Why Men Leave Their Wives

Todays women can find it challenging sometimes to keep their marriages intact and happy. Many women wonder why men leave their wives and what they can do to make sure it doesnt happen to them.
The truth of the matter is that our society has made it very difficult for men and women to find long term loving relationships.  Why? Because the rules our society has adopted are based on inaccurate information.
One of the most obvious misconception that is pervasive throughout our society is the idea that men only want sex and/or have a much higher sex drive than women.  The truth is that men and women have similar sex drives but men have been encouraged, by society, to fulfill their needs while women have been discouraged from having sex until they are married. 
This leads to many misunderstandings between men and women and how they approach their relationships.  It might mean a man will be more tempted to cheat on his wife because after all, its in his nature.  And it could mean that a women uses sex with the hopes of keeping her husband in love with her so he will stay in the marriage.
If we really got to the bottom of things though we would understand that men and women want basically the same things in a relationship.  Both want to feel loved, respected, and desired by their partners.  When you break it down like that it doesnt really seem all that hard, does it?
If you want to keep your marriage strong try to meet your husbands needs...all of them, not just sexually. A word of caution here though.  Because of the way our society has told us to behave women have the tendency to think that they have to meet their husbands needs even if that means ignoring their own.  No! All that will do is make you resentful and bitter and that wont keep a marriage intact.
While its important to try to meet your husbands needs it cant be done to the detriment of your own.  Dont put your wants and needs on hold to satisfy your husband, youll be unhappy, hell be unhappy (and bored) and the marriage wont last.  For a marriage to thrive both parties need to be happy, healthy, stable, and have their needs being met on a regular basis.
So for any women who wants to know why men leave their wives its usually because his needs arent being met, and I dont just mean his sexual needs.  I mean on some level he doesnt feel like you love, desire, or respect him and he will try to find someone who will.
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Men Who Leave Their Wives

Many women have had to face the heartbreak of a relationship break up.  Its never easy, and most would do just about anything to avoid a break up.  Men who leave their wives have many reasons for doing so, but there are some things to keep in mind so you can hopefully avoid finding yourself in that painful situation.
One thing all women need to keep in mind, that might seem to go against everything theyve ever heard or believed, is that men and women arent all that different in what they want from a relationship, they just have different ways of getting it.
Men want their women to love, respect, and admire them.  Most men want to feel like they are meeting all of the needs of their wives and girlfriends and they want their women to show a high level of appreciation.  They want to be admired. 
Its important for everyone to feel accepted for who they really are and feel like they are appreciated for all they do. Men, and women, will leave a relationship if these basic needs arent met. 
One common misconception is that men leave their wives because they have found another women who they are attracted to. While this may be true to a point, they were most likely already feeling like their needs werent being met long before the other woman came into the picture. 
One of the difficult things for women to deal with is that most men either dont understand why theyre feeling the way they are or they are unable, or unwilling, to try to discuss it and come up with a solution.  They just know they are unhappy and are sick of feeling that way.
If you want to try to keep your relationship with your husband happy and healthy, its important that you understand that even though he may express his needs in a different way than you he still has the same basic need to be loved and admired that you do. He wants to feel like he is your prince charming and is the most important person in the world to you.  Meeting these needs will help ensure that your husband isnt one of the men who leave their wives.
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Win Ex Boyfriend Back From That Girl

You want to get your ex back because he was yours and for some reason she has him now. If you believe that the two of you should be together then it is very likely that you are. But how are you going to do this? You have to play it smart and dignified if you are going to win ex boyfriend back.

She may want to play nasty to keep him away from you but if you get nasty right back then all you will be doing is feuding and you are too big for that. What you want to do is show him that you are more mature than she is and more like a real woman while that other girl is immature.

If your first instinct is to fight, suppress it. Rise above it. Gain control of your emotions and the other girl may be exposed for being the immature girl she is. If you look favorable compared to her then it will only be too obvious that you are the better choice. Rather than resorting to curses, resort to positive feelings. Be the obvious better choice and you stand a greater chance to win ex boyfriend back.

