Depression and Anger Go Together

By Owen Jones

Anxiety and depression are almost certainly the causes of uncontrollable anger. When a person is continuously worried about problems they have no control over or even problems they do have control over, it often results in depression. If you feel that, there is no hope then your depression can affect your life and cause you to sink into a spiral of despair.

Taking control of your emotions usually produces good results. If you feel that the world is falling down around your ears, then you are almost definitely thinking negatively, which brings on depression and anxiety. In this short piece, we will discuss some techniques to empower you to cope with anxiety and depression, thus relieving uncontrollable anger.

Firstly, let us examine the symptoms. Do you feel like you are going out of your mind? Do you scream in your head: I cant take it any more?. Do you feel like everyone is out to get you? Do you think people view you as mad? If you are undergoing any or all of these symptoms then you are probably suffering from some form of anxiety and depression.

If you can not find a way to think differently, then you will probably explode when your emotions bubble over and your anger bursts out. Instead of telling yourself that you are out of your mind, why not tell yourself that you are only having atemporary emotional problem and that you need to resolve the situation. Review all the problem areas carefully and search your memory to see if there are answers to your problems there. Reviewing like this, often opens doors to resources you may have forgotten about.

If you feel like someone is out to get you then you might have a chemical imbalance or a mental illness. Why not go to see your doctor or a mental health expert to learn more about the symptoms and find a way to regain control of your life. Anxiety and depression can play tricks with your mind but sometimes the thoughts are simply the result of a chemical imbalance.

If you think that people think you are going crazy, you might care to remember that most people have their own problems and have no time to analyze you as a person or your life. When you walk into a room and think that people are staring at you, you might want to remember that people observe things around them, making sure everything is OK and then return to their own private lives.

If you feel like you just cannot take it any more, just bite your lip and walk another mile. When times are difficult, it does not mean it is the end of the world, although sometimes it may seem this way. If you are struggling to pay bills, fighting to hold a family together, or having difficulty with your children then remember that we all have these problems at some time or another in our lives.

Are your children driving you out of your mind? If they are, take time out. Go and do something entertaining or some exercise. This very often relieves the stresses that lead to anxiety, depression and anger. Life is just too short to worry about the things in life that you do not have control over. If you have problems, the answers lie within you, so it pays to look into your head.

If you are really struggling to reach your goals then you might want to break them down into smaller more realistic segments and work patiently to achieve them. If you set goals that are within reason, you will not need to get stressed out finding a way to achieve them.

It is important to treat yourself every day. Learn some coping responses that will benefit both your mind and your body. If you feel bogged down, you might want to take deep breaths say,ten times.

Curling up on a couch and watching a favorite movie can benefit your mind and your body, if you want to let your thoughts wander. However, learn to focus on what you are doing instead of worrying about what you are not doing. This often clears the mind and helps you to relax.

If you are subject to unbridled anger, you will most probably have problems for the remainder of your life unless you learn to master your emotions. Remember that depression leads to uncontrollable anger. - 30535

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Apology letter to ex after a breakup

I wish there were more sample letters like this out there. Its hard to figure out what you want to say to your ex, especially when you want to get back together.

Even harder, if youve been a little out of control -- like if youve been texting too often, or calling or driving by. You need to put a stop to all of that, and go NC (no contact) for a while until youre thinking straight again.

And you certainly need to apologize to your ex.

Even if you dont have anything to apologize for (and, well, are you sure about that?) a letter similar to this is still a good idea, to show that youre on board with breaking up. You wont get your ex back if you resist accepting the fact that you got dumped, no matter how unfair it seems.

But... to have to compose a letter when your heads a mess isnt easy. I think this example letter to an ex would be good for most breakup circumstances. You might have to change some parts, but its a good start.

-- Kit.

Letter of Apology to an Ex Lover - What to Say and How to Say It

By Dan K. Jenkins

When you look for advice on the internet about how to get your ex back, you discover that step one is to write a letter.

And you learn that it has to be a handwritten letter -- not typed, and not an email.

The purpose of the letter is to let your ex know youre sorry for whatever you did, and that you agree that breaking up is a good idea. This letter sets the stage for everything youll be doing afterwards, to try to get back together.

Why apologize in writing?

