How to Make Out With a Girl in 40 seconds or less For Real

If you’ve ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn’t know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience. It may seem like it’s magical or out of reach – a special ability or super-power that someone is born with.

But it’s not. And it can be broken down into a few simple steps you can follow in order to make the same thing happen for you. In this article, I’m going to break down those steps.
The first step is to realize that about 90% of the difference between someone who’s really good with women and someone who’s not so good or mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman who’s ready to make out.

How to Make Out With a Girl ?

I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but it’s true. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go WAY down.

You must know how to spot that woman who’s already in this “make-out ready” state, so you can walk up and be “that guy.”

Don’t buy into the myth that women don’t want this to happen.

Women are as sexual (if not more sexual) than guys are. Most of the time, this “turbo” make-out session never happens, because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn’t happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse.. staying being kind of mean to a lot of guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one’s approaching them.

By putting this technique into practice, You want to discover how to see the women who you’re able to make out with in 40 seconds or less in the first place.

There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session.

What To Look For

The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions.

Let me explain… When we look in different directions, we access different parts of our brain. These are called “Eye Accessing Cues.” When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, she’s accessing her emotional brain.

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If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she’s saying: “I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I’m looking down.” And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn’t just use her eyes to look down), she’s physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission.

This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.

Now, if she looks at you, smiles and doesn’t look away, this could be a lot more difficult situation. Socially, she’s meeting you head on, and not showing immediate submission.

Women who you’re going to be able to walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds or less should automatically take the submissive role as a woman. That’s one quality which shows you’ll be able to quickly make out with her.

Another quality is that she’s actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and she’s not looking away is not going to be as easy to seduce in 40 seconds or less. It’s going to take much longer.

Again, you’re going to have to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up. You can’t just walk up and make out with her.

So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but she’s constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely opportunity for you and that’s a woman you can walk up to and immediately become sexual with.

Other traits are revealed in the way they’re moving and how they’re dressed. Let’s say she’s standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It’s less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That’s because she’s standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she’ll probably be a lot more resistant.

Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit.

Another thing is the way she’s dressed. If she’s dressed in a way that’s super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn’t the kind of girl you can walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.

This kind of women is looking for attention – not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who’s in between “I don’t care” and “Stare at my tits, bitch!” Somewhere between wearing sweatpants with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone who’s in between those two extremes.

A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm. They don’t want to over dress or under dress, and don’t know how the bar atmosphere is going to be. They’ll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).

That’s what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a second. If you think that she is the kind of person you can walk up to and do this, then proceed.

If not, I’d actually suggest you proceed anyway, just to see what happens.

Next, right after you get that done and you’ve seen your girl (there are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment) you’re going to walk up and start the scary part.
What To Do
This is where the most powerful kind of frame control comes in. It’s very, very important that you understand how to control someone else’s frame if you want to come across like you’re a pro at this.

By “frame,” I basically mean their “reality.” You’re controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable making out with you immediately.

I’m going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way of doing this. I’ll explain as quick as possible; that way you can go straight out and try it…

Here’s what I would say, word-for-word… Walk up to a girl, when you get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, “Shhh?”

Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, “Wait just one moment.”

You can also say, “Stop for one minute.” I suggest using a bit of NLP here. Whenever someone hears “stop,” “wait,” or “don’t,” they immediately register whatever comes after that.

So if I say, “Don’t think of a black cat,” what do you do? Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever version of one you have in your head.

So if I said, “Don’t try to make out with me,” or “Don’t make out with me right now,” girls are going to be consciously hearing, “Don’t make out with me,” but their subconscious minds will be hearing, “Make out with me right now!”

You’re attempting to sort of use real-life Inception to get making-out with you to be HER idea. She should be thinking, “I should make out with this guy.”

Now, during frame control you’ll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get this to go as fast as possible. Please only use this for good. There are lots of evil ways to use this.

Don’t try to seduce women who don’t want to be seduced. Again, that’s one of the reasons why it’s important that you notice a woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.

So to recap so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and you tell her to “Shhh” for a second and then you say a sentence that starts with “don’t” or “wait” or “stop.”

My typical is “Don’t worry… right now.” That’s all I say. And I slow that speech down ? “Don’t?worry?……. right now.”

Then I go right into the next statement, which is, “You and I are going to have a secret. We’re going to secretly kiss and no one will know.”

And as I’m saying this, I’m leaning in… and you’ll be doing the same when you do it. You’re leaning in ever… so… slowly. At the same time, you’re looking from her eyes down to her lips and back up to her eyes again.

This is called “Triangulating.” Count to three looking at her eyes, then look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to three, look down and count to two… etc. Do that about three or four times as you’re talking.

This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to practice it a little bit. I wouldn’t expect you’re going to get it perfect the first time.

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So again, you say, “We’re going to have a secret. We’re going to kiss and no one is going to know.” From here on out, you’re really just filling up space with words as you’re leaning in so you’re still controlling the interaction.

So you’re going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand ? whichever one is more accessible ? and reach around her back. You won’t pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.
Signs That It’s Working
Is she looking at your lips? If she’s looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If she’s looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.

This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. It’s a strange loop-hole in psychology.

For some reason, that’s how we are as humans. When someone turns away then turns back, we give them another chance moving forward. So if you’re getting some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back off and find another woman.

If she’s looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and excited, then proceed. You’ll move in very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.
!Important!
In a loud environment like a bar, you’ll want to speak louder, but don’t raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear.

Then you’re going to keep talking… What I usually say is, “No one is going to see this. It’s just going to be our little secret. I promise I won’t tell anybody only if you promise that you won’t tell anybody either.”