If she treats him poorly then talk to his friends. They may be feeling the same way. IF it keeps going you may have grounds to have an intervention. Talk with their friends and find out with them what you could do together to get him out of that situation. If you want to win ex boyfriend back it will be easier if you have his friends working with you. Much of the best ways to win ex boyfriend back from her is going to be using his friends.

If it seems like he is under some love spells that she put on him, find out what it is that she has over him and try to find ways to show that he deserves better. Let his friends know that he deserves better. They may very well agree with you. If she has him obsessed with her and she is forcing him to spend time with her instead of them, they will want to get him back. If you are on their side, they will be on yours.

If are able to convince others who know him well that their friend is better off with you then you will have a lot smaller of a battle to fight. There will be so many people against that relationship that it could crumble under the pressure. The secret to having this work in your favor is to be behind the scenes. Let others do the work for you. That way if that other girl catches on you can make her seem like she is paranoid for thinking that you are causing all their problems.

The key to getting what you want, which is to get your ex back, is to have as many people on your side as possible. It doesnt have to be you against the two of them. It could be the two of them against the world. When their relationship falls apart, you will find it easier to win ex boyfriend back.
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Is Their A God Up There

By L.J. James

There once was a young couple who lived in a beautiful town. They had the best of everything. Their love was strong and real. When their first child was born she was the most beautiful child they had ever seen.The couple believed their life to be perfect.

One day when their Daughter was about seven years old the Couple was in a car crash.Checking his wife right away the husband was relived to see she was ok. They both had received only a few scratches.They turned to check on their young daughter and as soon as they saw her both of them burst into tears.The wife started screaming NO GOD ! PLEASE GOD NO ! Their pain was felt by anyone and everyone who happened to be around them that day. The Beautiful young child had passed on and left this world .

During the funeral the deceased childs mother kept asking why ? Why my child? oh dear Lord why? People paying there respects to this wonderful couples most beautiful child tried to console her. They told her things like "It is the Lords will" and "She is in Heaven now" These things did not help the childs Mother and she cursed God Saying to the People "There is no God" for if there was such a God how could he allow something so terrible to happen? Surely he would have saved my child and she would still be here with us!!

Years passed by as they always do and the pain this Couple felt started to ease. They had more children over the years, all very beautiful None quite as beautiful as their first one.Their life went back to being as close to perfect as can be.But Every time the women heard something bad had happened in the world it reinforced her belief that there was no God and no Heaven up above,For surely no God would allow such terrible things to happen in this world !!!

One day as the Woman was walking to the store she heard these screams "NO LORD PLEASE LORD NO" The tone of the screams took her back to the death of her child and she ran toward the sound of them. She saw the woman who was screaming and behind her she could see a building on fire, My Child is in there Screamed the woman! Pointing to the building engulfed in flames. Knowing the pain this woman would go threw and not wishing it on anyone she raced into the building. Flames shot at her and she could feel them burning her but the pain was some where else and did not hurt her .As the flames got larger and the heat got much hotter the woman thought this is what hell must be like! Then she thought but there is no hell for if there is No God and No Heaven then there cant be a Hell can there? These thoughts passed threw the womans mind as she felt herself begin to grow tired.

As She felt herself about to pass out the Women saw a child in the distance and with new found strength she started walking towards the child. As she got closer she could see it was the most beautiful young girl she had ever seen . When she reached the child the child spoke hello mother it is I your Daughter the one killed in that car accident those many years ago. No the Woman said you are gone your Dead. Dead yes I may be Mother but gone no I have never left you .I have always been in your heart and you in mine. But I am with the Father now in the most Wonderful Kingdom imaginable. With who? asked the Woman , The Father God answered the child the one you denounced upon my death. No said the woman there cant be a GOD or a heaven For surely no God would allow the Terrible things to Happen that happen upon this earth. Terrible things are done by terrible people answered the child and they will answer for their sins in the afterlife have no fear of that my Mother, The Lord will see that justice is done.