A hand-written letter, sent in a hand-addressed envelope, is the most personal form of delayed communication you can use.

Spoken communication, in person or over the phone, is too immediate. With immediate communication, some response is required -- but your ex might feel threatened, or feel like theres not enough time to think of the right response.

Text messages and email are too casual. Even a typed or printed letter feels distant, compared to the intimacy of a handwritten letter you took the time to pen yourself. Your letter to your ex absolutely must be written by hand, and written on paper, not on a card. A card is, once again, too casual.

When to apologize?

Send your letter as soon as possible, but be sure to wait until after you have thought about your situation, and think you understand what your ex is feeling.

While you compose your letter, you should feel regret, not anger. If you are still angry, then it is too soon to write a letter of apology. It is too soon to say you agree with the breakup.

You need to be certain about what you are apologizing FOR. For example:

• Did you hurt someones feelings?



• Is someone angry at you?



• Is someone afraid of you?



• Are you ashamed of something you said or did?



• Did you lie, steal, or cheat?



• Did you forget something important?

Even if it was an accident, you should apologize. Even if it felt justified at the time, you should apologize. Even if you know that in the same circumstances, you would do the same thing again -- you still ought to apologize.

What should you say in your letter?

Your letter of apology to your lover needs to communicate two things: That you are sorry for whatever you did that caused your breakup, and that you agree that breaking up is a good idea.

Dont spend too much time explaining why you did what you did. It wont help, especially if it was a repeat occurrence, or if you did it on purpose.

Dont be funny, and dont be crude or obscene.

Dont ask for an acknowledgement -- no, "Let me know if you got this" or anything like that. You should be prepared not to hear back.

Example apology letter

Here is a sample letter to an ex girlfriend...

Dear Amy,

I have been thinking a lot about how I hurt you, and I want to say Im sorry. I understand why you dont want to be with me any more. I agree it is a good idea.

Being away from you is hard on me, but I guess that after time goes by I wont miss you so much. I hope, anyway, because I would hate to feel like this forever.

I know it was the last straw. I know you think you cant trust me any more, after what I did. But please believe my apology. You mean more to me than anyone else does. You are the one I love.

Maybe after you have had some time away from me, you will want to talk to me again. If you ever need me, I will be there for you.

Love,
Kevin


Learn more about getting back together with your ex. Visit The Online Guide to Getting Back Together and find advice from experts on how to get your ex to come back to you.

This online guide will also lead you to professionally-written books with step-by-step instructions for getting back together with an ex.

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18 Signs Your Ex Wants You Back

At HelpGettingBackTogether.com there is an update to the old article called 18 signs you may be getting back your ex.

The article has been slightly modified, and renamed to 18 Signs Your Ex Wants You Back.

An excerpt:

5. When you talk, she offers details about her own life, and what shes been up to. Especially, if she has been devoting time to your interests, or has been trying to improve herself (working out, going back to school, dieting, etc.) -- these are signs that your ex wants you back.

6. When you talk or meet up, she asks, "How are you?" and "What have you been doing?" as if she really cares.

7. She uses your old nickname, or other terms of endearment like "honey" or "sweetheart," when she talks to you.

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Relationships And Cheating How To Get Over It

Does it seem like relationships and cheating go to together like chocolate and peanut butter? It can start to when everyone you know has had someone cheat on them. And chances are that you’ve had someone cheat on you. Or when it comes to relationships and cheating, you were the one doing the cheating.

Cheating hurts. It hurts the person who’s being cheated on, and believe it or not, it hurts the cheater. The cheater has to hide what he’s doing, probably has to lie to keep it a secret and has to feel the guilt that goes with it.

Even if he or she doesn’t seem guilty, they probably secret feel guilty. When there are relationships and cheating occurs, that doesn’t mean the end of the relationship every time.

You’ve been in a relationship and you’ve been cheated on, and you’ve gotten back together or you’ve never broken up. Can you really make it work now that the other person has cheated? How do you get over it? Will he cheat again?

It’s not easy to save these relationships, and cheating is something that can sometimes happen more than once. But if you can truly rebuild your trust in the other person, then you can stay together and be happy.
Do you know why the person cheated on you? That’s a very important consideration in whether you’ll be able to trust them not to cheat on you again. Were things not good in your relationship at the time, or was it just convenient and just “happened?” You should be able to have a calm discussion about these reasons.
If the reasons turn out to be things like he or she was simply bored that day and the opportunity came along, then you may have problems. If the other person can give no better reasons for hurting you that way, you may want to consider whether you really can forgive them to be happy. It won’t be easy.