As I’m saying this into her ear, I make sure that she’s feeling my breath on her neck. So I’m sort of breathing out a little bit more than normal as I’m speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck.

This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this.

As you’re speaking really close to her ear, you’ll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as you’re talking. Then you’ll move you head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then… you’ll start kissing her.

And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck… then go straight into making out. It may not seem like it in this description, but 40 seconds is a long time. This process can happen in a lot less than 40 seconds – I’ve done it in less time, and I’ve seen other guys do it, too.
Practice It
What I want you to do is practice this approach. Maybe go for a minute or two at first, and then get to where you can do this in about 40 (or even 30) seconds.

You won’t use this tactic all the time. But when the opportunity is right, it’s really good to have this in your seduction arsenal. You want to make sure that you have the right kind of tools for the job, so to speak.

Whenever you see a girl who’s in that state and ready to be seduced, if you beat around the bush, engage in small talk or generally waste time, she’ll be turned off and you’ve lost a golden seduction opportunity.

Instead, when you spot this, you want to be able to see her, know that that’s what she wants, go in, and give it to her immediately. This is the major difference between guys who are rock stars at walking up and seducing a woman… and guys who wish that they were great at quickly seducing a woman.

There are a lot of other success factors as well. There are techniques on how to speak with the right tonality… how to touch her that allows her to feel comfortable and doesn’t turn off any of her weird alert switches… specific NLP triggers that you can use to connect and make sure she’s totally in your zone.

What’s taken me from a normal dude to a well-respected dating coach, is knowing a lot of short-cuts like this and knowing when to bring them out. And these short-cuts can also improve your game with women.

Remember these characteristics in women who want to be seduced, and remember ? it is possible to make out with a woman in 40 seconds or less.

Discover my other top 3 “Seduction Secrets” in this special video presentation.

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Series Communicating with your ex Part 1

Ive been thinking lately about how people communicate with their exes.

For the most part, people dont. Exceptions are when they work together, have classes together, go to church together, etc.

Another exception is when one of the partners wants to get back together. Usually, if someone wants to get an ex back, there will be communication. In fact, there may be all too much communication.

The last exception arises when a couple has children. Here is an article I found, about communicating in that situation. -- Kit.

Communicating With Your Ex - Letting Go of the Last Word

By Mary Wollard

You probably all have someone in your family who has to have the last word in any discussion or argument. Maybe your whole family is like this, making family get-togethers challenging at best. In the case of email, this can lead to back-and-forth messages that belabor a subject way longer than necessary, with each new message escalating the conflict higher and higher.

If you are someone who needs to have the last word and your communications with your ex are difficult, be aware that this is only adding to the conflict. It will take great restraint on your part to break the pattern. After all, it took a long time to cultivate the need to have the last word and it will take a long time to feel comfortable not having the last word. The only way to break the cycle is to just resist the urge to say one more thing.

Start with a conversation that you feel neutral about, and just try not responding to the last thing the other person said. As you become more comfortable with this in relatively unimportant conversations, then you can move on to practicing in areas that are more important. Work slowly, but work at it constantly. It will be hard work because this is a very hard habit to break, but the rewards will be great.

If it is the other parent who needs the last word, know that it is not a sign of weakness on your part to let him or her have it. Know that this communication pattern in the other person started way before you ever came into the picture and likely affects every relationship they have. But you can still take responsibility for your part in these never-ending discussions.

Even if the other person hasnt yet done the work necessary to end this communication merry-go-round, you can. If you follow the steps above, the cycle will stop. Start with a subject that is not highly charged, and just let the conversation go when you have said what you have to say.

The important thing is to make the decision to break this communication cycle. If you do, I guarantee you will feel more powerful in the relationship, not less powerful.

© 2009, Mary Wollard, J.D., Family Solutions Center, LLC

Mary A. Wollard, JD, is an attorney, mediator, and arbitrator with over 20 years experience in solving the legal issues of divorce, parenting (custody), marital property and support. In addition to helping families through mediation and arbitration, Ms. Wollard provides parenting coordination and decision-making services to families when on-going conflict prevents them from fully implementing their parenting plan after divorce. Visit http://www.cofamilysolutions.com/downloads.htm for free downloadable worksheets you can use to organize your familys transition.

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Series continues with Part 2 and Part 3.
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Understanding The Wife Husband Relationship

The wife husband relationship can be a complicated one. Many marriages fail because one or both partners don’t really understand the dynamic of the relationship. If even one person has a basic understanding of it, the marriage is bound to be stronger. But if both people understand how a wife husband relationship works, then it has the best chance of being a good marriage.
One of the keys to understanding the wife husband relationship is to realize just how different men and women really are. Aside from the obvious physical differences, the sexes are different emotionally and mentally, too.
When faced with a problem, for instance, men and women tend to approach it from completely different angles. Women are more likely to discuss it with other people. They might get advice and input from a few friends. It’s not uncommon for women to talk about the problem at length.
That’s because women solve problems when they talk about them. They explore all the angles of the issue and how they feel about it, and often in doing so a solution appears.
Men, on the other hand, tend to be more tight-lipped about problems. They think about it more than they talk about it. It’s more common for a man to ponder a problem and say little until he’s figured out the solution.
In the wife husband relationship this difference in problem solving can itself be a problem. He might think that she’s talking it to death when she should be trying to figure it out herself. And she might think he’s not even worried about something because he’s not talking about it .When in reality, it’s on his mind all the time and he’s just not pointing it out.
Sometimes, women tend to talk about things that they don’t necessarily want help with, or advice about. They simply want someone to listen to their opinion and thoughts. Where if a man is talking about something, it’s because he wants an answer.
If a woman is talking about something just to get it off her chest or vent, other women tend to get that and offer support. They don’t try to tell her what to do for the most part, but simply join in the conversation in empathy.
A man might simply state a solution and tell the woman what she should do, thinking he’s being very helpful and doing what he’s supposed to. But really, the woman will feel that he’s not listening and instead just trying to end the conversation.
Of course, not every wife husband relationship will happen exactly like these examples. Some men will talk out a problem and some women will be tight-lipped about it. But in general, the sexes can be expected to follow these typically patterns.
Understanding those patterns can help you stop yourself before you do something that’s natural to you. You can think about what your partner needs from you instead, and do that .Your wife husband relationship will be much stronger and happier because of it.
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Women Men Love And Women Men Leave

