How to handle his ex girlfriend

His ex-girlfriend is still in the picture, and that’s got you all worried, and weary, and maybe even a bit hissy and intolerable at times? That’s perfectly understandable, but definitely not the best way to handle the situation. Read on and check out some constructive ways to deal with his ex!

Before even beginning to take steps in dealing with the situation, the situation being his ex-girlfriend who’s somehow around more than she needs to be, it’s important to be clear on what exactly are you dealing with. There are lots of ways an ex can be involved in your boyfriend’s life, and not all of those necessarily mean she’s being inappropriate, so be sure you’re not trying to put out a fire where there’s no smoke,  ’cause that’s just gonna cause problems between you and your guy.

So… if she’s really just a friend, if she’s really not hung up on him, if she doesn’t have any bad feelings about the whole thing, or any animosity towards you, if she’s aware that theirs is in the past, and yours is now, don’t push it, and leave her be.

Now here comes the tricky part – they’re all gonna say they’re all of the above, and act perfectly nice and reasonable, but what they say and what they do when they think no one’s watching isn’t always the same thing.

So, how do you know if she’s being genuine, or just really good at pretending to be genuine?

How do you know if she’s over it or is just waiting for the perfect opportunity to snatch him for herself again?
The answer is – and you’re not going to like it – you can’t. Not for sure at least. You can suspect her of being this or that, you can believe her, but whichever it is you’re never going to be 100 percent sure if it’s all just a pose, or is it all real.

It’s just the way girls are, and a lot of things come into play here, such as our own insecurities, and that’s why it improbable you’re ever going to have it easy when it comes to talking to, seeing or even just being around the girl who’s already had what you’re having.

So, the only really successful way to deal with an annoying ex is to have complete trust in your boyfriend.

Her emotions, needs, and wishes in the end are none of your business, but his are. You can’t know for sure what page she’s on, but you can and need to know where he stands on that note, and are the ex-files shut and filed up for good.

His side is really the only side that matters here, and if you’ve talked it out and if you trust him, an ex really isn’t something you’ll ever need to deal with, no matter how often she pops up.
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