If you were having problems, then at least the other person may have thought that the relationship was going to end anyway. They might have felt ignored or undervalued. This is not to give them a good excuse for cheating—they were wrong. But it can help you to understand what they were thinking at the time and you can work on the problems together.

Relationships and cheating are a curious mixture, with some couples able to move on quite well after the devastation of an affair. Sometimes, though, the person who was cheating on can’t get over it. To stay in the relationship when there’s no trust there, and he or she fears that the other will cheat at any time, can be a miserable thing to do.

The constant suspicions can make you miserable, and can make the other person feel under a microscope 24/7. You have to decide to trust the person not to hurt you again, and let go of the fear even though it can be very hard to do in relationships and cheating situations.
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Get an ex back using reverse psychology

I was reviewing statistics for the main site today, and was surprised to find that the most popular article is How can I use reverse psychology to get my girlfriend back?

I never would have expected that, and it makes me wonder whether it would still be true if the title referred to getting an ex boyfriend back.

I mean, is it a "guy" thing? Do guys want to psych their girlfriends out, more than women do?

I guess I could find out by publishing an article called "How can I use reverse psychology to get my boyfriend back?" -- but it wouldnt add much value to the site. The information in the article thats already there applies to boyfriends just as much as it applies to girlfriends.

And the searches that drive readers to the article arent always about getting back an ex.

Sometimes its "My girlfriend uses reverse psychology on me and I dont want her to."

Sometimes its about using reverse psychology on women, in general. Like, how to use reverse psychology to get a girl, or on a wife.

It bothers me some, that there are so many queries amounting to "how can I trick her into doing what I want." I wish people understood that trickery doesnt build healthy relationships.

But at the same time, I understand that when youre desperate to get your ex back, you want to use any tool at hand.

Food for thought, I guess.
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Mental Block or The Psychology of Poker

By Thomas Kearns

It is surprising to discover how thoroughly our basic functions sometimes control our conscious minds. Scientific studies have shown that mice and pigeons, and recently other animals such as cuttlefish, can be taught to react to a specific arbitrary sign with a specific set of behaviors: animals learn to expect food at a sight or sound, and learn to receive food by manipulating a lever, ringing a bell, or pecking a certain spot. Through habituation, they are conditioned to consistently believe that specific phenomena or actions regularly lead to the same specific results.

Moreover, additional experiments show that once an individual is thus conditioned, it will not learn what to a more developed mind, such as ours, may seem a variant of the same. That is, once a cuttlefish learns that a pink circle means food is coming and a blue spot means no food, it will take any additional color to mean no food. It has no capacity to interconnect new phenomena and allow hitherto inexperienced possibilities.

Having thoroughly mastered one condition, he blocks his mind to any other possibility, even though there may be strong indications there is one. Think about your own experience. Have you ever been jolted into a sudden illuminating thought that had never occurred to you before? Like maybe the group of intelligentsia running our country have no more capability to do so than you do?

It is not unusual that during an evening of poker, a few of the players take a break and chat about the game. During their discussion they zero in on player number four (not present in the break room). They go on about what a lousy player he is and how could he possibly still be in the game. The two players involved in the discussion leave the table to discuss their observations in almost whispering tones and swear each other to secrecy. By sharing their observations, they discover that each had noticed a completely different behavioral tidbit. The first noticed that whenever number four had a good hand, he would place his bet, clench his hands into fists and lay them on the table, never doing this under another situation. While the second one observed that number four, whenever he had a bad hand, would push his chips around noisily, never engaging in this behavior under any other circumstance.

So our loser outsider has two ways of conveying his hands, but each of our smug insiders have only discovered one. They stopped at only one notion.

This is not a trivial realization. In fact, what often distinguishes the best players is their flexibility to learn and keep actively in mind throughout the game a number of each opponents tells, classifying each according to importance and plausibility, increasing the possibilities of winning. - 30535

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The author of this article plays poker online and receives Rakeback at Minted Poker. He is also a contributer at Rakeback Solution.