There are two types of women in the world, women men love women men leave.  Which one are you?  It doesnt really matter which side you fall on at this point, if you read and use the information in this article you can become the women men love for the rest of your life.
The first step to make sure your man will love you the way you want to be loved, is to know what it is your man needs in the relationship and then give it to him.  This seemingly simple thing is messed up more often than you would believe.  Many women will think this means to be completely subservient to their man and do whatever he wants even if she doesnt want to do it.
Nothing could be further from the truth.  In reality no man (unless hes "damaged goods" which you wouldnt want to be in a relationship with anyway) wants a women who is a door mat.  A real man will like his women to have a mind of her own, but he also wants her to be his biggest fan.
Women tend to think that if they give their man all the sex he wants, and if they dress up in sexy lingerie they are meeting all their mans needs.  Again, if that is truly all your man needs you might want to find a man with a little more depth.  Its a misconception that all men want is sex.  Yes, sex is an important part of a relationship, for men and women, but it shouldnt be the do all, end all in any relationship, if it is your relationship will fail, its just a matter of time.
In order to really form a long lasting bond you need to base  your relationship on more than just physical intimacy.  Whether we like it or not, we will all get older and as we do sex will become more difficult for various physical reasons. If your whole relationship is just based on physical intimacy, how can it survive once that is taken out of the equation?
The women that men leave, believe it or not,  are the women who try too hard to be whatever he wants. Your man needs to feel special and loved, admired, and desired, but it wont mean very much to him if it doesnt seem sincere.  If he feels like you are just being pliable he will quickly get bored and move on to someone more real. 
So for all you women out there, you do have a choice.  You can be either type of women:  women men love women men leave.  Its entirely up to you.  It doesnt mean giving up your own identity, it just means trying to understand your man and what he really wants and needs from you.
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The Best Relationship Quotes I Know

I love reading relationship quotes and today I thought I would share a couple of my favorite ones with you. Where possible, proper credit has been given to the person who wrote or spoke the original quote. However in some cases that may not have been possible.
You know love funny quotes as I believe humour is a key ingredient in a great relationship. Some of the funny ones I like are:
"What can you say to a man who has just had sex?  Anything you like as he is asleep".
Or for those male readers - "what is the difference between a terrorist and a woman with PMS?" "You can negotiate with a terrorist!"
Joking aside, this quote credited to Leo Buscaglia should be in all couple’s homes. 
“Too often we under estimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around”.
As most of us know it is the little things in a relationship that can cause it to fail or blossom. It is easy to blame the other person in our relationship for our dissatisfaction but as Martha Washington said “I have learned from experience that a greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not on our circumstances.”
Some relationship quotations are beautiful and sad at the same time.  Such as the one from William Somerset Maugham (an English Writer) on unrequited love being "The love that lasts the longest is the love that is never returned."
While I dont think Colin Powell was talking about relationships when he said "None of us can change our yesterdays, but we can all change our tomorrows", it is one that we could all do with remembering. Too often we waste time and energy holding grudges against our partners for something they did in the past. It is too late to change it now so let it go once and for all. So long as it isnt a pattern of repeated behaviour it doesnt do anyone any good to remember it.
"Alone we can do so little, together we can do so much " Helen Keller. This lady was my idol when I was growing up. Despite being born blind and mute she achieved so much more than the rest of us often do. I believe that being part of a couple and then a family gives us the chance to be so much more. We need to appreciate the gifts we have. Our relationships would be a lot happier if we said thank you and I love you just a little more often.
As Mother Theresa is quoted as saying "There is more hunger for love and appreciation in the world today than for bread".  Make sure your loved one knows how much you love and appreciate them today, to avoid a day when you wished you had listened to the relationship quotes.
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Win Ex Boyfriend Back In 7 Easy Steps

Has your guy just dumped you?  It really hurts doesn’t it?  Well, here’s how to get your ex back back in 7 easy steps.

1. Do you really want him back?  Okay, this may seem like an odd step to go through, but it is really important.  Your boyfriend may seem indispensible, but you will be able to move on without him.  If he’s someone worth keeping, read on.  But if he’s just “any old guy” don’t hang on for the sake of hanging on.  As the old saying goes, “there are other fish in the sea.”

2. Think about why you broke up.  Think carefully about what he said when he dumped you.  Also think back to the things he said to you in the days right before you broke up.  He may have indicated that you were too clingy or that you had let yourself go.  If he wants you to change, you have to decide whether you want to be the girlfriend he wants to have.

3. Don’t bug him.  Sometimes, girls think that they should call or text their ex a bunch of times hoping that showing how much they love their guy will get him back.  Instead, you should give him some space.  This will let both of you evaluate the relationship.  If you are in school together, you don’t need to go out of your way to avoid him, but don’t chase him down either.

