Most people would tell you to walk away, cut all contact - only to discover that it only makes the psycho chica even angrier! She becomes suspicious, and might investigate - *ahem* stalk - you, until she finds out the so-called scandalous little secret youre hiding from her. So, in this situation, the only thing you can do is ask a girl for advice. Why? Because I am a girl, and I know how our minds work. (Just make sure your ex GF isnt reading this...)
1. Remove All Evidence
First of all, if you dont want her to snoop through your belongings, then dont give her any belongings to snoop. Make time for yourself (maybe the bathroom is the only chance you have) to delete all text messages, calls, voicemail, emails, etc. that would arouse her unnecessary paranoia. Never give out or type your password when shes around (she might be watching your hands), and add her to your limited profile on Facebook, if she doesnt have any friends who can access your full profile (either that, or block/put everyone on a limited profile, get off Facebook, or dont accept any friend requests from people you dont know that might be her in disguise). Dont let her search documents on your computer; she might be searching for an IP address or files to incriminate you. Make sure your phone bill or credit card information remains confidential, so she cant track your records of where youve been, and what youve (possibly) done. That reminds me - whatever you do, make sure she doesnt buy a GPS system....2. Dont Be A Peeping Tom
When youre talking to her face-to-face, resist the temptation to look at attractive women. I know, its hard - its natural and needed for your eyes to move - but even if you try to peek at a woman subtly, she will notice the lustful tint in your eye that may be impossible to control. And other body language speaks, too. The only way you can sneak these in is if you can guarantee something to distract her for a long enough period of time ("Oh my god, its Zac Efron!" Hmm...What about, "Oh look, isnt that your best friends boyfriend kissing another woman?" Ding!)3. Bros Before "Hos"
Also, try to only restrict her contact with a few of your friends (and not the blabbermouth ones!) The more of your friends she knows, the more sources she can use to hunt you down (house=not good)! Is she attached to you, like a siamese twin is to her sister? Talk about disgusting places or things typically men would understand - perhaps member inquiries, business meetings, house league football games... Hey, you dont want to hear about our periods, right?4. Symptoms of A Psycho
Now, sometimes, its hard to recognize the controlling, possessive, jealous, crazy girlfriend prototype, when you just met or started dating her. Here are a few warning signs:a) She already memorizes or adjusts your schedule for you. (Youre a person; you have a right to privacy, you know. Eating, sleeping...)
b) She seems to turn up everywhere you are, even if you didnt make any plans meeting with her.
c) Shes a very insecure, needy person (this is why shes always questioning you; she doubts that anyone could commit to someone like her. In other words, she has low self-esteem). You can try complimenting her and showering her with gifts to make her feel important, but if shes extremely desperate or lacking in confidence, this might render a hopeless remedy.
d) She constantly contacts you, in any shape or form. (Beware of her emergency reasons for messaging you i.e. homework, health, family; it could just be a trap).
e) When youre together, she wont let go of your hand, or initiate PDA in front of people, especially girls. If she refuses to let you out of her sight, she wants you all to herself, because, psychologically, she might feel she has nothing without you. But, dont allow her to manipulate your vulnerability to her emotions. Shell keep on repeating it, in hopes of fulfilling the void in her heart that keeps on re-appearing.
And thats all I can say. Some "psycho" (ex) girlfriends dont display any of these symptoms - until the very last minute you "betray" them, and then they plot revenge, when you least expect it. Theyre that good at playing their game. Just dont give out your number or address to a girl you dont know, because if you do, just remember - she knows where you live...
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