But what of you asked the Mother you where not taken from me by a terrible person it was an accident why did the Lord take you from me. The Child smiled at her Mother and spoke Mother what you see as the most terrible thing ever is not. For I am in the Kingdom of the Lord and there is no greater reward then that ! My life on Earth was short Mother, I agree with you on that but Mother let me let you in on a little secret "All life on Earth is short" It is just a blink of the eye to the Father. Miss me Mother for I know you always will, But have faith in the Father for if you believe in him and follow his words you will be with me again one day and then you will feel no pain or sorrow ever again. The Mother reached down picked up her child closing her eyes and hugging the child to her bosom, She heard a voice that was not her Daughters say "I will always Love you my Child"

The woman opened her eyes and she saw lights and heard sirens and the voices of many people. Not sure what was going on she looked down at her child only to see that she was not holding her child but a small young boy. The Woman who she had seen screaming was grabbing for this child saying Thank you oh thank you Lord for sending this Woman to rescue my Child ,In my heart Lord I always knew you would save him, for surely you would never allow something so terrible to happen !!!!

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What Can Save Marriage When Everything Seems Hopeless

What can save marriage when everything seems hopeless? 
Marriage is considered a sacred institution by most of the world’s religions.  It is the foundation of the family, which, in turn, is the foundation for society.  So, there is a lot of emphasis on saving a marriage.
But that doesn’t mean that marriages today don’t run into trouble.  The changing roles of men ad women, financial pressures, and difficulties with children all make it hard to make marriages work.
So who do you turn to?
Perhaps the best place to look is the institution that values marriage more than any other – the church.
While a clinical psychologist or licensed family therapist will take an individualistic approach to marriage counseling, a pastor will focus on making the marriage work in a wholistic sense.  Over all, this has a better chance of actually saving the marriage.
Why is a pastoral counselor better than a secular therapist? 
A secular therapist’s education focuses almost entirely on treating individual psychopathologies.  Even “Marriage and Family” designated counselors may have only one class or elective dealing specifically with couple’s therapy.  Do you think this approach can save marriage?
A pastoral counselor, on the other hand, will be educated in how to bring couples closer together.  With the exception of abuse in the relationship, they have the fundamental belief that once the vows are taken, the marriage is forever.
Some pastoral counselors have formal education in counseling.  More and more seminaries are offering pastoral counseling degrees.  But even ministers without a formal degree take classes and seminars in the subject.
If you don’t have a church home, you might have some difficulty finding a pastor to help you.  And, you don’t have six months to establish membership in a church before approaching the pastor.
In this case, you can call various churches and ask them if they have any upcoming couples retreats where you can save marriage through these weekend seminars.  Once you have established a relationship with a skilled pastor in these settings, you may be able to do follow up counselor with the same person.
A good couple’s retreat will help you deal with many different types of issues.  There will be group sessions and couple’s sessions.  You will also have time to work on questions individually.
Communication is a big issue at these conferences.  If you can work on your communications issues, you will find that the other pieces of the relationship fall into place.
Sex, finances, and child raising are also addressed.  The goal is to get you back on track in every aspect of your relationship.  You don’t have to be on the same page going in, but the hope is that you will be when you leave. 
Marriage is tough.  Sometimes it seems like the relationship cannot endure.  But, there are so many reasons to see if you can’t make it work.  In this case, consider seeing if a pastor can save marriage.
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Mad About Their Lifestyle

By Randy Roedl

We now live in a world where everyone has grown very frustrated about their lifestyles, careers and relationships which frequently results in anger management problems. Everyone has turned very self obsessed of late, particularly about how matters about us touch the way we live.

It even reaches a point in which it could be detrimental, so it is essential to know exactly where to look for more facts. The web is literally filled with sites which can be great for you in the search for anger and frustration related topics, so you must definitely take a look. You will be completely astounded by the sheer volume of facts which you will find merely by carrying out a quick query using your favorite search engine.

Many businesses have weakened since of unattended anger and frustration issues. As the owner of the company, you owe it to yourself to provide an atmosphere conducive enough for positive anger and frustration expression. When anger and frustration is not dealt with within a work setting, it could create undercurrents of bitterness and tension and lead to a reduction in the quality of services offered by the staff. You should be conscious of the fact that getting angry is a choice.

You can decide to be as unruffled as possible even in the face of the most challenging circumstances. The more determined you are to be less angry, the less angry you actually get at things that would normally annoy you.

