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Save Your Marriage Infidelity Doesnt Have To Mean The End

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Of all the things that can tear apart a marriage, infidelity is one of the biggest reasons. Extramarital affairs are a betrayal of all the things that marriage is supposed to be about. A marriage is supposed to be a union of two lives, two people bonded together for a lifetime, and breaking that bond is one of the most difficult things to over come.
In a marriage, infidelity isnt just what happens when somebody begins a physical relationship outside of the marriage. Infidelity can also be emotional, when one of the partners in a marriage begins to share their life with someone outside the marriage.
This is known as emotional infidelity, and it has become an even more serious problem in the last few decades. One of the reasons for this is because workplaces, one of our prime social engagements in modern times, have become increasingly more mixed.
In addition to that it is even easier to communicate with people on the sly. Email and instant messaging and texting have all made it easier to bond with people that you shouldnt be bonding with. While this isnt the cause of emotional infidelity, it is a factor.
At the same time, physical infidelity has also become easier. We spend more time apart than we once did, and it is not at all uncommon to spend the majority of time at work, which gives us a very handy excuse when we make the decision to cheat in our marriage. Infidelity is a choice, make no mistake about that.
But the thing to remember is that all of these things are excuses and opportunities, not reasons. Changing the excuses wont change the marriage, wont solve anything. But that doesnt mean that you cant overcome cheating in marriage. Infidelity is a big problem, but it is not an insurmountable one.
The very first thing you need to do is to figure out what went wrong in your marriage. Infidelity isnt something that happens in a vacuum; there is always a reason when things like that happen. Something has broken in your relationship and it needs to be fixed in order to get past the cheating.
You need to make sure that you dont blame the other person. Yes, they cheated on you. No, it wasnt your fault. But you need to move past it, because playing the blame game will only delay the kind of emotional healing that needs to take place. You need to, as best you can, put it all behind you.
Once youve found out why and began work on it, you need to reestablish the trust in the marriage. Infidelity destroys trust, and its going to be difficult to repair what was been broken. You need to work on rebuilding the trust. Dont expect it to happen right away, and dont expect it to be easy.
But if you can follow these steps, you can save your marriage. Infidelity is terrible, but every relationship can be repaired. You just need to be willing to find the advice and the help you need to repair your relationship.
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Relationship Rescue

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Many people begin searching for relationship rescue tactics to try and bring back the spark they once had with a partner when the magic begins to fade. Over time, most relationships grow and change from the loving, romantic bond into a steady routine of daily rituals and habits. In some cases, those habits can make one or both people in the relationship feel as though theyre being taken for granted.

Some people may find that theyre arguing more often than theyre enjoying each other. Others may find that theres nothing left to say to each other or they simply fall into a daily pattern where everything else seems more important than the relationship.

Your relationship doesnt have to be this way.

Often the first avenue many people try in order to re-kindle a relationship is to try and bring back some of the romance. Intimate dinners and provocative lingerie are nice physical attempts at bringing you closer again, but they dont address on the inner, emotional reasons why the relationship may be strained. On the other hand, endlessly talking about your relationship rescue plans and tactics could potentially drive a wedge between you and strain the relationship even further.

There are plenty of relationship rescue tactics you can use to bring that loving spark back into your relationships. Here are some relationship rescue suggestions you can try to help get you back on the right track.

1. Appreciation
When the initial heady, romantic stage of any relationship begins to settle into a comfortable partnership, many people lose sight of the things they originally appreciated in their partner. They begin to focus on the things that irritate them or annoy them or make them mad.

Unfortunately, focusing on all the negative aspects of your partner can often bring about a feeling of resentment, which can lead to arguments and eventually the destruction of the relationship.
Its important to try and find things in your partner that you appreciate. You might appreciate their kindness or their sense of humor or their intelligence or whatever attribute attracted you to them in the first place.

2. Awareness
Live each day of your relationship as though it was the last day you have with your partner. Accidents happen when we least expect them. While this doesnt mean its going to happen to you, consider how youd feel if something did happen and today really was the final day you had together.

What would you regret most? What would you wish youd said or done or changed if you never had the opportunity to do them again?

Your answers to those questions should be the very same things you need to be doing with your partner each and every day. When you live each day as though it was your last, the romance will return almost immediately.

3. Communication
Your partner cant read your mind. Sitting in silence letting a problem brew until youre at bursting point wont make your partner see problems any more clearly and it can compound the negative emotions within you.
Its important to communicate with your partner about your expectations, your needs, your goals and ambitions, your disappointment and anger. Communication is about letting the other person know what youre feeling in a clear, non-blaming manner so that you can both be sure youre on the same page.

Relationship rescue is all about finding ways to be sure you understand and appreciate the little things you do for each other instead of focusing on the negatives. If you can communicate clearly and find ways to appreciate and support your partner, then your relationship rescue attempts will be rewarded.
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