How to Make Out With a Girl in 40 seconds or less For Real

If you’ve ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn’t know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience. It may seem like it’s magical or out of reach – a special ability or super-power that someone is born with.

But it’s not. And it can be broken down into a few simple steps you can follow in order to make the same thing happen for you. In this article, I’m going to break down those steps.
The first step is to realize that about 90% of the difference between someone who’s really good with women and someone who’s not so good or mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman who’s ready to make out.

How to Make Out With a Girl ?

I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but it’s true. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go WAY down.

You must know how to spot that woman who’s already in this “make-out ready” state, so you can walk up and be “that guy.”

Don’t buy into the myth that women don’t want this to happen.

Women are as sexual (if not more sexual) than guys are. Most of the time, this “turbo” make-out session never happens, because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn’t happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse.. staying being kind of mean to a lot of guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one’s approaching them.

By putting this technique into practice, You want to discover how to see the women who you’re able to make out with in 40 seconds or less in the first place.

There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session.

What To Look For

The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions.

Let me explain… When we look in different directions, we access different parts of our brain. These are called “Eye Accessing Cues.” When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, she’s accessing her emotional brain.

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If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she’s saying: “I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I’m looking down.” And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn’t just use her eyes to look down), she’s physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission.

This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.

Now, if she looks at you, smiles and doesn’t look away, this could be a lot more difficult situation. Socially, she’s meeting you head on, and not showing immediate submission.

Women who you’re going to be able to walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds or less should automatically take the submissive role as a woman. That’s one quality which shows you’ll be able to quickly make out with her.

Another quality is that she’s actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and she’s not looking away is not going to be as easy to seduce in 40 seconds or less. It’s going to take much longer.

Again, you’re going to have to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up. You can’t just walk up and make out with her.

So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but she’s constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely opportunity for you and that’s a woman you can walk up to and immediately become sexual with.

Other traits are revealed in the way they’re moving and how they’re dressed. Let’s say she’s standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It’s less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That’s because she’s standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she’ll probably be a lot more resistant.

Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit.

Another thing is the way she’s dressed. If she’s dressed in a way that’s super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn’t the kind of girl you can walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.

This kind of women is looking for attention – not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who’s in between “I don’t care” and “Stare at my tits, bitch!” Somewhere between wearing sweatpants with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone who’s in between those two extremes.

A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm. They don’t want to over dress or under dress, and don’t know how the bar atmosphere is going to be. They’ll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).

That’s what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a second. If you think that she is the kind of person you can walk up to and do this, then proceed.

If not, I’d actually suggest you proceed anyway, just to see what happens.

Next, right after you get that done and you’ve seen your girl (there are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment) you’re going to walk up and start the scary part.
What To Do
This is where the most powerful kind of frame control comes in. It’s very, very important that you understand how to control someone else’s frame if you want to come across like you’re a pro at this.

By “frame,” I basically mean their “reality.” You’re controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable making out with you immediately.

I’m going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way of doing this. I’ll explain as quick as possible; that way you can go straight out and try it…

Here’s what I would say, word-for-word… Walk up to a girl, when you get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, “Shhh?”

Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, “Wait just one moment.”

You can also say, “Stop for one minute.” I suggest using a bit of NLP here. Whenever someone hears “stop,” “wait,” or “don’t,” they immediately register whatever comes after that.

So if I say, “Don’t think of a black cat,” what do you do? Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever version of one you have in your head.

So if I said, “Don’t try to make out with me,” or “Don’t make out with me right now,” girls are going to be consciously hearing, “Don’t make out with me,” but their subconscious minds will be hearing, “Make out with me right now!”

You’re attempting to sort of use real-life Inception to get making-out with you to be HER idea. She should be thinking, “I should make out with this guy.”

Now, during frame control you’ll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get this to go as fast as possible. Please only use this for good. There are lots of evil ways to use this.

Don’t try to seduce women who don’t want to be seduced. Again, that’s one of the reasons why it’s important that you notice a woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.

So to recap so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and you tell her to “Shhh” for a second and then you say a sentence that starts with “don’t” or “wait” or “stop.”

My typical is “Don’t worry… right now.” That’s all I say. And I slow that speech down ? “Don’t?worry?……. right now.”

Then I go right into the next statement, which is, “You and I are going to have a secret. We’re going to secretly kiss and no one will know.”

And as I’m saying this, I’m leaning in… and you’ll be doing the same when you do it. You’re leaning in ever… so… slowly. At the same time, you’re looking from her eyes down to her lips and back up to her eyes again.

This is called “Triangulating.” Count to three looking at her eyes, then look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to three, look down and count to two… etc. Do that about three or four times as you’re talking.

This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to practice it a little bit. I wouldn’t expect you’re going to get it perfect the first time.

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So again, you say, “We’re going to have a secret. We’re going to kiss and no one is going to know.” From here on out, you’re really just filling up space with words as you’re leaning in so you’re still controlling the interaction.

So you’re going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand ? whichever one is more accessible ? and reach around her back. You won’t pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.
Signs That It’s Working
Is she looking at your lips? If she’s looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If she’s looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.

This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. It’s a strange loop-hole in psychology.

For some reason, that’s how we are as humans. When someone turns away then turns back, we give them another chance moving forward. So if you’re getting some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back off and find another woman.

If she’s looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and excited, then proceed. You’ll move in very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.
!Important!
In a loud environment like a bar, you’ll want to speak louder, but don’t raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear.

Then you’re going to keep talking… What I usually say is, “No one is going to see this. It’s just going to be our little secret. I promise I won’t tell anybody only if you promise that you won’t tell anybody either.”

As I’m saying this into her ear, I make sure that she’s feeling my breath on her neck. So I’m sort of breathing out a little bit more than normal as I’m speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck.

This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this.

As you’re speaking really close to her ear, you’ll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as you’re talking. Then you’ll move you head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then… you’ll start kissing her.

And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck… then go straight into making out. It may not seem like it in this description, but 40 seconds is a long time. This process can happen in a lot less than 40 seconds – I’ve done it in less time, and I’ve seen other guys do it, too.
Practice It
What I want you to do is practice this approach. Maybe go for a minute or two at first, and then get to where you can do this in about 40 (or even 30) seconds.

You won’t use this tactic all the time. But when the opportunity is right, it’s really good to have this in your seduction arsenal. You want to make sure that you have the right kind of tools for the job, so to speak.

Whenever you see a girl who’s in that state and ready to be seduced, if you beat around the bush, engage in small talk or generally waste time, she’ll be turned off and you’ve lost a golden seduction opportunity.

Instead, when you spot this, you want to be able to see her, know that that’s what she wants, go in, and give it to her immediately. This is the major difference between guys who are rock stars at walking up and seducing a woman… and guys who wish that they were great at quickly seducing a woman.

There are a lot of other success factors as well. There are techniques on how to speak with the right tonality… how to touch her that allows her to feel comfortable and doesn’t turn off any of her weird alert switches… specific NLP triggers that you can use to connect and make sure she’s totally in your zone.

What’s taken me from a normal dude to a well-respected dating coach, is knowing a lot of short-cuts like this and knowing when to bring them out. And these short-cuts can also improve your game with women.