4. Don’t manipulate him.  You may be tempted to flirt with his friends, for instance, in an attempt to make him jealous.  More likely, it will just make him annoyed and put him off you.  He may even think you are acting slutty.  So, stay away from doing manipulative actions.

5. Play hard to get.  Don’t let him think that he can wiggle his little finger and you will come rushing to his side.  Let him squirm a little bit.  Remember guys like the chase. 

6. Don’t send friends as emissaries.  It’s common for girls to send their girlfriends to “feel out” your ex.  But this just annoys guys.  If you are going to communicate something to him, do it yourself.  Don’t put him in the awkward position of having to explain his feelings to your friends.

7. Don’t get worried about a new girlfriend.  It’s probably just a rebound relationship.  It is not uncommon for a guy to hook up with a new girl right after he has broken up with you.  But these rebound relationships rarely last.  It is very possible that he will come back to you after he has some time to work things out.  In the meantime, become everything he wants in a girl.  Get gorgeous.  Be friendly.  Be happy.  These things will pry him away from the good time girl and back into your arms.

Many girls don’t know how to get your ex back.  They do it all wrong and end up pushing him away instead.  When you follow the seven steps in this article, you will be able to come out a winner in the game of love.
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Want My Wife Back I Screwed Up

Well, you blew it and now you are crying, “I want my wife back!” Was it something dumb that you did or kept doing? You probably had it coming, then. You dug your hole and now youre stuck in it. So are you going to just stay in that hole or are you going to try and climb out of it? If you are serious when you say, “I want my wife back” then you better get climbing.

Those who "want my wife back” need to know this word: HUMILITY. You better believe that it is going to take some crawling and some begging if you are going to get her back. You cant start feeling that you are too good to come back to her on your knees. If she is still mad at you, you probably deserve it.

The first thing you need to do is admit that you messed up. Dont make excuses for it and dont try to cover it up. If she starts telling you how bad it is, you have to agree with it. This is no time to try and defend what you did. Dont lie about it, you have to be honest. Lying will only get you in more trouble. Also, dont try and gloss over it saying it wasnt that big of a deal. If it cost you your marriage, then obviously it was a big deal.
The second thing that you are going to have to do is not just tell her that you are going to better. You may have tried that before but didnt get better. You have to make her believe it. It will take more than words to get her to believe it. If there is something that you did that you should stop doing then you probably need to take steps to stop it.

For those of you that have a problem with drugs or alcohol, you better go and get some help. You should be working on that before you start telling her that you are trying to change. If it has to do with anger issues, get enrolled in anger management classes and start taking them. Whatever problem it is she says you have, you better be making steps to get it corrected. If you really want get your ex back, you better get serious about making those changes.

You may find this to be a lot of work and that is because it is hard work. You may think that you are just fine the way you are but “the way you are” caused the breakup to happen in the first place. The way you were wasnt good enough.

Your pride may cause you to believe that you are too good to do a lot of the above but to get your wife back you need to lose your pride and learn a lot of humility. You cant let your pride get in the way of doing what you need to do to when you “want my wife back”.
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How to win your ex girlfriend back from another guy

If you were already working toward getting back together with an ex girlfriend, learning that she’s dating again can be devastating.  While most guys do give up at this point, your chances of getting back with her are far from over.  If you’re willing to be patient, think positive, and put in some quality effort?  You can actually use your ex girlfriend’s new romance to launch yourself back into her life, getting her to break up with or forget her new boyfriend and start dating you again.

Step 1 – Let go of your ex-girlfriend

Before you begin taking steps closer to your ex’s heart again, you first have to let her go.  While this might hurt, it’s just temporary.  If it helps, keep reminding yourself that you are working toward getting her back, and letting go of her is an important part of that plan.  Getting your ex girlfriend back from another man isn’t something that happens overnight.  By not fighting the break up, you’re refusing to battle with her decision to end things with you.  By not running off to stop her from dating this new guy, you’re showing a level of pride and maturity.  Anything you could say at this point wouldn’t work anyway, so don’t say anything.  You don’t want to come off as needy, jealous, or anything like that – this will hurt your chances of getting your ex back.

Step 2 – Drop back for a while

Leave your girlfriend utterly and completely alone during the honeymoon stages of her relationship.  Don’t call her, text her, email her, or try to run into her either.  Don’t acknowledge her new boyfriend, and don’t respond to any calls or messages from her.  This step of the process requires putting yourself back in her head, and you can’t do that if you’re in constant contact with her.  By disappearing off her social map, your ex will wonder where you are, what you’re doing, and whether or not you’re thinking about her.  Not seeing you will actually make your ex miss you – and this is an important part of winning back her heart.

Step 3 – Focus on yourself

Now that you have some extra free time, use it in the most positive manner possible.  By working on yourself, you can make yourself look, feel, and even act better… do it right, and your ex will be astonished by the new you the next time she sees you.  Go to the gym, take up running… when you start doing all new things you end up meeting new people.  The exercise will help you sweat off any residual feelings of hopeless and despair over losing your girlfriend, and all that stuff will be replaced with positive energy.  When you’re fit and toned, run out and get some new clothes.  A huge part of attracting your girlfriend is physically making yourself desirable to her, but also mentally having the confidence that all girls love.

Step 4 – Wait out her break up

Most rebound relationships last little more than a month.  This is great news for you, because if your ex jumped right into this new romance there’s a good chance she’s in a rebound relationship.  And want some more good news?  The fact that your ex started dating another guy again so quickly after dumping you results in her burying her feelings for you instead of dealing with and getting over them.  This means that somewhere beneath the surface of her heart, there’s a lot of love still left for you.  Finding that love and gently tugging on it can bring it back out into the open, causing your exgirlfriend to think about you, miss you, and want to be with you again.

