How to handle your boyfriends ex girlfriend

Even if your boyfriend is completely over his ex-girlfriend (and we hope he is if he is with you) sometimes it’s tough for us to avoid comparing or even asking questions about HER, and if she is still in the picture ie., they are still friends, then getting over that relationship is even tougher. And like it or not even if you haven’t had to deal with an ex-girlfriend in one of your relationships sooner or later you will have to and we are here to help you through it! 

If you need to ask questions about his ex for some reason then keep them specific and brief. Remember the reason for the question and if it doesn’t serve a real purpose to know then don’t ask.

Avoid comparing yourself to her, even if your competitive nature drives you to it. Remind yourself that he is with you and not with her and that is what really matters.

If you are feeling a little insecure about his ex then don’t be afraid to share your feelings with your boyfriend. Let him know that you are feeling a little insecure and allow him to reassure you that you are the one he loves and not her. Sometimes a little reassurance can go a long way.

Don’t obsess over her or their relationship. That can be crazy-making for you and will come out in some way shape or form in your relationship. If you are intensely jealous and freaking out over her with your boyfriend that will definitely be a turn-off.

Don’t try to figure out “why” you might feel jealous or curious about her. It’s perfectly normal to have questions about your boyfriend’s ex and many of those random thoughts include questions like “Was he in love with her? What did she look like? Did he love her more than me? Was she prettier than me? Why did they break up?” and so on. The less you know the more curious you may be but that doesn’t mean you need to go on a quest to find out more information about her or her relationship with your man. Don’t beat yourself up for having the thoughts you have, they are just harmless thoughts that are perfectly normal. Allow yourself to have them but then let them pass without trying to figure out the answers. This may seem tough at first but eventually you will stop thinking about her as you continue having a great relationship.

Please share any stories you have about dealing with your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend!

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How to hurt my ex girlfriend

I posted this in breaking up, but it dissappeared.

Long story short, my ex hurt me very badly on purpose.

She broke up with me in February but we got back together in March. We only dated for four months but our chemistry was incredible. She told me she needed me in her life, that she loves me, that I make her want to be a better person, etc. Things were going well until she asked for space again. I didnt let it bother me and apparently that made her change her tune.  She asked me to come over and I did. She said Im still mad at yoy but Im just being cordial. In my own mind, I could see that this wasnt good. That something relatively small could happen and she would let her emotions get the best of her. So I left that night and wrote a break up letter. I was very nice about it, and even told her how much I love her and how important she is to me, but that her emotions get the best of her and that she needs to figure her brain out, and that its hurting me to have to deal with her behavior.

I gave myself space for two days while she kept texting. I gave in and met up with her. Stayed the night at her house and in the morning she asked me what my problem was. Simple: that she was going to break my heart.

Well, that night she asked me to hang out with her at the bar. When she arrived, she ignored me for most of the night. She flirted with other guys in front of me, even some dude she has a history with. Some guy kept hitting on her and she bought him a shot, in front of me. Like a ****, I stayed and tried to keep my cool, but it was written all over my face. She then has the nerve to text that Im being jealous and that I have " no idea the **** you put me through".

She leaves and makes a point to stare at me when she walks out. I go to her house and she tells me shes going to the bathroom and then texts me "you cant stay here anymore, night". She thought I left. I didnt.

A few minutes later she comes out and I confront her as shes trying to leave for her sisters house. I told her that shell never meet another man as good as me. She tries to get into her friends car, but I pulled the door open and told her that she planned all this out, to break my heart, and that she got exactly what she wanted.

The next day she called me, so I blocked her number. She kept calling, and she called me once today (I can see the calls that Ive blocked).

She hurt me so badly, I really feel devastated, and I dont know what to do.

Its worth mentioning that she told me a few days before that she could never hurt me. I cant believe she would do this the same day I told her that I was afraid shed hurt me.

Whats going on here? What do you all think? Thank you very, very much!

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How to ignore my ex girlfriend

Yes you read correctly, if you want to get her back then ignore your ex girlfriend.  I know this sounds like the exact thing that you think will make things worse, but in actuality it is the one thing that will make things so much better.  Think about this for a bit, if you have been calling and bugging her trying to get back together then think about how that has worked out.  My guess is that it has made her annoyed and irritated and most likely has made her ask you to leave her alone.  This is just the very reason why you need to ignore her. One of the reasons why ignoring her will bring her back to you is that it will give her the space that she needs to clear her head and think.  She will have some "alone" time to actually get a chance to miss you.  If you are always around she will never get a chance to miss you and see that she wants to get back together with you.  Let her breath and see that it is truly you that she wants to be with.

Another reason why ignoring her is a good thing is the fact that it gives you a chance to move on with your life.  You can start to move forward and do the things you need to do to improve yourself, improve your situation and just improve everything about yourself.  Once you have made these positive changes and she starts to see that she will start to see you in a different light. 