Remember these characteristics in women who want to be seduced, and remember ? it is possible to make out with a woman in 40 seconds or less.

Discover my other top 3 “Seduction Secrets” in this special video presentation.

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Ericksonian Hypnosis Method

By Christopher Cohen

Neuro Linguistic Programming and Ericksonian Hypnosis are the primary backbones behind the power of conversational hypnosis. It is encouraging to see two schools of thought merging at their pinnacle. This phenomena exhibits that there is certainly legitimacy and validity behind the power of conversational hypnosis. It has been rumored that even Barack Obama has dabbled in a bit of conversational hypnosis. His ability to captivate audiences is unsurpassed by his predecessor. The subtle indirect usage of suggestion is what Neuro Linguistic Programming is all about.

The power of conversational hypnosis will give you the ability to influence people and your conversations with them in order to help improve you and your life. The basis of NLP and Ericksonian Hypnosis is through indirect suggestion that massages the unconscious mind in hopes that you will be able to resolve inner conflict that resides within your subconscious thus altering your behavior in what we commonly all refer to as Reality.

You can use the power of conversational hypnosis to transform your life and conversations. By using NLP and relaxation you are able to bring the other person into a state of persuasion. During this relaxed state, you are able to tamp in the unconscious and use indirect suggestion to control the tempo of the discussion. From there, you can enter the experiences that are stored in the deep subconscious to alter or adapt them.

By bringing the person into a state of deep relaxation, you are prepping their mind for embedded indirect suggestions that you can use to draw out certain aspects of the person based on their collective subconscious mind. The cool thing about implementing the power of conversational hypnosis is that it can be performed anywhere and at anytime. Neuro Linguistic Programming is the science behind embedded indirect suggestion. By learning the simple triggers of NLP, you will find yourself immersed in a world full of opportunity and relationships with people you never would have otherwise met.

One very simple method for bringing a person into a state of deep relaxation is to ask them about something dear to them. For example, if Mothers Day happens to be a week away, you can ask them about their mother and what they plan on doing for Mothers Day. By inquiring about someone personal and dear to them you bring the person to be hypnotized one step closer to deep relaxation. Of course, if the person is not in good terms with their mother and they start to get riled up over your inquiry, simply shift the focus to something more universal.

Once in that relaxed state, the power of conversational hypnosis comes into play. Through indirect suggestion or NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) the person to be hypnotized will be able to make the behavioral modifications that they want in life. NLP can be explained through a very plain and simple example.

Imagine you are carrying a tray of glasses filled to the brim with iced tea. On your way from the kitchen to the patio, you are focused and concentrating on maintaining your balance so as not to spill your drinks. All of the sudden someone yells out, "Dont spill that!" Now, what may seem a nice enough gesture to ensure that you dont spill the ice tea has actually put into motion conditions that will increase your likelihood of spilling the tray of drinks. The reason for this is that the subconscious mind cannot discern between negations and affirmations. Simply speaking, your unconscious mind processes "Spill that!" and ignores the negation "Dont"

Here is another example. Sit comfortably or lie down, whichever is more comfortable for you. Now, do NOT focus on your breath for 15 seconds. Now, take a 15 second break and come back when youre done. Im gonna take a wild guess here and say that you thought about your breath for the whole 15 seconds. This is a basic example of how the unconscious mind cannot discern what a negation is.

The power of conversational hypnosis works in the same way. Indirect suggestion brings about real change in real people. The methods of conversational hypnosis are proven and have helped thousands improve their lives. As time goes on you will improve on your skills to harness the true power of conversational hypnosis. - 30535

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How to text girlfriend in the morning

Good morning messages to girlfriend are very important if you want to show her how much you really care about her and that she is the first thing you think of when you wake up in the morning.

With simple message you can change her day totally. She will love your attention in the morning and will feel even more loved.
But the most important is, that she will be thinking about you and your message whole day, starting from the morning.

Good morning messages to girlfriend can be only quick note to her or a simple sentence that tells a lot, but remember that it must be from your heart. Bellow can be found some of the best ideas of good morning messages to girlfirend.

> G-get up
O-open your eyes
O-out of your bed
D-day has risen
M-merry life
O-old dreams come true
R-rise and shine
N-new friends
I-ideas of life
N-nice future
G-GOODDAY 4 U!

> Dear Customer,
Your remaining
Sleeping time
Has expired.
SO
Please
Leave your bed
And get up.
And
say t0 all
G00D M0RNING HAVE A NICE DAY !!!

> vEvery sunset gives us,
One day less to live!
But every sunrise give us,
One day more to hope!
So, hope for the best.
Good Day & Good Luck!
And Good Morning

> An excellent saying
“The Dream is not what you see in sleep,
Dream is the thing which does not let you sleep.”
Good morning

> Happiness is not something u postpone 4 the future.
It’’s something u design 4 the present.
Make each moment a happy one.
I just did it by remembering U!

Good Morning & Have a nice day       

> Now SUN is HAPPY and
MOON is Upset
Because
MOON is Missing you and
SUN is with you
Have a Great and
lovely day

> “The minute you think of giving up any relation,
think of the reason why you held it so long”
Good morning and have a nice day

> Hi to Sweet Person
who passed Sweet Night with a Sweet Dream,
Now want to pass Sweet Day with Sweet talk,
Have a Sweet DAY,
Have a Sweet MORNING!!!

> Dont read success story.
Read only failure story,
B’coz, failure story you get new idea to win,
from Success story you get only message.
Good morning to u

> Good morning
With a great light of sun
With the songs of birds
With the great Azaan of Masjid
With the Quraan
With the happiness
With a great smile
And with the morning prayer
Have a nice day

> Silent in mouth may avoid many problems..
But..
smile in mouth may solve all the problems..
So always have a sweet, silent smile…
Wish you a good morning and nice day

> Hi,now i am coming to meet u…
in the way of sun light…
in the way of sweet breeze…
in the way of good wishes…
just to say good morning…

> One day Monday went to Tuesday to see Wednesday and ask Thursday wheather Frday has told Saturday that SundaY is a FUN day....Good morning...

> The Word ‘Hello’ means
H=How R U?
E=Everything all right?
L=Like 2 hear 4rm U.
L=Love 2 C U soon.
O=Obviously,
I miss you!
Good Morning my friend

> Morning is a good time to
remember all the sweet things
and
all sweet persons in your life
so wake up with your your dreams
Goood Morning

> 5 Steps To A Lovely Morning..
1- Open Your Eyes.
2- Take A Deep Breath.
3- Smile A Bit.
4- Open Your Arms Wide.
5- Say, “Its Too Early.
Lets Sleep Again.”

> New Morning+ New Aim+ New Achievement + Ur Dedication + Commitment=Success...Just do it and win it Good Morning....