As much as it hurts to watch your ex with another guy, try to concentrate on the big picture.  In the long run, you’ll be the one standing next to her.  There’s not much you can do right now, so don’t blow things by trying to talk her out of dating her new boyfriend, bad mouthing him, or any of that jealous boyfriend stuff.  Stick it out, and wait for the rebound relationship to invariably fail.

Step 5 – Pick Her Up When She Falls

When a rebound relationship breaks up, more often than not it’s the girl who gets hurt.  When your ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend, she’s probably treating the romance as a solid, concrete thing.  When it shatters?  You’ll need to be there to help pick up the pieces of her broken relationship.  She’ll be looking for someone familiar and safe – and that’s you.  Your ex will find comfort in meeting, talking to, and being in your arms again after a bad rebound, so be prepared to play that role.

Another huge advantage: your ex-girlfriend still has feelings of love for you.  She had little or no time to resolve your break up, because she jumped right into another relationship.  This is where you’ll draw out those emotions and use them to win her back.

What if her new relationship doesn’t break up?  How can I get her back?

Occasionally, a rebound relationship will stick for some time.  If this is the case, you’ll need to learn an alternative strategy to getting your ex back from another man.  There are some very unique ways you can insert yourself between your ex and her new boyfriend, and then slowly win her back from this new guy. 

They take patience and effort, but they’re also guaranteed to work.  These methods require you to do things in a very subtle way, so that your ex-girlfriend doesn’t entirely realize what you’re doing… but in the end, they’ll put her back in your arms.
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How To Get Your Ex Back Permanently – Text Your Ex Back

The good news is that if you are the one suffering from a breakup, you can easily get your ex back. Michael Fiore, a well famed relationship coach, has developed an extremely powerful program a couple of years ago.

Text Your Ex Back is the perfect tool for anyone suffering for his or her ex, because it does not only remedy the temporary self-esteem problem, but it also helps fixing all other problems, including getting the ex back.

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How To Get Your Ex Back – What is  Text Your Ex Back System?

This program is a comprehensive guide made up of 11 modules aimed to help people get their loved ones back. In this program, the author reveals the tremendous power of a simple text message. A text message is actually strong enough to activate those emotions, love and romance which were hidden deep inside. Because most of us have a cell phone, it is practically impossible not to have the necessary tools to get your ex back. The moment you start sending powerful and meaningful text messages, you can win your partner back extremely easy.

Text Your Ex Back is available for both girls who want to get their boyfriends back or boys who want to get their girlfriends back. Mike Fiore, the author of this ground breaking program, appeared in numerous newspapers, magazines and TV shows. According to Mike, “text messages are probably the single closest thing we have to telepathy”. Even if this statement might be a little too bold, Mike certainly has a point here.

If you desperately need a powerful tool to help you get your loved one back, this program definitely worth a shot.

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Program Modules :

How to get your ex back – Text Your Ex Back is divided into 11 different modules, instead of being a single PDF file. Each module comes in three versions: PDF, audio and video. Each module contains very powerful information regarding a certain aspect of getting your relationship back.

Module 1 – INTRODUCTION

This part of the program showcases a number of reviews from real customers who have tried this product and followed the advice listed inside. Moreover, you will learn why it is imperative to wait at least one month before contacting your ex.

Module 2 – THE DUMPER AND THE DUMPED

A very important module that helps you discover the true reason behind your separation. If you can pinpoint the right reason for separation, you are on the right track of getting back together with your ex.

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Module 3 – THE BIG GOAL

Here you will learn how to visualize your future together with your loved one.

Module 4 – FLIGHT CHECK

Learn how to control your emotions and thoughts in order to begin the process and to do everything by the book.

Module 5 – TEXT JUDO

Now that you’ve done the prep work, it is time for the real deal. In this module, you will discover a unique six phase approach that will help you compose the right text messages for reigniting your ex partner’s emotions and feelings.

Module 6 – ACROSS THE BOW

This is where you learn how to send the very first message in order to break the silence. This is a key message, as it will allow you to establish a connection with your ex.

Module 7 – PREPPING THE SOIL

Here you will learn how to send the right messages in order to invoke the old beautiful memories in your ex.

Module 8 –  THE GREEN-EYED MONSTER

Jealousy can be a weapon, a powerful one. In this module you will learn how to send jealousy inspiring messages to your ex in order to bring him or her back to you.

Module 9 – PLANTING THE SEEDS

Similar to module 7.

Module 10 – REAPING THE HARVEST

This is what everyone wants. Learn how to do it the right way.

Module 11 – TEXTING STEADY

After everything is back to normal, learn how to keep things on a steady path.

In addition to these powerful modules, Text Your Ex Back offers some bonuses: Infidelity Buster, 100 Ready-to-use Texts, Instant Forgiveness and Facebook Romance Secrets.

FINAL WORDS

Text Your Ex Back is an incredibly powerful system that does work. As tens of men and women have managed to get their partner’s back, why not capitalize on this amazing opportunity and use this program to your advantage?

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Win Love Back Make Your Ex Love You Again

Have you recently experienced a breakup, and now you are hoping that you can win love back?

Getting your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend to fall madly in love with you once again is an endeavor that can be quite difficult. However, if you want to get your ex back, and you have the dedication and the patience to achieve it, you may be able to make it happen.

The first thing you need to do in order to win love back is to figure out what went wrong in the relationship in the first place. What did you do, or what did your ex do, in order to make the relationship dissolve?
You need to be able to address the problems in the relationship in order to win love back.

