Apology letter to ex after a breakup

I wish there were more sample letters like this out there. Its hard to figure out what you want to say to your ex, especially when you want to get back together.

Even harder, if youve been a little out of control -- like if youve been texting too often, or calling or driving by. You need to put a stop to all of that, and go NC (no contact) for a while until youre thinking straight again.

And you certainly need to apologize to your ex.

Even if you dont have anything to apologize for (and, well, are you sure about that?) a letter similar to this is still a good idea, to show that youre on board with breaking up. You wont get your ex back if you resist accepting the fact that you got dumped, no matter how unfair it seems.

But... to have to compose a letter when your heads a mess isnt easy. I think this example letter to an ex would be good for most breakup circumstances. You might have to change some parts, but its a good start.

-- Kit.

Letter of Apology to an Ex Lover - What to Say and How to Say It

By Dan K. Jenkins

When you look for advice on the internet about how to get your ex back, you discover that step one is to write a letter.

And you learn that it has to be a handwritten letter -- not typed, and not an email.

The purpose of the letter is to let your ex know youre sorry for whatever you did, and that you agree that breaking up is a good idea. This letter sets the stage for everything youll be doing afterwards, to try to get back together.

Why apologize in writing?

A hand-written letter, sent in a hand-addressed envelope, is the most personal form of delayed communication you can use.

Spoken communication, in person or over the phone, is too immediate. With immediate communication, some response is required -- but your ex might feel threatened, or feel like theres not enough time to think of the right response.

Text messages and email are too casual. Even a typed or printed letter feels distant, compared to the intimacy of a handwritten letter you took the time to pen yourself. Your letter to your ex absolutely must be written by hand, and written on paper, not on a card. A card is, once again, too casual.

When to apologize?

Send your letter as soon as possible, but be sure to wait until after you have thought about your situation, and think you understand what your ex is feeling.

While you compose your letter, you should feel regret, not anger. If you are still angry, then it is too soon to write a letter of apology. It is too soon to say you agree with the breakup.

You need to be certain about what you are apologizing FOR. For example:

• Did you hurt someones feelings?



• Is someone angry at you?



• Is someone afraid of you?



• Are you ashamed of something you said or did?



• Did you lie, steal, or cheat?



• Did you forget something important?

Even if it was an accident, you should apologize. Even if it felt justified at the time, you should apologize. Even if you know that in the same circumstances, you would do the same thing again -- you still ought to apologize.

What should you say in your letter?

Your letter of apology to your lover needs to communicate two things: That you are sorry for whatever you did that caused your breakup, and that you agree that breaking up is a good idea.

Dont spend too much time explaining why you did what you did. It wont help, especially if it was a repeat occurrence, or if you did it on purpose.

Dont be funny, and dont be crude or obscene.

Dont ask for an acknowledgement -- no, "Let me know if you got this" or anything like that. You should be prepared not to hear back.

Example apology letter

Here is a sample letter to an ex girlfriend...

Dear Amy,

I have been thinking a lot about how I hurt you, and I want to say Im sorry. I understand why you dont want to be with me any more. I agree it is a good idea.

Being away from you is hard on me, but I guess that after time goes by I wont miss you so much. I hope, anyway, because I would hate to feel like this forever.

I know it was the last straw. I know you think you cant trust me any more, after what I did. But please believe my apology. You mean more to me than anyone else does. You are the one I love.

Maybe after you have had some time away from me, you will want to talk to me again. If you ever need me, I will be there for you.

Love,
Kevin


Learn more about getting back together with your ex. Visit The Online Guide to Getting Back Together and find advice from experts on how to get your ex to come back to you.

This online guide will also lead you to professionally-written books with step-by-step instructions for getting back together with an ex.

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18 Signs Your Ex Wants You Back

At HelpGettingBackTogether.com there is an update to the old article called 18 signs you may be getting back your ex.

The article has been slightly modified, and renamed to 18 Signs Your Ex Wants You Back.

An excerpt:

5. When you talk, she offers details about her own life, and what shes been up to. Especially, if she has been devoting time to your interests, or has been trying to improve herself (working out, going back to school, dieting, etc.) -- these are signs that your ex wants you back.

6. When you talk or meet up, she asks, "How are you?" and "What have you been doing?" as if she really cares.

7. She uses your old nickname, or other terms of endearment like "honey" or "sweetheart," when she talks to you.

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Get an ex back using reverse psychology

I was reviewing statistics for the main site today, and was surprised to find that the most popular article is How can I use reverse psychology to get my girlfriend back?

I never would have expected that, and it makes me wonder whether it would still be true if the title referred to getting an ex boyfriend back.

I mean, is it a "guy" thing? Do guys want to psych their girlfriends out, more than women do?

I guess I could find out by publishing an article called "How can I use reverse psychology to get my boyfriend back?" -- but it wouldnt add much value to the site. The information in the article thats already there applies to boyfriends just as much as it applies to girlfriends.

And the searches that drive readers to the article arent always about getting back an ex.

Sometimes its "My girlfriend uses reverse psychology on me and I dont want her to."

Sometimes its about using reverse psychology on women, in general. Like, how to use reverse psychology to get a girl, or on a wife.

It bothers me some, that there are so many queries amounting to "how can I trick her into doing what I want." I wish people understood that trickery doesnt build healthy relationships.

But at the same time, I understand that when youre desperate to get your ex back, you want to use any tool at hand.

Food for thought, I guess.
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Is it a good idea to try to get your ex back after a mutual breakup?

...The voices of friends and family can complicate the situation. If your ex was very close to your family theyll have plenty to say once you tell them you broke up. How could you let this happen? Why? And when you tell them it was partly your decision, theyll blame you for the loss of someone theyd come to think of as a family member.

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Just added another new article on HelpGettingBackTogether.com.

This ones all about using reverse psychology to get your ex girlfriend back.

The site already had an article with a similar title -- How can I use reverse psychology to get my girlfriend back? -- but this new article has a better explanation of why reverse psychology works.
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