> All mornings are like Paintings:-
You need a little inspiration to get going,
A little smile to brighten up & SMS from someone who
Cares to color your day…GOOD MORNING…..Have a Nice Day

> Every new day
Is a new chapter of life
Bringing new topics
New moments for life
I wish today all the good
Moments approach
Way to make your day joyful
Good Morning 

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Women Men Love And Women Men Leave

There are two types of women in the world, women men love women men leave.  Which one are you?  It doesnt really matter which side you fall on at this point, if you read and use the information in this article you can become the women men love for the rest of your life.
The first step to make sure your man will love you the way you want to be loved, is to know what it is your man needs in the relationship and then give it to him.  This seemingly simple thing is messed up more often than you would believe.  Many women will think this means to be completely subservient to their man and do whatever he wants even if she doesnt want to do it.
Nothing could be further from the truth.  In reality no man (unless hes "damaged goods" which you wouldnt want to be in a relationship with anyway) wants a women who is a door mat.  A real man will like his women to have a mind of her own, but he also wants her to be his biggest fan.
Women tend to think that if they give their man all the sex he wants, and if they dress up in sexy lingerie they are meeting all their mans needs.  Again, if that is truly all your man needs you might want to find a man with a little more depth.  Its a misconception that all men want is sex.  Yes, sex is an important part of a relationship, for men and women, but it shouldnt be the do all, end all in any relationship, if it is your relationship will fail, its just a matter of time.
In order to really form a long lasting bond you need to base  your relationship on more than just physical intimacy.  Whether we like it or not, we will all get older and as we do sex will become more difficult for various physical reasons. If your whole relationship is just based on physical intimacy, how can it survive once that is taken out of the equation?
The women that men leave, believe it or not,  are the women who try too hard to be whatever he wants. Your man needs to feel special and loved, admired, and desired, but it wont mean very much to him if it doesnt seem sincere.  If he feels like you are just being pliable he will quickly get bored and move on to someone more real. 
So for all you women out there, you do have a choice.  You can be either type of women:  women men love women men leave.  Its entirely up to you.  It doesnt mean giving up your own identity, it just means trying to understand your man and what he really wants and needs from you.
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Win Ex Boyfriend Back In 7 Easy Steps

Has your guy just dumped you?  It really hurts doesn’t it?  Well, here’s how to get your ex back back in 7 easy steps.

1. Do you really want him back?  Okay, this may seem like an odd step to go through, but it is really important.  Your boyfriend may seem indispensible, but you will be able to move on without him.  If he’s someone worth keeping, read on.  But if he’s just “any old guy” don’t hang on for the sake of hanging on.  As the old saying goes, “there are other fish in the sea.”

2. Think about why you broke up.  Think carefully about what he said when he dumped you.  Also think back to the things he said to you in the days right before you broke up.  He may have indicated that you were too clingy or that you had let yourself go.  If he wants you to change, you have to decide whether you want to be the girlfriend he wants to have.

3. Don’t bug him.  Sometimes, girls think that they should call or text their ex a bunch of times hoping that showing how much they love their guy will get him back.  Instead, you should give him some space.  This will let both of you evaluate the relationship.  If you are in school together, you don’t need to go out of your way to avoid him, but don’t chase him down either.

4. Don’t manipulate him.  You may be tempted to flirt with his friends, for instance, in an attempt to make him jealous.  More likely, it will just make him annoyed and put him off you.  He may even think you are acting slutty.  So, stay away from doing manipulative actions.

5. Play hard to get.  Don’t let him think that he can wiggle his little finger and you will come rushing to his side.  Let him squirm a little bit.  Remember guys like the chase. 

6. Don’t send friends as emissaries.  It’s common for girls to send their girlfriends to “feel out” your ex.  But this just annoys guys.  If you are going to communicate something to him, do it yourself.  Don’t put him in the awkward position of having to explain his feelings to your friends.

7. Don’t get worried about a new girlfriend.  It’s probably just a rebound relationship.  It is not uncommon for a guy to hook up with a new girl right after he has broken up with you.  But these rebound relationships rarely last.  It is very possible that he will come back to you after he has some time to work things out.  In the meantime, become everything he wants in a girl.  Get gorgeous.  Be friendly.  Be happy.  These things will pry him away from the good time girl and back into your arms.

Many girls don’t know how to get your ex back.  They do it all wrong and end up pushing him away instead.  When you follow the seven steps in this article, you will be able to come out a winner in the game of love.
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Holistic Therapy for Couples Creating Balance In Your Life And Relationship

By Stephen Daniels

Many couples who experience a bump in the road in their relationship turn to counseling for help. Some people do not realize the differences between holistic counseling and traditional counseling when they are trying to work out relationship issues.

Traditional counseling often places its focus on the issues the couple brings to the session to discuss, whether they are subjects of frequent arguments, one partners hurt feelings, or intimacy issues. While working on these surface issues is sometimes useful, this approach tends to be little more than a band-aid to cover only visible wounds while ignoring the imbalance between the partners that is the underlying cause of these surface problems.

A couples individual disagreements and communication problems could be symptoms of a much greater issue - one that will never be addressed by traditional counseling. In most cases, when two people are in need of counseling, both the individuals and the couple as a unit are out of balance and need a more holistic approach to help them heal themselves and their relationship.

Holistic Counseling is entirely focused on helping partners reclaim that balance and wellness for themselves and for their lives together. A balanced partnership is one founded upon feelings of love, trust, intimacy, and joy. As such, all holistic therapy will focus on enhancing these aspects of the bond.

The holistic approach is best for two people who feel like their relationship is out of balance, particularly if they believe that their disagreements are a symptom of a larger issue. Relationships lacking in joy, intimacy, or positive communication can benefit from this method. Through holistic therapy, partners can explore these issues and learn new ways of thinking about their bond with one another.

Holistic therapy may particularly appeal to people who find a traditional therapists approach off-putting. Some participants in typical therapy sessions feel like they are being involved in a moderated debate; others even think their partner and the therapist are ganging up on them.

Another big plus of holistic counseling is that it is far less likely than traditional counseling to result in medication being given to one or both parties. Antidepressants, anti-anxiety drugs, and sleeping pills are often prescribed by traditional counselors. Sometimes, these drugs serve only to increase relationship issues problems. They can cause sexual problems or even change an individuals personality to some degree. This can cause yet another rift in an already fragile partnership. While drugs are not inappropriate for every case, many modern practitioners use medication as a first line of defense rather than a final resort. There is no doubt that swallowing a pill is easier than changing a couples worldview or the way that they work with one another.