If you cannot rectify the issues that led to the breakup, then you are not going to be able to win love and get your ex back back when it comes to your relationship.

If you want to win back his heart, then you are going to have to proceed slowly but surely. If you messed up and did something wrong and that led to the dissolving of your relationship, then what you need to do is apologize, and work to regain the trust of your ex.

Are you certain that you want to win love back in the first place? Do you want your ex back or are you simply afraid to be alone? What is going to keep you from messing things up again? Are you dedicated to repairing the relationship once and for all, or might you slip up again?

If you are sure that you want to rekindle things, and you are sure that your goal is to win love back, then you need to let him know by apologizing for the problems in the past, communicating better with him than ever before, and giving him the space that he needs to figure out what he wants to do in the relationship. If you do not give him any space, the results of the relationship will not be to your liking.

Find out what it is that caused the relationship to fall apart, and fix it. If he was bored with you, find a way to liven things up. If you cheated on him, find a way to prove that youve stopped. Once you can undo the underlying causes of the break up, you and your ex can start learning to rebuild things in a healthy and proactive way and this will allow you to win love back once and for all.

Learning how to win love back and get your ex back is all about knowing what went wrong the first time around so that you can prevent it from happening again. It may take some serious time and effort, but the investment is well worthwhile when you consider the positive results that are possible in situations like these.
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How To Win Love Back

Its easy to fall into routines and habits in relationships where we all end up taking what we have for granted. We simply expect the other person to be there until one day the relationship comes crumbling down around you. Fortunately learning how to win love back is easier than most people believe.

The problem with most how to win love back tactics is that they dont take into consideration the primary differences between the way men and women think. Women will try very hard to make their man understand how much they love him and need him, while men view actions as speaking louder than any words you can say.

If youre serious about learning how to win love and get your ex back, then youll need to spend a bit of time removing the words from your relationships memories and taking a look at what your actions were saying.

Most women can think of times when they were trying hard to tell their man that they love him and want him to stay. You know the words you said, but what did your actions say? To a man, you would have been showing him how upset you were and how hurt you were. In his mind, he would have been thinking that hes the cause of all your misery, so youd be better off if he just broke up with you.  This means all your reassurances of how much you love him actually pushed him away!

Think about all the times where you both argued and got angry. Your words might have been trying to make him see reason and understand your point of view, but your actions were telling him something very different. Your man wouldnt have heard the words you shouted at him. He would only have seen a very unhappy woman who really wasnt happy with the man before her. His mind would instantly have thought he was the cause of your misery and hes believe its easier to break up with you rather than keep making you so unhappy. The same thing is true if you give him the silent treatment.

When youre learning how to win back love, you have to realize that your actions will speak far louder than any words you can say. Your partner wants you to be happy. He also wants to believe youre happy when youre spending time with him. The best possible way to show him that hes the right man for you is to go out and work on your own self-confidence levels.

When you feel happy within yourself and youre confident and brimming with life, youre irresistible to the man who fell in love with you. After all, when the relationship was still new and exciting, you were both bubbly and happy and pleased to spend time with each other. This is the version of you your partner fell in love with.

Spend some time working on things that make you happy. Hang out with friends or take a walk to clear your unhappy thoughts. Watch a fun movie and then suggest that you catch up with your man over a friendly cup of coffee. Your actions will show that youre a more pleasant person to be with and his feelings will start to re-kindle as though by magic.
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How to get your boyfriend back 4 tips

Just added a new article on HelpGettingBackTogether.com.

This one contains 4 tips on how to get your boyfriend back.

It breaks the process down into 4 phases, and tells you where to find out how to make a plan for the last phase.
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Love To Get Your Ex Wife Back

If your goal is to get your ex wife back then you have to admit something that you may not want to. You may have to admit you’re weak. Will you have to admit it to her? That depends on how she views you at the moment, how you have come across in the past and how she will view you in the future. The trick to get your ex wife back is to let her know that you have changed and that you are, can be, and will be the one that she wants.

Wanting to get your ex wife back is admitting that you are weak. You are admitting that you need her and are incomplete with out here. You are admitting that you have to have her in order for life to make sense and/or work. Once you make the effort, she is going to be figuring that out on her own. Just making the effort to get your ex wife back is proof of that. How did she view you prior to the break up? Did you divorce because you were seen as being weak? Hopefully that is not the case. If so, coming back and trying to reconcile after the divorce or break up may be seen as groveling back and may not be something that she wants to see from her man.

If, though, you were seen as being particularly hard headed and self-absorbed then you are essentially saying that you were wrong. This is not a bad thing. When you show that you can admit that you were wrong shows that you are willing to admit that you are human. Being wrong is weak but admitting it and trying to correct it takes immense strength. Letting down your guard and telling the her that you were wrong shows that you are serious about wanting to get your ex wife back. Even though it’s admitting that you are weak, it is showing that you are strong enough to deal with it.

When you are trying to win your ex wife back, you have to know that you are putting your future in someone else’s hands. The results are far from certain. The truth is the damage may already be done and it has reached the point of no return. Does this mean that you shouldn’t try? No. It does mean that everything that you do has to be above and beyond any reasonable doubt that she might have. This will mean being honest in not just admitting how wrong you may have been but honest in really trying to change.

