playing childish games. No, you need a real strategy for winning her back.

This is a woman that means a lot to you so you’re going to need a plan of action that will be tailored to getting her to see that you’re the only one who can give her all the love and attention she needs.

To do this, you’re going to have to be brutally honest with yourself about your strengths and weaknesses.

What do you have to offer her? What do you bring to the table? What is she really seeking in a lifetime partner? Your plan must take all of this into consideration in order for you to reach your goal.
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How to know if your ex girlfriend wants you back

Have you recently broken up with your girlfriend and trying to win her back? Do you still find it difficult accepting that she is gone? Is it still difficult for you believing that this was someone who not too long ago, couldn’t just live without you but today seems doesn’t even give a hoot about your existence? Are you contemplating trying to win her back or lacking the courage and or knowledge to get her back?

Fortunately, you should realize that the chances of your getting her back are alive and well. That is, if she is in any way displaying any of the following signs which generally indicate that she still have an interest in getting back together with you. All you need to do is to be tactful in how you handle the situation as you attempt winning her back for good.

1. Constantly tries to keep in touch

Is she always calling you, texting or emailing you to check on how you are doing? While at the surface it might seem normal for her to want know how you are doing, you should be able to tell when she wants to keep you in her daily life. If she was really over you, she wouldn’t be that bothered.

Things are this point can get a little tricky, because if you allow the situation to persist, you may from being a temporary ex boyfriend become her permanent friend, a situation you really don’t want to get into. So while not ignoring her altogether which you really can’t afford to do, you should keep a healthy distance.

2. Becomes jealous at the mention of other girls

It is a good sign of her lingering interest in you if your ex girlfriend reacts to certain things you do or say. Of particular interest here is she often gets jealous whenever you unintentionally talk about other girls. The later indicates that she is not fully ready to let go of you yet even when she apparently appears not wanting to take you back. She still believes that you “belong” to her to a certain degree.

As a caution, try and appreciate the fact that she still has feelings for you which present an opportunity for you to get back into her life, rather than abusing the privilege and purposely trying to get her to become jealous. Remember that she still has the upper hand and that you are not yet emotional strong enough to start playing mind games with her.

3. Tries to make you feel jealous

As if her getting jealous is not enough, a sure sign that you are well on target to getting her back will be if see seem to be trying to make you feel jealous by equally mentioning other guys. However, most guys at this stage might wrongly interpret this as a sign that she might have moved on.

You need to really study her body language at this stage more so if she has shown any previous sign of jealousy as aforementioned. You must remain calm and calculated, as this will make her to try harder in getting you to react thus disarming her.

4. Excessive flirting and unbecoming conduct

This is a simple sign that there is still some element of attraction between you and her. While these signs might seem like an open invitation to get back into the relationship, it is however better to give her some space.

While the attraction still appears to be there it is not enough to keep her, let her come to her own conclusion on your ability to give her what she wants. If you jump in too early, you risk blowing it all away.

5. Keeps “Loose Ends”

How much of her stuffs are still in your apartment? Why does she keep dropping by every now and then to pick up one thing or the other? Simple, by leaving some of her stuff in your place, she has an open invitation to come to your place on a regular basis. Your ex girlfriend is simply not ready to let go of you yet.
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Is it easier to get your girlfriend back than to find someone new

Here is an excerpt from a new article:

I can tell that being in a relationship was a large source of Davids self-esteem. Secretly, he was proud of being a "regular guy" who had a girlfriend. It made him feel like a man.

Now, he thinks his male friends see him as a failure for getting dumped. He feels embarrassed about it.

He wants to get back the security and status of being in a relationship — but to him, getting back a woman he has already been intimate with seems a whole lot easier than trying to meet new women, and get close to one of them.

Read the full text here, about why for some guys, getting a girlfriend back is the easier option: Is it easier to get your girlfriend back than to find someone new?
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How to quickly get your ex girlfriend back

When reality sets in, and relationships end, you are girl may still have lingering questions if its really the end between the two of you.  Sometimes guys just cannot admit to themselves that their girlfriend dumped them and think that its never working out.  Well at least that was how I felt before.  Amidst all the confusion, hurt pride and longing, I only have one think in mind, "I want to get my ex girlfriend back fast and for good".

If you are like me, I dont give up just easily.  So, I gathered up whats left of my pride and laid out my plan to win back her heart and mind.  I told myself I am going to get back that kiss that once was mine.  I will take nothing less. 