Holistic therapy is generally not a quick fix for couples problems. However, it will reach down to the roots of the bond to improve the relationship as a whole as well as both individuals. It is a method created for partners who desire true balance in their lives, both together and separately. - 30535

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Love Relationship Advice

For most people, its pretty easy to find love.  The challenge often seems to be to be able to make it last.  Keeping your love for each other strong is not impossible.  You just have to understand why it falls apart and make sure you, and your partner, avoid those traps.  Thats where love relationship advice comes in handy.
With the advent of online dating sites there are more ways than ever to meet the one.  Its a much better method than cruising the bar scene looking for someone special.  For most couples the first few months is pretty easy.  You are falling in love and you think the other person is perfect.  You can see no wrong in them or what they do.  And maybe there isnt anything wrong with the way they, or you, act in the early stages of a relationship.
They say that familiarity breeds contempt and if thats true it would go a long way to explaining why the longer a relationship goes on the more it tends to break down.
Here is a list of some of the things you, and your partner, need to be on the lookout for in your relationship.  These are common traps that many couples fall into without realizing it.  If you know what to watch out for and can avoid these mistakes you will have a much better chance of keeping your relationship strong and healthy for a long time:
1. Unrealistic expectations.  As I said above we think our new love can do no wrong.  As our relationship slowly changes from falling in love to being in love and all the day to day stresses and mundane tasks we must face, its easy to lose some of that early glow.  This can be a pivotal time in many relationships, sometimes the couple will think that they just dont love each other anymore and break up.
In reality, in any long term relationship, you will spend a much longer time in this normal mode than you will in the early glow mode.  Its important to recognize that this is all a normal progression in an adult relationship.
2. Inability to effectively communicate.  Men and women express themselves differently...thats just the way it is.  The good news is that you can learn to communicate with your partner effectively, if youre willing to take some time to learn how. The whole its a guy thing or its a girl thing is only true to a point, and is largely just a cop out.  In reality any mature, intelligent adult should be able to learn how to talk to their partner, and even more importantly, listen to their partner.  The real question is do you care enough about your partner and the relationship to take the time?
3.  Dont confuse sex with love.  This may sound obvious but men and women tend to look at sex in different ways.  Women, for example, tend to look at sex as a way to connect with someone they love on a deeper physical level.  Yes, its pleasurable, but the pleasure isnt just physical its emotional as well.
Men tend to look at sex as definition of who they are as a man.  For them too, its pleasurable but its also a way to prove their desirability and masculinity.  Sometimes when a relationship gets to the comfortable stage this difference in views about sex can create problems.  If one partner doesnt seem sexually interested in the other partner it can create severe stress on the relationship.
If your relationship gets to this point, it might help if you and your partner can remember that sex is only one small component of every thing your relationship is made up of.  While for many couples, having an active sex life is an important part of the relationship, its important to understand that as you age and your relationship grows, it probably wont be  quite as important as it once was. That doesnt mean your partner doesnt love you or find you attractive, its just a fairly common way for long term relationships to go.
I hope this love relationship advice will help you hold on to the love youve found.  Being able to make a deep, long lasting, connection with another person really is one of lifes blessings.  Make your connection last by learning how to avoid the pitfalls of some relationships.
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Tips On How To Get Your Ex Girl Back

Be Yourself:

The first good tip that you should follow on how to get your ex back is to simply be yourself.  If you really want to have a shot at getting your ex back, you need to become the person that the ex was attracted to in the first place.  Too many people in this situation would be tempted to act macho or clingy, both of which are terrible things to do to an ex that has already expressed her desire to have space from you.  You need to act like your own honest self around your ex and make her see the great person that you are.  Only when she truly realizes how much she misses having you around will you have a chance at getting her back.

Less Contact is Better:
Another good tip for you to follow is that less contact with your ex is better.  This is actually another one of those tips that is counterintuitive for some people.  A lot of people would be tempted to try and get into as many situations with their ex as possible in order to have the maximum exposure to them.  This is something that is likely to push them out of your life for good.  Your ex broke up with you and that means that they voluntarily decided that they wanted space from you.  Give them that space and respect their privacy.  Be nice and yourself to them when you do get a chance to see them and maybe they’ll start to pick up the things that made them want you in the first place.

Move On Slowly:
Another thing that you can do is to move on slowly.  This is not something that’ll help you like the other tips on how to get your ex girl back.  What it’ll do for you however is start to put your mind back into healthy mode.  Obsessing after an ex is generally not a good idea, especially if the ex is the one that ended the relationship.  Most of the time, they’re not coming back to you.  If you move on slowly and start to realize that there are other fish in the sea, you will be much healthier mentally.  That’ll translate into much more positive body language which in turn will be noticed by your ex the few times that you see them.

Don’t Blow Opportunities:
The thing about attempts to get your ex back is that you can undo weeks or even months of decent work with one stupid line uttered in the heat of the moment.  If you do the things discussed above, your ex might start to take an interest in you again.  If she does, make sure that you keep on doing those things.  Be yourself, be honest and above all else do not pester them.  If you suddenly start to become needy and false, your ex will spot the change a mile away and you will destroy all the progress you’ve made.
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New article in the How to Survive an Affair section

Excerpt from Cheating hurts: He doesnt understand how I feel after his affair...

"Its like he doesnt understand at all. He acts like Im the one whos killing our marriage because I wont let it go. He thinks its over and done with and in the past, and I should just move on like he has. Make like its no big deal -- but I cant. Why doesnt he understand how much it hurts? How can I communicate to him what hes done to me?"

Could those words be yours?

Do you feel like, even though youre still living with your husband after he had an affair, your marriage might not recover because he hasnt acknowledged the injury hes done to you?

Read the complete article...
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How To Save My Marriage

Do you wonder “how to save my marriage?”  This article tells you how to save your marriage.
First, you need to identify the trouble in your relationship.  Some common troubles include:
· Money concerns
· Child rearing difficulties
· Lack of sex
· Lack of communication
· Loss of identity
And, of course, there are many others.  You may discover that there is one main problem or you may identify several smaller problems that are eating away at your marriage. 
When you identify the problem or problems that are at the root of your marriage troubles, you will be able to move on to the next step which is close, personal interaction.
In this step, you will need to be open to extensive conversation.  If you have not had a lot of open communication during your marriage, you may want to consider counseling in order to facilitate the personal interaction that is key to this step. 
If you really want to save your marriage, you will set aside time to work on your marriage issues every single day.  You could set aside some time like after the children go to bed or you could decide to take a walk after dinner every day for just the two of you.  But, you should plan to get back in touch with each other.  A daily habit of quality time with your spouse is very important.
Take some “romantic time” each week.  For some couples, this means reinstating a “date night” every week.  On Tuesdays, for instance, you get a sitter and go out for a picnic or walk around the mall.  As you can see, this doesn’t have to involve wine and roses every week, but a romantic time that you can look forward to all week is essential.
As you spend time together being romantic and discussing your problems, you must have an open mind toward what your partner is telling you.  You need to understand that a lot of the problems in your marriage are caused by – get this – you!  Until you really listen to your partner, you are not going to be able to effect the kind of personal change necessary to save your marriage.
You need to have faith in your partner.  You need to give him or her the benefit of the doubt.  You need to believe that the marriage still can and will work.  You also need to believe that your partner is still essentially the same person he or she was when you married them.  If you cannot have faith in your partner and in your marriage, you might as well give up now.
Finally, you have to be open to forgiveness.  If your partner has made mistakes – even major ones – you must be able to forgive.  If you insist that there are things that cannot be forgiven, there is no hope for your marriage. 
Everyone makes mistakes.  Some people make big mistakes.  If that person makes a genuine apology – which includes acts of contrition and an effort to change – they deserve forgiveness.
This article gave you answers to that perplexing question, “how to save my marriage.”
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About Depression

By John James

The natural ways to treat depression are much cheaper than prescription drugs and are also considered to be efficient. These include practice, meditation, sleep, NLP and hypnosis also as having a balanced diet.

Exercise is one of the good ways to treat depression because it acts as a mood booster and is believed to be better than prescription medications in preventing the recurrence of mild to moderate depression.