If you go back to your ex wife and try to convince her that you have changed and that you are worth the risk, you have to be honest. If you aren’t and you aren’t willing to follow through on your commitment to be better thing swill only fall apart again. If you are going to go through with the effort to get your ex wife back, make sure that the change in you is real.
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How To Save My Marriage

Do you wonder “how to save my marriage?”  This article tells you how to save your marriage.
First, you need to identify the trouble in your relationship.  Some common troubles include:
· Money concerns
· Child rearing difficulties
· Lack of sex
· Lack of communication
· Loss of identity
And, of course, there are many others.  You may discover that there is one main problem or you may identify several smaller problems that are eating away at your marriage. 
When you identify the problem or problems that are at the root of your marriage troubles, you will be able to move on to the next step which is close, personal interaction.
In this step, you will need to be open to extensive conversation.  If you have not had a lot of open communication during your marriage, you may want to consider counseling in order to facilitate the personal interaction that is key to this step. 
If you really want to save your marriage, you will set aside time to work on your marriage issues every single day.  You could set aside some time like after the children go to bed or you could decide to take a walk after dinner every day for just the two of you.  But, you should plan to get back in touch with each other.  A daily habit of quality time with your spouse is very important.
Take some “romantic time” each week.  For some couples, this means reinstating a “date night” every week.  On Tuesdays, for instance, you get a sitter and go out for a picnic or walk around the mall.  As you can see, this doesn’t have to involve wine and roses every week, but a romantic time that you can look forward to all week is essential.
As you spend time together being romantic and discussing your problems, you must have an open mind toward what your partner is telling you.  You need to understand that a lot of the problems in your marriage are caused by – get this – you!  Until you really listen to your partner, you are not going to be able to effect the kind of personal change necessary to save your marriage.
You need to have faith in your partner.  You need to give him or her the benefit of the doubt.  You need to believe that the marriage still can and will work.  You also need to believe that your partner is still essentially the same person he or she was when you married them.  If you cannot have faith in your partner and in your marriage, you might as well give up now.
Finally, you have to be open to forgiveness.  If your partner has made mistakes – even major ones – you must be able to forgive.  If you insist that there are things that cannot be forgiven, there is no hope for your marriage. 
Everyone makes mistakes.  Some people make big mistakes.  If that person makes a genuine apology – which includes acts of contrition and an effort to change – they deserve forgiveness.
This article gave you answers to that perplexing question, “how to save my marriage.”
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Your Question How To Get My Wife To Love Me Again Your Answer Here

Its a tough one youve been asking yourself for a while now. . . "How to get my wife to love me again?"
There are many avenues that need to be explored when coming up with an answer to your question and of course the answers depend on your specific situation and circumstances. But there are some basic strategies that any man can apply towards gaining his wifes love back.
First, you need to figure out why your wife has stopped loving you (or why she says that she doesnt love you anymore, even if that may not be true).
What are some common reasons for this?
Reason Number 1:
Ive lost my wifes love because I had an affair and she found out.
Reason Number 2:
My wife found someone new that she feels is better than me.
Reason Number 3:
I havent stuck to my promises and agreements. I promised her that I would change my attitude or some of the things that annoy her but I havent done so. This has lead to disappointment and loss of hope on her part.
Reason Number 4:
I neglected my wife in her eyes. I didnt give her the love and attention she needed.
Reason Number 5: I tried to control everything she did. I didnt allow my wife enough freedom and space to do what she wanted.
Once youve identified the reason or combination of reasons, you can start to go to work on the problem. Many marriages that fail do so because the real problems arent really understood. Communication is a huge part of making the marriage work - and men think differently than women so even if you think you know how your wife feels about something (because thats the way you feel), chances are you probably dont. So talk to her.
Without the right communication, its really hard to resolve and kind of conflict, big or small. The right kind of communication will allow your damaged relationship to start recuperating and later to thrive if you give your wife the opportunity to share her dreams, concerns, hopes and desires with you.
If your wife has conceded to trying in the marriage again, dont just go back to what wasnt working. Keep things interesting, do little things to show your wife how much you love and appreciate her or do something pleasantly surprising.
Keeping your promises is another important part of the equation. If you havent kept your promises in the past, start doing so now. Your past broken promises have no doubt ruined the trust in your relationship but you can start repairing that now.
Finally, give your wife the space and time she needs. Let her know that you are there for her but dont smother her.
Hopefully the above information is enough to get you started working on your solving your big concern of "How to get my wife to love me again".
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Can I Get My Ex To Love Me Again Yes I Can

So youre now single or with someone new. . .but you cant get your ex out of your mind. Youre always thinking "How can I get my ex to love me again. . ." And then you probably push the thought away because it seems impossible. The good news is that you can get your ex back in your arms. It has been done before, and not infrequently, and it can be done again, by you.

Men and women get out of relationships for different reasons, many of which are not understood by the opposite sex because mens and womens brains are wired differently. This makes things even more confusing. Some situations seem to be pretty straight-forward but most arent.

So before we tackle your goal of getting your ex back, lets take a look at why he or she isnt around in the first place.

Why do men leave relationships? Its pretty simple, really. They leave when they arent getting what they need. And one sure thing that they need is admiration and respect. It might be for that reason that they they left . . .and maybe they found it somewhere else. One of the most common reasons men give for leaving their wife or girlfriend is “No matter what I did, I couldn’t make her happy!”

Why do women leave relationships? They leave because they feel unappreciated and/or they leave because they are bored. What do you commonly hear from unhappy women? “He doesn’t appreciate a thing I do!”
Now, you might think that your exs reasons for leaving dont fit into one of those categories. You may be thinking, "my husband left me because I cheated on him." But why did you cheat on him in the first place? It probably has something to do with the fact that you werent getting the attention and appreciation you needed. Or maybe youre thinking. . .although thats not an excuse. Or maybe youre thinking "My girlfriend left me because I was never around." But ask yourself, why were you never around?