Anger issues does not work in isolation. Once you get frustrated and you dont deal with it appropriately, bitterness and jealousy may follow. Anger issues gives birth to a whole line of fresh negative feelings that could demolish a individual totally. It is therefore wise to keep your anger issues in check always. Thankfully anger issues management and control schemes that work now exist. Learn as much as you can about how to control your anger issues and you will become a far healthier individual.

If you are a bit uneasy around anger management classes, you could take an internet based anger management class. Internet Based anger management courses make it simple for you to get help anytime of the day. With internet based anger management classes, you could get as personal as you want and still have your privacy.

Anger and frustration management and control is a field that specialized in helping individuals to management and control their anger and frustration. You can learn how to keep the lid on your anger and frustration by attending anger and frustration management and control classes or by getting anger and frustration management and control help. Anger and frustration could be curbed in many ways, the trick is finding out which method takes the wind out of your soil - 30535

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Only Human Getting Back With Your Ex

Getting back with your ex is an incredibly difficult thing to do because there been feelings hurt and hearts broken. What can make it worse is there are also probably very unrealistic expectations of what you want from each other. The thing to realize is that you are both human and fully capable of making mistakes. Not only that but it should be understood that both of you are going to make mistakes. The reason that you are broken up or divorced is that there were mistakes made on both of your parts. As much as you would like to believe it, neither one of you are perfect and are, actually, quite far from it. Getting back with your ex means realizing this.

While to get your ex back or trying to do that it is going to be very obvious and easy to point out the mistakes that the other made. What is going to be harder is to point out the mistakes that you made. You have to look closely and see what it was that you did that either helped make the split possible but helped make the situation and relationship as bad as it got. You have to own up to your part in the ending of the relationship.

You have to own your own mistakes. You can’t hide them. You can’t cover them up. You can’t make excuses for them. You can’t sugar coat them. You can’t pretend they aren’t there. You can’t do any of that and have the reconciliation effort succeed. Pointing fingers is what caused the split to happen in the first place. Pointing fingers is not going to help getting back with your ex. You are only human. That point may seem obvious but in the attitude we take sometimes we may not show we feel that way.

In getting back with your ex, you have to realize also that your ex boyfriend or ex boyfriend or ex husband or ex wife you no longer want to be your ex. You have to understand that if you want them to be with you for the long term or for life you have to realize how special they are to you. They can’t realize that if they can’t feel that you think that. They have to know that you want to be with them. If you treat them like trash for the mistakes they made and hold it over their head they aren’t going to feel very special. The mistakes they made may have been bad but you need to let them know that you want to be with them anyway. They have to see from you that they are special enough to look past their faults.

Isn’t that what you want? To know that even with all your faults that they love you still? What greater way is there than to show that to the person you want to be with? There is no other thing that is going to help them feel truly special. It doesn’t excuse mistakes but it says that what you have together is bigger and better than what it was that tore you apart. To get your ex back means realizing each other’s humanity and loving each other anyway.
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Why Men Dont Leave Their Wives

If you are unlikely enough to find yourself in a relationship with a married man you have to understand why men dont leave their wives.  Its true, married men rarely leave their wives for their mistresses.  And to be honest, even if he did, why would you want a man who is a cheater?
Woman are compassionate, loving, forgiving, kind, and sometimes very gullible.  You might think hell leave his wife because shes old, fat, mean, stupid, nuts, controlling, etc.  And maybe she is, but the truth is shes probably none of these things, after all why would he have married her if she was?  Its much more likely that hes just bored and youre a convenient distraction.
Few women would knowingly start a relationship with a married man if he started talking about what a sexy and wonderful person his wife was, so as hard as it is to believe married men will often lie so that you can justify having sex with him.
The reasons men cheat usually come down to the fact that their marriage has gotten stale and one or more of his needs (not just sexually) are not being met to his satisfaction.  Thats the same reason women cheat too.
The problem is that at the end of the day he probably still has feelings for his wife or at least doesnt want to go through the expense of a divorce.  You also have to take into consideration the way both sides of his family will react, and if there are kids involved most men are unwilling to hurt their own children.
If you are a women who is involved with a married man and want to know why men dont leave their wives there can be many reasons.  The important thing to remember is that it really doesnt matter why he wont leave, it only matters that you know he probably wont leave his wife and hes not much of a prize even if he did.
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