These natural ways to treat depression are more preferred by a good deal of over prescription drugs because antidepressants and sleeping tablets can be addictive and may result to further and added difficulties. But if the sick person is already taking prescription antidepressants, you have to check with your physician if any of these alternative treatments will be good for your case.

Since stress assists trigger depression, you better similarly learn to manage stress effectively and avoid taking illegal drugs or those that were not prescribed by your doctor to refrain from substance abuse.

In a good deal of cases, supportive care that involves counseling sessions with your doctor is similarly as helpful as prescription antidepressants. It would likewise assist a lot if you get aid from family as well as from other individuals having this disorder. Other treatment being considered is the combination of behavioral, cognitive and interpersonal therapy.

You see, I thought it was my problem and that I would deal with it in my own way. But that didnt work out the way I planned. Because, I noticed I was angry all of the time. I was short with my children and I also was short with my wife also.

I tried treating my depression with "natural alternatives". I tried to get my serotonin levels, higher naturally, because that would pull me out of the depression. But again, things did not work out that way.

So I gave in and went to the doctor. I told them my difficulties and they put me on a drug for anxiety and depression since they both fine-looking much go hand-in-hand.

Men may experience a loss of sexual drive and this only adds to their sensations of worthlessness. They see this as a failure and an indication of their manhood. This could not be any farther from the truth. It is a medical condition that is caused from their depression.

Depression is a medical condition that needs to be treated. It is not a sign of weakness and must not be regarded a womans disease.

What causes depression is a lack of balance or state of disequilibrium of serotonin, a hormone, in the brain. It has been linked as a major contributor and a cause for somebody deciding to kill themselves.

The number of persons who are downhearted and die from suicide is roughly fifth-teen percent. Men are four times as likely as women to die from an attempted self-killing, altho women try it more often times but with failure. The elderly have the highest rate of successful suicides with sixty four dieing from suicide for everybody hundred thousand who die in general. The amounts of recorded suicides in the world have been steadily increasing for years now, along with the quantity of persons diagnosed with depression.

Whether or not you or an individual you acknowledge is suicidal you better seek professional assist for them. If what the age or gender, its not a healthful train of thought in the least. Whether or not see it as an undertake for attention and that they wont try. - 30535

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Still In Love With My Ex Girlfriend How To Get Her Back

Many men tell me Im still in love with my ex girlfriend. They want to know if theres anything they can do to get her back. The very first question to ask men who think they want their ex back is to ask what theyve already tried.

A man who is serious about getting his ex girlfriend back will usually say hes repeatedly tried to tell her how much he loves her and needs her. Hes reassured her that hell change and the relationship will be different if she gives him a second chance.  This kind of begging and pleading simply shows a woman that youre desperate and often drives them even further away.

Some men will try the opposite tactic to pleading and theyll turn to bribery. Buying her expensive gifts or taking her to fancy restaurants in an attempt to impress her wont work either. She may accept your tokens, but bribery isnt the way to win back love.

The vast majority of women want to be in a relationship with a man who will listen to what she has to say. Even if shes just making small talk, its important to her that shes heard. This doesnt mean you have to agree with everything she says. You just need to listen.

When asked if theyre willing to listen to their ex girlfriends, men who are trying hard to get back their ex often say Ive tried to listen, but she doesnt listen to a word I say. Sometimes when men think theyre listening, what theyre really doing is hearing the problem and then immediately talking back to offer a solution to fix whatever problem his girlfriend is having. He believes because she doesnt hear a word he says that shes not listening.

However, only hearing the parts of the conversation you think you can help her with and then trying to make her listen to you first is not the same as YOU listening to your girlfriends needs. Women appreciate men who listen to them. Unfortunately, men communicate in slightly different ways, which could probably have been a contributing factor to your break up in the first place.

If youre still thinking Im still in love with my ex-girlfriend and want to get her back, then practice listening. Ask her a question and then listen to what she says intently. Make a comment about her response or ask another question relating to her response, but dont try to fix it or dismiss it as unimportant. Simply listen to her.

Women assume that a man who listens to her really cares. It tells you that you understand and that youre really interested. The next time you receive an opportunity to get together with your ex, take some time to establish eye contact and really listen intently to what she says.

At first, you might find your ex-girlfriend is a little confused or guarded about your sudden change, but when she realizes that you are interested in what shes saying shell begin to relax and realize that you do care. Shell immediately begin wondering why her feelings for you went away and they should come rushing back when she understands that you really do still love your ex and really do want to get your ex back.
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Dream Interpretations in Bible

By Cyrus Wong

Have you ever had dreams that are clear and you knew from your heart that there is some kind of meanings in it? If you are searching for the answer of how to correctly interpret dreams of yourself or of others, search no further for you have come to the right place. Open your bible and pray for knowledge, wisdom and revelation, because there are many dream interpretation example in the bible.

The most famous example of dream interpretations is probably the story of Joseph in the book of Genesis. Joseph was the youngest son of Jacob who had eleven more sons. Jacob, who is renamed by God as Israel, loved Joseph more than all his children. He made Joseph a coat of many colors. But this provoked the jealousy of his fellow brothers.

Josephs adventure began like this. One night Joseph had a dream. He saw himself and his brothers binding sheaves in the field. Then he saw his own sheaf stood up and his brothers sheaves stood around it and bowed to it. Joseph told his brothers about his dreams which had a clear meaning which is that so how his brothers would bow to Joseph someday. His brothers hated that dream and hated him some more.

In another night, Joseph had another dream again. This time he saw the sun, the moon and eleven stars bowed to him. Without stopped by the fear of further provocation, he told the dream to his father and brothers. They were all angry because they can all understand the implications of the dream, which is Israel, his wife and sons, are bowing to Joseph. All the brothers are filled with envy. But Israel pondered about the dreams because he knew, feel that the dreams have some significance.

These two dreams were very important dreams of Joseph which have significant meaning and impact. Because of the two dreams, Josephs brothers decided to kill him and eventually sold him to be a slave in Egypt. The dreams were shaping his destiny.

In this story, we could learn some significant spiritual principles. First, we can see how vicious is the sin of envy, which can even motivate brothers to slay each other. Second, we know that in the end the interpretations of the two Josephs dreams were correct. They really would bow to their little brother Joseph in Egypt. We can see that the dreams of Joseph are really foretelling the future. However, I think it is not wise for Joseph to tell people about these two dreams. I believe that he can clearly understand the meanings of the two dreams because he has the spiritual gift of interpreting dreams plus the two are easy to understand, even his brothers can immediately know. He also knows that his brothers are jealous of him since they didnt speak peaceably to him normally. Joseph knew that telling the dreams would provoke his brothers but he did it anyway. The only reason is that he did it in pride, which did not give rise to a good result.

We must pray for wisdom and revelation for the interpretation of dreams and also for the timing and attitude of telling the meaning of the dream to others. Great is the mystery! - 30535

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Theirs A Little Rebel Trapped In Each Of Us

By L.J. James

Whenever a person or group of people try to live their lives free, those who are stuck in unhappy lives will be jealous. Some people have a hard time letting go, freeing themselves from the day to day trials and tribulations of everyday life even for a little while. Others seek an escape from the stress and anxiety often associated with modern day life.