The last reason why ignoring her is a good thing is the very fact that women hate to be ignored.  In the case of getting her back, giving some space is ultimately what is needed, but outright ignoring a girl will have her chasing you faster than a kid after an ice cream truck.  If you have dated for any amount of time then you will know that women like to talk and if you are not there to listen they ultimately begin to miss you. 

If you want to get her back then ignore her.   I hope that you can see why steering clear of your ex is a good idea.  Once you give her some room and some time you will start to see things become clearer.  Ignore your ex girlfriend if you want to get her back and you will see that things will work out in your favor.
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How to hurt ex girlfriend

If you were already working toward getting back together with an ex girlfriend, learning that she’s dating again can be devastating.  While most guys do give up at this point, your chances of getting back with her are far from over.  If you’re willing to be patient, think positive, and put in some quality effort?  You can actually use your ex girlfriend’s new romance to launch yourself back into her life, getting her to break up with or forget her new boyfriend and start dating you again.

Step 1 – Let go of your ex-girlfriend

Before you begin taking steps closer to your ex’s heart again, you first have to let her go.  While this might hurt, it’s just temporary.  If it helps, keep reminding yourself that you are working toward getting her back, and letting go of her is an important part of that plan.  Getting your ex girlfriend back from another man isn’t something that happens overnight.  By not fighting the break up, you’re refusing to battle with her decision to end things with you.  By not running off to stop her from dating this new guy, you’re showing a level of pride and maturity.  Anything you could say at this point wouldn’t work anyway, so don’t say anything.  You don’t want to come off as needy, jealous, or anything like that – this will hurt your chances of getting your ex back.

Step 2 – Drop back for a while

Leave your girlfriend utterly and completely alone during the honeymoon stages of her relationship.  Don’t call her, text her, email her, or try to run into her either.  Don’t acknowledge her new boyfriend, and don’t respond to any calls or messages from her.  This step of the process requires putting yourself back in her head, and you can’t do that if you’re in constant contact with her.  By disappearing off her social map, your ex will wonder where you are, what you’re doing, and whether or not you’re thinking about her.  Not seeing you will actually make your ex miss you – and this is an important part of winning back her heart.

Step 3 – Focus on yourself

Now that you have some extra free time, use it in the most positive manner possible.  By working on yourself, you can make yourself look, feel, and even act better… do it right, and your ex will be astonished by the new you the next time she sees you.  Go to the gym, take up running… when you start doing all new things you end up meeting new people.  The exercise will help you sweat off any residual feelings of hopeless and despair over losing your girlfriend, and all that stuff will be replaced with positive energy.  When you’re fit and toned, run out and get some new clothes.  A huge part of attracting your girlfriend is physically making yourself desirable to her, but also mentally having the confidence that all girls love.

Step 4 – Wait out her break up

Most rebound relationships last little more than a month.  This is great news for you, because if your ex jumped right into this new romance there’s a good chance she’s in a rebound relationship.  And want some more good news?  The fact that your ex started dating another guy again so quickly after dumping you results in her burying her feelings for you instead of dealing with and getting over them.  This means that somewhere beneath the surface of her heart, there’s a lot of love still left for you.  Finding that love and gently tugging on it can bring it back out into the open, causing your exgirlfriend to think about you, miss you, and want to be with you again.

As much as it hurts to watch your ex with another guy, try to concentrate on the big picture.  In the long run, you’ll be the one standing next to her.  There’s not much you can do right now, so don’t blow things by trying to talk her out of dating her new boyfriend, bad mouthing him, or any of that jealous boyfriend stuff.  Stick it out, and wait for the rebound relationship to invariably fail.

Step 5 – Pick Her Up When She Falls

When a rebound relationship breaks up, more often than not it’s the girl who gets hurt.  When your ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend, she’s probably treating the romance as a solid, concrete thing.  When it shatters?  You’ll need to be there to help pick up the pieces of her broken relationship.  She’ll be looking for someone familiar and safe – and that’s you.  Your ex will find comfort in meeting, talking to, and being in your arms again after a bad rebound, so be prepared to play that role.

Another huge advantage: your ex-girlfriend still has feelings of love for you.  She had little or no time to resolve your break up, because she jumped right into another relationship.  This is where you’ll draw out those emotions and use them to win her back.

What if her new relationship doesn’t break up?  How can I get her back?

Occasionally, a rebound relationship will stick for some time.  If this is the case, you’ll need to learn an alternative strategy to getting your ex back from another man.  There are some very unique ways you can insert yourself between your ex and her new boyfriend, and then slowly win her back from this new guy.  They take patience and effort, but they’re also guaranteed to work.  These methods require you to do things in a very subtle way, so that your ex-girlfriend doesn’t entirely realize what you’re doing… but in the end, they’ll put her back in your arms.
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