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Getting back together after a mutual breakup

Is it a good idea to try to get your ex back after a mutual breakup?

...The voices of friends and family can complicate the situation. If your ex was very close to your family theyll have plenty to say once you tell them you broke up. How could you let this happen? Why? And when you tell them it was partly your decision, theyll blame you for the loss of someone theyd come to think of as a family member.

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Accredited Distance Psychology Degrees Flexible Psychology Degree Courses That Fit Into Your Current Lifestyle

By John B Maxted

There are now lots of available options for accredited online degrees in psychology. Psychology has historically been a much sought after course of study for higher education students. A degree in Psychology offers many benefits that can be applied to a large number of diverse fields. It also offers the chance to acquire advanced degrees such as masters and doctoral degrees and to learn more about yourself and your connections and associations. With the continually expanding popularity of accredited online psychology degrees, you now have more options than ever before to take this field of educational study.

It is somewhat common knowledge what psychology is, but can everyone actually describe it? Psychology is fundamentally the study of human behavior from a mental viewpoint. When a person says or does something, why exactly did they say or do it? What influences that behavior in them? Why does this person with this specific upbringing have a different reaction than this other person with other experiences and patterns?

Studying psychology lets a person to learn things about their own behaviors, as well as to acquire insight into their relationships. It can greatly improve your life from just those areas alone, and it can provide a remarkable career.

A potential career opportunity for those gaining an online psychology degree is that of a corporate psychologist, or the organizational behaviorist. Organizational behavior is the field of study that centers on how a business can enhance productivity, success, reliability and pleasure through the environment, benefits and social scene that the company provides. The wisdom you acquire from an online education in psychology will leave you perfectly equipped to handle this task.

Another exciting career opportunity for people holding online degrees in psychology is to work as a therapist. This is a frequent option for numerous people, and it normally requires you to obtain an advanced psychology degree such as a masters or a PhD.

Careers in criminal psychology, law enforcement and the social services are also popular and common. Another career option is research and continued study. These are only a few of the various career opportunities available to those with a psychology degree.

The main point here is that there are numerous different career opportunities for anyone with a background in psychology. Combined with the added flexibility and benefits of online degree programs obtaining an education in psychology has never been easier.

You can get any level of psychology degree with an online program. Associate degrees are available which can be completed in less than a year and that allow you to employ your new skills to your line of work. There are online bachelors degree programs that if you work hard can be completed in 24 months and can give you a head start in many different careers.

There are even advanced degrees, including both masters degree programs and PhD programs in psychology. this higher level of qualification is usually necessary if you want to have your own practice or if you want to pursue therapy as your career. But generally, an online bachelor of psychology degree is the most popular.

With the abundance of accredited psychology degrees available online at the moment, your career prospects are limitless. And remember that you will also boost your personal life with the awareness you acquire from studying psychology. The time to act is now to Commence or carry on your education in the subject of psychology. - 30535

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John Maxted is a specialist in online education and can direct you to the best Accelerated Online Psychology Degrees from the top Online Schools. Go ahead, save yourself some time and check out your options right now.

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Use reverse psychology to get your ex girlfriend back

Just added another new article on HelpGettingBackTogether.com.

This ones all about using reverse psychology to get your ex girlfriend back.

The site already had an article with a similar title -- How can I use reverse psychology to get my girlfriend back? -- but this new article has a better explanation of why reverse psychology works.
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Using reverse psychology in your relationships

From Reverse psychology in relationships:

Before you can put reverse psychology into practice, you first have to understand what it actually is. If used incorrectly it simply wont work, or could end up making a situation worse.

Simply put, reverse psychology is the mind-bending technique of giving somebody the impression you want a particular outcome, when in fact you want the opposite.

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Learning About Abnormal Psychology

By Benjamin Kyles

Have you heard of F-99? Read up! This new definition of abnormal psychology could put you in an asylum! The World Health Organization (WHO) refers to the International Classification of Diseases, revision ten (ICD-10), Chapter Five, "Mental and Behavioral Disorders" as a universal descriptor of abnormal psychology. The description of mental and behavioral disorders presented in this chapter essentially define the abnormal everyman, the abnormal men and women of the world.