I guess for me, thats part of why I am a Biker. There is something about riding a bike that inspires a sense of freedom in me. The open road, the wind in my face, the smells, getting back to nature, the power of my bike. Its all these things and more that make me feel free. Its unfortunate that there are some people who, for whatever reason, cant find something or someway to let go and experience the sense of freedom that we do. These people, for whatever reason, are the ones who point to us and call us rogues or rebels. They say that what we are doing is wrong and that our culture is a "disruptive influence."

As Bikers, we live our lives a little differently. We work and have responsibilities, but we still know the feeling of freedom. Maybe its because we smile just a bit more and are a bit more relaxed that turns these people green with envy?

A person who works hard and has no free time sees a person on the road riding his or her motorcycle and thinks "I wish that was me!" The thought of being free doesnt leave their mind. They long for it. They crave it badly! How many of you out their have had a friend tell you how they have always wanted to buy a Motorcycle and just go out riding? How many of them ever actually do?

Here is a typical story : A man is driving home from work when he sees a group of motorcycle riders pull up next to him. He looks at this group of people riding together having a great time, He starts to think, "I wish that was me". He then decides, "Im going to buy a Motorcycle!" He starts thinking about riding. How great it will be to have his wife on the back of his bike and the wind in his face. We could ride up to the lake or maybe that little motel way up in the Mountains. Thinking of the great times he will have he starts to feel that small sense of freedom. He thinks "This must be what those Biker get to feel, Wow!"

He turns into the driveway, parks his truck and rushes into the house to tell his wife about his fantastic idea. "Hi honey, Im going to buy a Motorcycle." His wife looks at him and says "What? Did you get overwhelmed by the fumes at work again?" "You cant ride a Motorcycle. The man answers back, "Ill learn!"

"You must be crazy", she says. "Those things are death traps! You will kill yourself and we cant afford it!" "Honey this is something I really want" replies the man. "NO NO NO!!! I wont have one of those things in my house! What kind of message would it send to the kids, our neighbors?"

They argue about it, but it the end, the man never gets his motorcycle. He never goes to the lake with his wife or takes that trip up to the little motel in the mountains. He never feels the real sense of freedom one can only get when taking a long trip on a motorcycle. He spends the rest of his life wishing he had never seen that group of Motorcycles. He is angry and bitter.

Now when he sees Bikers he puts them down. He hates Bikers, not because of who or what they are, but because of what he can never be. He hates them because of what they represent. They represent a kind of freedom, sense of belonging, a oneness with nature and the world that he longs for, he craves, but can never have.

We live here in America, the home of the free, but many are not free. They have never experienced the sense of freedom that can only be experienced on two wheels and, for whatever reason, never will. They live boring, uneventful. "safe" lives and complain about those who dont.

Dont hate these envious people, pity them for they will never know the sense of freedom and brotherhood we get from riding with a group of our Bros. Theyll never know the wind in their face, the feeling of peace and oneness with nature we feel as we ride threw the country side or down a long lonely highway. Theyll never know the clarity of mind that comes from a long ride alone or the closeness and bond of a long ride or weekend away with someone special. Just thank your higher power that youve found a way to escape, a way to be free, even if for some its just on the weekends.

Ride Safe and Ride Free because when it all come down to it, this is all about the Ride!

Your Bro L.J. James AmericanBikerX.com - 30535

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Practical Stress Management in a Breeze

By Taylor Olson

Being at peace with yourself, as I understand it, is a very important condition which is the reverse of being stressed out. The way to stress management is not about minimizing your exposure to stresses but rather responding differently to these pressures.

This can be achieved by setting a goal, gradually moving forward through a different outlook and approach to live with yourself peacefully.

1. Love yourself just the way you are.

You may not be perfect, accept this. Heal old wounds. Start with loving and accepting yourself no matter what you have been through. Think of something now that you can do to show yourself that love. (You may seek psychological evaluation by a trained psychiatrist)

2. Accept what is happening with a well-balanced attitude.

You may not like what is happening for sure, it only means that you could be a simple observer, not taking any sides of whether you like it or not. Accept that it is done and you simply cannot do anything about it. (You may want to learn to deal better with the situations when they happen again and not be negatively affected by it)

3.View your experiences as lessons in life and use them to grow and be in a higher level than you were in before.See the stress below and disappear right before your eyes.

4. Dont be too serious.

Take time to laugh at your mistakes or misfortunes and try to do this everyday. As they say, laughter is the best medicine which will heal all pressure wounds.

5. Prioritize and think of doing first what is more important.

You are stressed out mostly because of the fear of not accomplishing all the tasks at hand. Limit what you consider to be the most meaningful goals in your life and choose well what is important and most of all doable with the limited resources you have - time and energy. You will not be stressed anymore knowing that your goals can be achieved exactly the way you want it done.

6. Clean up the mess in your life and live simply

Remove all unnecessary things, do not be involved in events and people who are not in your priority list mentioned above. You will have more than enough energy saved for reaching your most meaningful goals in life.

7. Be physically active.

Maintain a healthy active lifestyle, hydrate and hibernate only to boost up energy. Then go out and shape up.

8. Reflect, know your deepest desires and think of how to achieve these.

So, how does this step allow you to fight stress? By concentrating only on achieving your desires, you will not have time to think about being bothered or pressured. You change your ways through a peaceful approach but focused person. - 30535

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Is Your Marriage In Crisis

Is your marriage in crisis? Would you know it if it was? Do you recognize the warning signs? A marriage in crisis can sometimes disguise itself as a normal but slightly boring marriage until it’s too late to change it and save it.
You have to pay attention to all the signs of health in your marriage to make sure your partnership is going strong. First, look at how often you have sex. While sex isn’t the whole point of the marriage—it’s much more important than just that—it’s a crucial part of a healthy marriage.
A marriage in crisis is usually pretty easy to spot by looking at your sex lives. Do you have sex infrequently? Is it a big, scheduled deal when you do have sex? Have you stopped having sex spontaneously just when you feel like it?
When sex becomes a scheduled activity, a marriage can certainly recover. In fact, most marriages go through a phase very much like that when a baby is born. Each child makes it more and more difficult to find the time to spend with our partner over a meal or before leaving for work, let alone finding a spare hour to make love.
But a marriage in crisis never breaks out of that pattern. Instead, even when the time is there the partners don’t have spontaneous sex. Usually there’s very little physical affection shown during the day either. People in love and happy to be together tend to hug and kiss different times through the day.
A loving couple will often touch each other just in passing. One will give the other a fast kiss on the cheek or forehead for no reason. Does this still happen in your marriage? Do you ever sneak a quick pinch or pat on the bottom or a sexy look in the middle of the day?
When these things start to disappear, it can be a sign that the marriage is in trouble. The other thing that goes in a very obvious way is common courtesy. When you say “thank you,” “excuse me,” and “please,” throughout your day to strangers more than you say them to your partner, something’s wrong.
We take our partners for granted in this way, and eventually this leads to a sort of coldness between people. There is simply no reason not to be affectionate and thank our partners (and say please) during the course of everyday life.
The good news is that if you’re seeing these warning signs, you can start working right now to correct them. And you don’t have to make a fanfare about it or announce the change. Simply change what you do.
Make a point of giving affection and unexpected kisses. Be very polite again, and say please and thank you, even when it’s just the two of you. Make time for making love. Do these things and your marriage in crisis could soon be back on track and you could be happier than ever.
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More Spice in Your Love Life

By Larry Moon

One would ask what went wrong in different relationships for a break up to happen, especially if both mutually understand each others circumstances. Not all end up tragically and are still able to salvage of what is left of the relationship. But at some point, how can one save a damaged relationship?