In order to get back together with your ex girlfriend, there are numerous steps to take. Here are some of the tips that you should keep in mind when working through this process.

1. There is always a second chance for everyone, so its not impossible for you to get back together with your ex girlfriend. But first, you should ask yourself some questions Do you still love her? Do you really want her back? Why? Are you trying to get her back because you dont want to be alone, or you dont believe you should have been dumped? If you are looking to get back with your ex for reasons other than love, you may be playing a dangerous game that would be better off avoided.
2. Do not appear desperate or needy to your girlfriend if your priority is "how can I get back together with my ex girlfriend?" Although you may feel desperate, and you may really want her back, you absolutely need to control your emotions, keeping them to yourself. If you cannot help them, then it may be wise to talk to your friends or family so you can cry your heart out where she cannot see. Do not beg or cry in front of your girlfriend, however, and absolutely do not stalk her. 
3. Learn how to control your feelings, forgetting about self pity and instead working on the positive aspects of working things through with your ex. If you appear too needy, or if you come off as too desperate, she may end up avoiding you even more.
4. Keep the communication lines with your ex open. She may have ended the relationship, but you just need to make her feel like communication lines are open and that you want to be civil. You do not have to be the one initiating the conversation, but you should be willing to say hello and have a conversation occasionally with her, keeping in touch casually. 
5. Above all else, analyze what went awry with the relationship. There must have been a problem that led to the end of the relationship, so find out what the problem was if you want to get back together with your ex. Find out what caused the arguments, of which of her needs werent being met, and work on rectifying those issues.

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Getting your babys father back

Want to bring your babys daddy back into your life?

Breaking up with a guy and facing the pain is hard enough when it is just between you and him, but when you have a child together, it can be extremely painful. But if you decide that you want your babys father back, then having the bond through your child can actually benefit you. Following are some tips to help you get him back without a lot of drama.

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How to quickly get over your ex girlfriend

Need someone to blame for your lackluster love life? Point your finger at your ex. According to a new study from the University of Toronto, your old flame gives you fits long after the breakup.

Researchers tracked 123 people in relationships for six months, asking them to rate their feelings of affection both for their current partner and their most recent past partner. Turns out that as your current relationship goes sour, you begin to wistfully reminisce about the good times with your ex. “She starts to seem like a much better alternative when your new relationship isn’t going well,” says study author Stephanie Spielmann, a Ph.D. candidate in psychology at Toronto.

What’s more, people who started a relationship with relatively positive feelings for their ex saw their new relationship quickly fall apart, the study found.

That doesn’t mean you should let nostalgia for your ex push aside the legitimate reasons why you broke up. “Trying to get back together is often associated with feelings of anger, hostility and sadness,” Spielmann says. “Plus, on-again, off-again relationships tend to be of lower quality.” It’s true: According to new research from Kansas State University, people in cyclical relationships tend to feel less satisfied, have lower self-esteem, and have more doubts about the future of their relationship than more stable couples.

In order to forge a new dating path without worrying about your ex, you need to make your breakup stick. Here’s how. (And for more tips on cutting bait, learn How to Send Her Packing for Good.)

1. Renew Your Space

You were probably wise enough to give back her stuff, and you may have even tossed most of her gifts (although we don’t blame you for keeping that signed NFL game ball). But plenty of your belongings can remind you of your ex. “Get rid of that blanket you cuddled together under, move your bed, buy a new bedspread, and rearrange your couch and your flatscreen so the familiar look of your living room doesn’t stir up old memories,” says Melysha Acharya, founder of BrokenHeartedGirl.com and author of The Breakup Workbook for Men.

2. Get an Outside Perspective

Ask your close friends what they really thought of your ex-girlfriend. “The key questions to ask are: ‘Did I seem happy with my ex?’ and ‘Did you think she was good for me?’” says Acharya. Their unvarnished opinion will help you see past your idealized memories. If she broke your heart, chances are your friends will loyally hate her for you. But if it turns out they actually liked your ex, take that as a sign that you’re meeting the right women and you’ll be able to find a better match soon. (Living in the city? Discover 3 Ways to Meet the Woman of Your Dreams.)

3. Rebuild Your Ego

You may feel like you’ll never meet anyone better than your ex, and you fear you’ll be alone forever. So even if you’re not ready to date yet, set up an online dating profile and browse the available women in your area. A 2009 study by Spielmann found that merely thinking about the number of available women you know helps reduce feelings of attachment to your ex. (Read The 10 Commandments of Online Dating before plunging ahead.)
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