The WHO rightfully takes a global view on the individual. All people in the world are equal in the eyes of the WHO. At the outset, this is a troubling position. Abnormal psychology always appears in contrast to a cultural norm. From the WHOs perspective, the individuals abnormality must be measured against a universal norm, not a cultural one. A universal norm may indeed represent the behavior of a universal or global culture. As global government emerges on the back of a global economy, a global culture may very well ensue. This means that ICD-10 will become the standard used by global government to identify and treat the abnormal personality.

Since critical treatment of abnormal behavior may result in incarceration, such as in a hospital for the criminally insane, our personal freedom may be taken if our behavior fits into one of the categories of abnormality, as described in the ICD-10. You can see that it only makes good sense for us to safeguard our freedom and become informed of what the World Health Organization considers abnormal psychology. You may well be shocked to learn that ICD-10 has an unspecified category: this means that virtually any behavior might qualify as abnormal psychology and require governmental intervention, correction, and monitoring.

Against the norms of a global culture, the ICD-10 identifies organic, physical, affective, schizophrenic, and neurotic disorders. It includes retardation, developmental disorders, behavioral syndromes, and childhood and adolescent emotional disorders. These are certainly categories of abnormal psychology and most people would not take issue with these. What most people would take issue with, are those people who treasure liberty and would see all governments limited in exercising yet more authority, is the ICD-10, Chapter 5 category, F99, the unspecified category. While all the other categories of mental illness point to well known and specific mental disorders, category F99 identifies the behaviors described only as an "Unspecified mental disorder".

The problem is immediately apparent in the phrase. All behavior that is not in one of the other, specific mental disorder categories of the ICD-10 is unspecified behavior. For example, dissent is not found in any legitimate and specific category, but the behavior fits well into F99. Dissent may represent a minority of the populace, an abnormality. Religious rituals are another form of behavior that fits into F99. Will dissent and religious practice be seen as an abnormal psychology? Will it thus require corrective treatment?

The broad generality of F99 should make it unacceptable to all people of the world. An unspecified mental disorder category may have a place in research psychology, but it does not belong in the canon of abnormal psychology. If your personal freedom is important to you, hopefully this brief introduction provides a heads-up on whats coming. - 30535

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Relationship Psychology

No relationship is perfect, but it is possible to make your partnership more enjoyable for each of you. After all, relationship psychology is all about finding ways to maintain a balance that stops one of both partners from becoming disillusioned with the union. If youve already broken up with your partner, then using similar relationship psychology principles can also help you to get your ex back.

Relationship psychology is about teaching each person inside the relationship how to recognize destructive or unhelpful patterns that could potentially be driving your partner away. The unfortunate part about most couples is that they often believe the other person will think the same way as they do. In truth, men and women have very different ways of communicating those things they need or want.

Women need to remember that men place more value on actions rather than words. This means a woman who constantly tries to get her partner to address problems in the relationship by talking about the issues or arguing about bad behavior is almost certain to see an increase in those negative patterns.

Instead of talking or arguing your way through an issue, try using a more psychological approach. Men respond more positively to your actions. They want to know that they are capable of making you happy. A man who is constantly faced with an upset partner will begin to think theres nothing he can do to make you happy, so hell withdraw even further from you, even to the point of breaking up.

However, if hes faced with a happy, confident partner who is a pleasure to spend time with, hes less likely to withdraw. In fact, hell likely draw even closer because he enjoys being around you. Men in this situation will often find themselves doing whatever they can to make sure you stay as happy as you were on those occasions. If you find it difficult to raise your self-confidence, then try giving yourself a mini-make over or spend some time doing something you enjoy. When you feel good within yourself, youre more likely to radiate that confidence outwardly as well.

Men need to remember that women value slightly different emotional triggers than they do. Women want to know that the man they love places enough value on her to really listen to what shes saying. If you feel your wife or girlfriend is pulling away from you, then sit down and just listen.

Ask questions about what your partner has just said and then take notice of her responses. If men can learn to listen attentively without allowing their mind to wander off, their girlfriends will begin to feel more loved, which leads them in turn to develop into a good mood, which makes them happy and enjoyable to send time with.

These primary differences in relationship psychology between men and women are simple things you can do to help strengthen your existing relationship, but theyll also work equally well if youre trying to get your ex back.
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