It is common sense that in order for one to be able to approach a problem, a person should initially know the root of the problem. It means analyzing the situation and everything about it so that he or she can generate a resolution.

Although this is not perfect and needs to be tested, it is still better than doing nothing. It needs basic knowledge in coping with a relationship and it is the same as how scientist resolve all problems. How to apply this same concept in different scenarios?

how to get my ex back

First of all, one should have the correct understanding of things to be able to know the main issue so that it can be easily resolved through problem identification. As other people say, you can not heal an invisible wound.

With any break up scenario, one should not have the misconception that the problem is how to get back the ex but rather, what went wrong that made the other go astray in the first place? By having this kind of mindset, the person working hard to win back an ex can have a clearer concept of things because in order to be successful, it all depends on the factors why the partner leaves.

One may understand that even if the relationship seems alright, it could be decaying in the inside possibly due to lack of time. It is of utmost importance for a relationship to have a constant communication between lovers, regardless of the circumstances. He or she must make an effort about having quality time to be with their partners without compromising each others jobs.

In addition to that, it doesnt mean that when there are no arguments between, it is likely that one or both people are not properly addressing apparent issues. It may be lack of quality time so understand that it is helpful to spend ample time with each other to have a happy and healthy relationship. This is because by staying together, both parties can easily address the needs and wants of each other.

The above concept does not limit itself to mere relationships between a boy and a girl but rather, is also applicable to a family and even the whole community. But setting family and community aside, by not being able to take care of the needs, it will cause the person deprived of the need to hunger for it, and ultimately, to search for it. - 30535

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How to your ex girlfriend back

Relationships often end in a whirlwind of doubt and bitter accusation. You probably said a few things you didnt mean, and she fought back. Now that youve had a little bit of time to think about whats been lost, you know you want her back. Heres how to do that.

Part 1: Get Your Life Back Together

 

1. Get your life back on track. So youve been in a relationship for some time, and maybe your girlfriend has just broken it off. Its a sad and lonely time for you right now, but focus on the things you can change about yourself before you move back on to her.

• Girls want to see self-improvement from guys. Maybe your girlfriend complained about something you did while you two were in your relationship. Maybe theres something that you know you can improve simply because it will make you a better person. Well, nows the time to strike. Cut your video game playing down to a reasonable time, if thats what she wants, or start wearing cleaner clothes when youre around her. If you focus on being a better person while apart, you can go back to her with the "evidence" that youre a new guy.
• Recover emotionally. You dont stand a chance of getting your ex back if youre not emotionally calm and controlled. Women dislike needy, clingy, despekrate men - so you need to pull your own life together before attempting to draw her back into it. Like it or not, showing her that you can deal with life on your own will attract her back to you. Thats because girls like men who are self-sufficient and independent. So go out to the gym, visit the movies with friends, or start an adventure. If youre having a great time, shell want to be there with you.
• Get some new clothes. New times call for new duds. Its a subtle change in you, but the importance will be clear to her: your new outer shell will signal deeper changes underneath. Get that new shirt that youve been wanting to buy, or those new pair of jeans. Looking sharp is an important aspect of physical attraction, and if she sees you looking great in unfamiliar clothes, shell sense that theres been forward movement, if not wholesale change.

2. Get the right attitude. Getting your ex-girlfriend back starts with finding the right attitude. Girls, for the most part, want to see mature, independent guys who like to have fun and know what theyre good at. We know thats a lot to work, so start small if youre feeling overwhelmed.

• Stop being jealous. Being jealous will get you nowhere. Jealousy is associated with fear and anxiety, two unattractive traits to have. Plus, what youre non-verbally telling her is that you want to control her. No one wants to be controlled. So learn to fight your jealousy if you can, and focus on being non-threatening. Youll get more bees with honey than you will with vinegar.
• Act like nothing is wrong. Even if your guts are tumbling like clothes in a washing machine, try not to let her know. Shes probably not going to want you back if youre acting depressed, mopey, or sulky. Make sure youre laughingand genuinely trying to have a good time. You might find that youve become a happier person along the way. If you are feeling depressed, surround yourself with friends or family. Dont wait alone in a corner and just hope for her to come back to you.
• Develop a playful sense of humor. What do girls say they look for most in guys? A sense of humor and a playful attitude. These two traits are attractive because they tell other people that were youthful and not aggressive. So learn a few jokes if you can (friends are always good to try them out on) and keep the ones that work and throw away the ones that dont. Learn to make fun of yourself a little, in a confident way — not a mopey way. And, for goodness sake, be playful, especially when youre around her. Tease her lovingly, or play a small prank on a friend. Youll notice the difference in her.

Part 2: Set The Stage

 

1. Leave her alone. At least for a little while, give her some time to think about the relationship. If you had a great relationship, shell think about all the good things that you did for her and feel the absence of you in her life.

• Cut off all communication. Maybe you dont talk to her for a couple weeks, or perhaps a month. This is tough and it will hurt, but really its killing her more. This will also let your tempers cool down if things were heating right when you broke up.
• You need to give her space for three reasons: 1) People simply need space; if you cant give her any space, maybe thats something you can work on to show her that youve changed. 2) Shell get an opportunity to realize how good you are; not that she doesnt know this already, but she may not feel it in her bones. 3) Youll show her how independent you are on your own; the "rebel" is so attractive to women because hes totally on his own and doesnt need other people.

2. Start talking to another girl. Dont do anything with her, but strike up a friendship. You want to raise your own stock by showing her that other girls like you and are attracted to you.

• Dont get this step confused with pursuing another girl. You want to hang out and talk, do fun things together, but not hook up. If you hook up with another girl, your chances of getting back together with your ex are greatly diminished.
• Go out with a group of girls. Show your ex that attentive girls like being around you. These girls will be your wing-women. If you can pull together a big group of popular, intelligent, smart girls, chances are your ex is going to feel more interested, maybe without even noticing it.

3. Tap your inner alpha male. The alpha male, in nature, is the male in a group of primates that has the highest rank, and gets his pick of the females.

• Most girls are attracted to the alpha male for deep biological reasons: They believe he can provide for them better, protect them better, and give her biologically fit children. Even if you dont think that alpha males are your exs type, subtle changes might work on her: pump out your chest a bit, make an effort to work out your arms and thighs, and project strength.

Part 3: Make The Move

 

1. Give her an apology. Whether you broke up with her, or she broke up with you, an apology is almost always in order. An apology shows her that youre capable of swallowing your ego, and that you care enough to tell her you were wrong. If done correctly, an apology will work wonders.