Now that youre not in continuous contact with your ex, you can take time to look at things more objectively. Use this time constructively to list all the positive and negative factors in your relationship. In the meantime, make sure you take care of yourself, eat healthy foods and exercise when possible.

Then, after youve had time to concentrate on yourself and look at your relationship with more objective eyes, you can think about making that first contact with your ex. Ask him or her out for coffee in a nonchalant manner. If he or she says yes, go out, talk about light non-threatening subjects and keep it short. At the end of the date, dont re-schedule another unless your ex suggests it. So, in answer to your question "Can I get my ex to love me again?" Yes, you can!

The date may go well, the date may go ok or the date may go terribly. In the last case, youll need to re-evaluate your situation and see if you want to continue trying later on or if you need to think about moving on.
But if the date goes well, you will see how the answer to "Can I Get My Ex to Love Me Again?" is "Yes, I can!"
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Win your girlfriend back!

Quoting from Win your girlfriend back! at HelpGettingBackTogether.com

I cant know for sure exactly what the situation is between you and the girlfriend who broke up with you. I dont know how long it has been since you broke up, or since you last talked to her. Is she angry at you? Is she already seeing someone else? Do you have children together? These are all things I dont know.

But I do know this: if you want to win your girlfriend back, you have to approach it systematically. You have to make a plan, and stick with it. This is what works.

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How To Win Ex Girlfriend Back With An Apology

No doubt all you can think about now shes walked out on you is how to win ex girlfriend back.  Possibly you didnt realize that you loved her, or perhaps how much you loved her, until she walked out on you and now youre in pain and desperate to figure out how to win ex girlfriend back. You will be able to get your ex back.

Well heres some information that will help you as you try to figure out the right moves that will help you get her back in your arms.

You might have made some mistakes, weve all been there, so dont beat yourself up!  The most constructive thing to do right now is not to try and rewrite history, instead you need to figure out how to step up and find a way to write the future for the two of you, that you want. 

If you need to apologize for anything that you did wrong, then get ready to do so.  What you should also do, is to make sure that you understand why youre apologizing.  Dont just go through the motions of an apology because you think its what she wants to hear.  No, look at the behavior that shes objecting to and try and understand her point of view.

The apology that you now come up with has to address two points if youre serious about figuring out how to win ex girlfriend back.  Make sure that you use the apology to convince your ex girlfriend that you have completely understood her point of view and also that youre one hundred percent ready to change that behavior.

It will be great if you have previously come up with a plan to prove to your ex that youre rally serious.  By that I mean do you need to go and talk to a professional about your behavior?  Well then make the appointment and make sure that you have actually attended a few sessions and are committed to continuing to talking to the professional.  Just a word of warning, if youre not sincere in this, youre wasting your time even trying to fool your ex girlfriend.

If you cheated on her, then try and figure out why you cheated.  Again, you cant rewrite history, but if you can begin to figure out what brought you to the point of cheating, then the next time you find yourself in that situation you will have a real shot at avoiding it.  Explain your thought process to your ex girlfriend and own your behavior.

When you go to talk to your girlfriend, as you attempt to answer your question how to win back ex girlfriend, make sure you give her space to say what she has to say and listen with sincerity.  Do all of the above and youre well on your way to getting her back.
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How to win ex back when love still exists

New guest article: How to win ex back when love still exists at HelpGettingBackTogether.com

Do you want to win ex back? If you had a close, loving relationship with a man who later dumped you, you may want to get back together. You have a lot of emotional investment in the relationship, and may not want to throw it away without an attempt to reignite the flame. Here’s how to win ex back.

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To Win Back Ex Boyfriend Try Dating Someone Else

To get your ex back, try dating someone else!  Your first thought is that that doesnt sound right!  It sounds counter-intuitive and youre flat out not going to do it!  Right?  Well what if its the right thing to do and by doing it you move yourself closer to getting back together with your ex boyfriend? Would you do it then?

Let me explain!  When youve been dumped by someone youre still in love with, instinctively your first thoughts are to chase after them and to beg and plead with them to take you back.  Its pretty much a mad panic on your part to get right back into the relationship before your ex boyfriend forgets about you and or meets someone else.

Well pretty much you need to understand that your ex boyfriend is not going to forget about you just because the two of you broke up.  Plus if he still has strong feelings for you, just because hes dating someone else it doesnt mean theres no way back for the two of you.  So theres really no need to panic!

Instead to get your ex back that taking some time out is the right thing to do and take that time out.  During this time away from your ex boyfriend, be sure not to contact him in anyway.  Just let him get on with whatever hes doing and you do the same.

Once you accept that youre not going to be contacting your ex boyfriend, its time to put on your best outfit, reconnect with your friends and get out and have some fun.  Not only will this keep you busy and stop the temptation to call your ex, but it will also boost your confidence no end.

If you meet someone who you feel youd like to date, dont let your desire to win back ex boyfriend stop you.  Remember, youre not actually in a relationship with your ex, youve broken up and youre a free agent.  So if youre emotionally ready to have some fun, go ahead and have some!

What you should do first and foremost though, is to make it clear to whoever you decide to date that youre not interested in anything heavy or full on, you just want to have some fun.

What you should also be clear about in your own mind, is that this is not about making your ex boyfriend jealous.  It is only about keeping your spirits high and helping you come to terms with the situation with your ex boyfriend.  You never know, you might enjoy this new guy so much that you decide that getting back with your ex boyfriend is not what you want to do after all.  Equally using this time apart to explore how you feel, can be a real way to get your ex back.
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