• Send her flowers. Girls love flowers, for reasons men still dont know. They die after a week, and they just sit around gathering dust. Well, odds are your ex probably loves them, because they smell pretty and look good and she gets to show them to her friend and brag about how much someone cares for her. You want to be that someone.
• Send her a letter. Girls also love letters, because they take a lot of time and you have to express your feelings. Start off by saying something like: "I know this letter doesnt fix whats broken between us, and maybe it never will. But I want you to know that I care deeply about you, and I always will. That part has never changed. The part thats changed is that I realize how stupid I was to let you go."
• Tell her in person. Set a time to meet in a public place, or a place that you know shell feel comfortable in. When the time is right, say: "I know I made some mistakes during our relationship, and I wanted to take full responsibility for those. I shouldnt have done [whatever it is you did] to you, and I feel horrible now. But the biggest mistake I made was losing you. I dont expect anything from you, I just want you to know that."

2. Slowly work up to friendship. Maybe some trust was broken in your relationship, and now its time for you to start repairing it. Trust for girls is a big thing. You want to show her that she can trust you again, that you are worthy of her trust.

• Do something nice for her without expecting her to pay you back. If shes studying late for an exam, pop by with her favorite tea or coffee and let her know that you know shes going to kill it tomorrow. If one of her friends gets in an accident, stop by and pay your respects (the friend will definitely let your ex know you stopped by). If your ex mentions she wanted to see a movie, buy her two tickets for her and her friend to see, and dont butt in. Your time will come soon.
• Go out for coffee or tea together. Ride your bikes into town. Hang out at the pool. Have conversations about things both of you find funny, or like talking about. Remember to act confident, be funny, and get that playfulness out so that she can see it.

3. Tell her you still have feelings for her. Once youve apologized and become her friend again, you can finally tell her you want her back. Try to pick a romantic spot to do this, and try to tell her when its just you two. It wont hurt if youre looking your best.

• Be honest about how you feel, within reason. Dont tell her what she might have done wrong in the relationship. Instead, focus on you. Let her know that youve thought a lot about where things went wrong, and show her all the ways in which youve changed. Tell her how youve become more patient, more forgiving, more aware of your own shortcomings, and be sure to back it up with action. If you say youve become more forgiving, be able to show her that youre not as quick to point out other peoples faults.
• You can say something like: "After we broke up, I realized I was looking for love in the wrong places. I realized that you gave me exactly what I need, and its really a shame that I had to realize that after we broke up. But I realize it now, and Id be stupid not to try to get you back, because youre exactly what I need."
• Or you can say something like: "You may not like it, but most of what I do now, I do it for you. Youve made a better person. I understand what it means to care for someone now that Ive been with you. I want to share that with you again, this time better. Because I cant deny that I still have feelings for you. Id be lying to myself and lying to the world."
• Assure her that you both can fix the issues that led to your breakup. Remember why you guys broke up in the first place, so you can learn from your own mistakes. Have a plan ready, and discuss that plan with her. Its no use in getting back together if you go through the same issues all over again. If you didnt listen to her feelings enough, be sure that youre listening when you tell her you like her. If you didnt get along with her friends, make an extra effort to get along with them. Have a plan to attack whats likely to go wrong, and youll impress the socks off of her.

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How to Impress a Girl and Make Her Fall in Love

If you talk to any number of super hot girls and approach them, you will start to see one thing over and over – she is going to test you. If you fail these tests, you will not not hook up with her. Period. You will join the piles of men she’s had to reject because they weren’t confident enough.

The GOOD news is, that there is a way to pass these tests nearly 100% of the time.

Most really hot girls’ tests are enough to make men run away with their tails between their legs. If you know the technique to passing, then you are going to be in the VERY small percentage of guys who make it through her defenses and are actually a sexual candidate.

How to Impress a Girl …

If you don’t know this one secret technique, you will fail these tests and never gain entrance into the world of attracting and sleeping with truly beautiful women.

These tests can be one of two types: compliance tests or congruence tests. Today, we are talking about compliance tests. First, let me explain a bit more about these tests and WHY hot women NEED them.

A compliance test is an act or a statement that checks to see if you are going to do whatever she wants. If you comply, she will have gained control over the conversation, the interaction, and you. It seems like they want you to fail these tests so they have the power, right?

Fortunately, that is not the case. When women give compliance tests, they really do want you to pass them. It is their way of filtering out a truly confident, attractive guy from the rest. It may sound strange, but beautiful women honestly can’t just look at a guy an say “he’s good looking, therefore he’s attractive.” They need much more because they are approached by so many different types of guys. A really attractive girl will get hit on 10-15 times A DAY.

That’s 3,650 times a year (conservatively) that an attractive woman is hit on. She will start to see patterns in the ways guys behave if they are actually confident or not, and that has nothing to do with looks.

The compliance test is really a test to see whether or not they’re going to be able to get away with whatever they want. Why you want to test this? Well, they want to find out whether or not you’re used to beautiful women hitting on you or whether or not you’re used to being with beautiful women.

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This is a very crucial concept. If you are used to being with beautiful women, you will not bend over backwards for a beautiful woman just because she wants something. Instead, you will respond in a way that sort of puts the compliance back on her.

Beautiful women are guaranteed to give you compliance tests and if you fail the compliance tests, you are guaranteed not to attract them. So it’s very crucial that you learn this.

How do you recognize compliance tests? Basically, look for any demand that she gives you within a short time of meeting that seems small, but gets you to follow.

One very classic compliance test is “buy me a drink.”

Women go for throat here when you’re in the bar because they don’t have a whole lot of time to figure out who is attracted and who is confident, who’s not. How you respond to “buy me a drink” is very crucial when you’re in a bar.

There are other small things like “why don’t you wait here while I go to the bathroom.” or “give me a kiss on the cheek” or even “will you take a picture for us?”

Anything that seems kind of harmless is typically a compliance test especially if it’s from a really beautiful woman and you don’t want to deny the compliance test, what you want to do is take control over it and add your own terms.

For example, if someone says, “Take our pictures.” Then you will say, “okay, I will but I want you to take one picture for you and one picture of how I ask you to take it.” So if they refused to do this, and you go, “Alright, well find some other guy.”

You will actually find some other guy to take the camera and say, “Hey man, can you take their picture?” And you just have them take your picture.
But usually they will say okay fine, you take the picture and you go “okay, now I want you to give me a sexy look.” Then take their picture. “Okay now, make a silly face”, take a picture. And continue to make them do different pictures as long as you can think of them.

Essentially what you’re doing now is you are getting compliance from them. This is crucial. This is called flipping the script and you will hear a lot about this. Flipping the script is one of the most powerful things that you can do to a woman that you don’t know and it will create a massive amount of intrigue and a massive amount of attraction that will be built.

So from now on, know and recognize when women is giving you a compliance test. Don’t stop and don’t reject the compliance test. Add your own terms.

When you start doing this, you are going to see the truly beautiful women in the bar start to treat you in a completely different way. You can actually watch other guys approach, get shot down and see it ruin their nights as you can easily navigate the sea of compliance tests and come out looking like a rockstar, making her more and more attracted to you since you’re the kind of guy who won’t just do exactly what she wants.

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